..so my friend says that we women should try to hide their body flaws when in bed with a guy and i say that just brings attention to it. She says if you cover up or stay in the dark, it won't repulse them, and i thought they were just happy we're naked. so I got to wondering how much guys pay attention to our flaws, or if a girl's self conciousness gets in the way more. What DO you pay attention to. Saggy boobs, cellulite, fat butt, stretch marks, spider veins, love handles, body hair, big gut? Is there anything that makes you say,"oh,God, I changed my mind" or do you have a pretty good idea before you start. What has been the biggest surprise? Biggest let down. Do you like lights on or off? Do women think too much about it? Am I asking too many questions?
Please help us get into the minds of men and settle our curiosity.
2006-08-31 18:03:50 · 22 answers · asked by Jacqueline 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you strip off all your clothes in front of me, as long as you don't have a penis, I couldn't care less about any minor flaws. I'm not perfect either and no one truly is.
2006-08-31 18:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by dfhggd 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
I know you said only men, but I can't help but interject. I think if he really loves you, he'll be seeing you with his "love glasses" on. If not use candlelight and drink lots of wine and or smoke a little first to help you relax and get in the mood. This can help prolong him, and help you feel it more too. Besides, how many guys can say they're perfect? The man I love is over 60, I'm not even 50 yet. My body's along way from perfect, and so's his, and he's losing his hair besides, but baby, I don't even want to look at anyone else, so stop thinking that you need a perfect body! Anyone over 25 doesn't have one anyway! The sexiest part of your body is your brain, because that's where it all starts!
2006-09-01 01:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving men WAAAYYYY too much credit. How many guys do you think are fretting over the way THEY look? Guys have this way of seeing themselves as way hotter than they really are. Any real man, regardless of his age or looks, will not be turned off or freaked out over the way a woman's body looks, if they are, then they are either a weirdo or don't know anything about pleasure. I think the most important thing, honestly, to a guy is knowing he can bring a woman pleasure, so as long as you're moaning and letting him know you love what he's doing, he's gonna think you are a goddess. I know I'm not a guy, but hey...I've dated them. <3
2006-09-01 12:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by aliisdisturbed 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Years ago when I was a young man driving long haul I was dating a very nice girl for several months when I was passing through her area. One night she decided it was time to carry things to the next lvl and we ended up in bed. Now she had 2 requests 1 no lights... 2 her bra stayed on. Little strange but I agreed. What I didn't know was she had had cancer in one breast and had it removed hence the requests. I found out when a foam cup fell out of her bra much to my surprise. After her carrying on for awhile . I didn't care and the bra came off... Heck I figured half a set of toys was better than no toys at all.
2006-09-01 01:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually.. if its sex.. its sex... simple as that... You think too much.. if you just relax the guy usually knows what he's getting into... if you try and hide it you might bring attention to it.. so just relax and go wtiht the flow.. i think lights off would be a little nicer cos its a little more relaxing you know? So yea... and i din't even knwo there were that many flaws.. dudette... a woman is a woman.. beatiful as hell and lovely to look at.. even better naked and willing.. so yea.. stop thinking .. JUST DO IT.
2006-09-01 01:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Laura sez that men dont care what their girlfriends look like..they just want to see them naked. Who are these cads your so worried about? Uber men? Basically when the lights are on guys are probably more worried about their gut than yours. Besides we are constantly monitoring room temperature in a constant vigilence against "shrinkage"
2006-09-01 01:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by der_grosse_e 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I want to see as much as posible. If you have sagy boobs, I will notice eventually. You are better off letting me see up front. Women fo think too much. There are so few women that are Flawless. While it would be nice, I don;t think we expect women to be flawless after our first few
2006-09-01 01:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by billyandgaby 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife lost a breast to cancer had had it replaced. It looks good but there are scars. I told her she looks fine but she wanted others opinion. She started playing with other men to see if it bothered them and believe me, it did not bother even one of them.
Of course, it is pretty difficult for a guy to back away once she gets her lips wrapped around his c ck.
2006-09-01 14:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
my biggest turn off would be odor. even the slightest tinge of bad breath, pit, or from the south would kill my mood. any other 'bad' featrues i can deal with. lights on, or dimmed.
But best to discuss or hint before you 'surprise' them. if they know before hand and they still pursue, they'll be less surprised no matter how bad it is.
2006-09-01 01:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by daddygo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Saggy boobs, cellulite, fat butt, stretch marks, spider veins, love handles, body hair, big gut. I must say all these are turn-offs and any guy who says its the innner beauty that matters is bull-shitting. Looks matter a lot more so if your in the bedroom naked. I prefer lights on , I need to see to get turned on. Imagining and getting turned is as good as masturbation.But please be aware PERFECTION is NOT what we are looking for.
2006-09-01 01:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by bash 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Lights off and too many questions. Women think too much about it......don't worry...... the guy is there with you so be yourself and be comfortable
2006-09-01 01:20:44 · answer #11 · answered by cotes77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋