I just went away to college, and before I left I gave EVERYONE in my dad's close extended family my cell phone number and mailing address. My grandparents are the ones to spread family news have always been very cold to me and they have never really liked my dad either, so he and I are always the last to learn ANYTHING about what's happened. I came back for a family reunion like 2 months later and my sister had a 3 month old baby that I didn't even know existed, let alone knew she was pregnant. Why does no one tell me anything????? I'm really starting to get angry about this.
2006-08-31 18:02:15 · 18 answers · asked by Kaylie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is called 'Black Sheep Syndrome". This is when a dominate member of the family has decided that one person isn't good enough for the rest of the family. Since you are his offspring, you get to suffer through all the prejudice.
My suggestion is that you go to the source. Try to talk to her and let her know how you feel about the whole situation. Things should work themselves out from there.
2006-08-31 18:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Against all odds try and keep in touch with someone from your family, or a family friend, through letter writing, or emailing. Eventually somebody will write back. Perhaps talking to your sister could help. That was a very special moment to have a niece. Maybe even breakdown, and confront the grandparents.... sometimes people don't understand what are important to others. And if never told they will never know. All you can do is try...and try again.....either call from time to time... even if the conversation isn't so great..... but give it your best shot.
2006-09-01 01:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show or mentioned your concern of unhappiness that no one bother to update you anything. It is probably the usual way of not telling you and they thought it is alright. So they continue to keep you to be the last to know anything. On the other hand, you can act on it instead. Make a point to contact everyone at interval so you will not be felt left alone.
2006-09-01 01:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I share your feelings, as I too felt left out all my growing years as no one really bothered to stop by me or ask me how was I doing, as I was lost in my own pain and misery. I thought that was all there was to the world.
But as I have grown up, I have come to realize that there is lot more to the world than my own little life, and life goes on whether I am in it or not, and I am not at the center of the Universe, that everyone will be bothered about me, if I do not keep close to them, simply put in real world out of site is out of mind unless we stay connect through our hearts and make efforts to stay connected in one way or another.
So the onus of maintain close relationship with people we feel close to is ours solely, what others do is their problem.
The point is that if we want to get close to someone, we will make sure that we stay close, and then we have some with whom we are close relationship wise but with whom we can never connect or gel with, even that is fact. So it all depends on how close you feel, and how close you want to stay, as we grow up the fulcrum of maintaining a relationship moves close to us.
2006-09-01 01:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand that! Is your sister a lot older than you? That is something I thought all sisters shared, the birth of their own baby. Maybe they think you don't care about anything like that. Maybe they think you are too busy...I would just have to ask them what the problem is and get it straightened out!
2006-09-01 01:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to them, tell them how you feel. Tell them why they are not communicating with you. Why are there not telling you this kind of announcements.
Also make sure you have there phone numbers so you can actually try to talk them and they might be more open to you now that you are away.
You have the right to be mad; I would be pissed if that happened to me
2006-09-01 01:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds odd about the sister.... even if it was an "embarrassing" pregnancy. Your a sister and you have every right to know whats going on with your close family.
i think i'll need more details, though to help. All i can say right now, is you have every right to be upset.
2006-09-01 01:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is our family close? Well you should try and talk to them as an adult and let them know how you feel, and let them also know that you want to be involved with the family!
2006-09-01 01:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by angie1412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why some ppl do that but my family does it to I get along better with my inlaws than my blood family hang in there
2006-09-01 01:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by brandi.smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you belong to a dysfunctional family. Time for the therapist!
2006-09-01 01:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋