so i've liked this girl who has a cottage down the lake from mine, for a really long time. I go down there every weekend because our parents grew up together and the 26 kids down there love me. They do tease me and her alot because they found out that i have a major crush on their sister/cousin. the girl is a year younger than me but she is real mature. she however isnt into dating that much. she is always on my mind and i can't get over her. and this being the last weekend of the summer i want to finally make a move on her but i dont want to ruin our friendship or freak her out. Her family is huge and they are always around so it is tough to get her to talk alone. Should i make a move on her or back off? what would be an appropriate move to put on her? i need any advice you guys might have.
2006-08-31 17:49:39 · 15 answers · asked by Hockey51319 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't see any harm in letting her know how you feel. Don't come on too fast, though. Take your time, and don't pour it on too hard, if you know what I mean (don't flirt too much....you might scare her off if she's not ready). Just be careful.
2006-08-31 17:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would show up with a picnic basket, a blanket, and some flowers. Tell her that you are returning home and would like to spend a little time with her. If she accepts then you know she is at least slightly interested and then you can talk to her about how you feel away from her huge family. She may also have a crush on you but is afraid to express it around her family because she knows the teasing she would have to endure.
2006-08-31 17:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Mojo Risin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about any 'moves'. Just give her a lot of attention and get as much conversation going as possible. In this conversation, you shouldn't have to worry about 'making a move' either. Just let things happen as they should. Chances are that if you two hit it off and have good times together, she'll make time away from her family to hang out with you.
2006-08-31 17:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if she likes you she's probably waited the whole summer for you to make a move on her and now it's too late. Although...who knows. She still puts up with her. Why don't you at least get her number.
Also, don't fall for that "mature" crap. Nobody wants to act their age. You're only young once, enjoy it.
2006-08-31 17:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by nathancarson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do to much tell her you like her and see what she says if she doesnt feel the same way she will be flattered, and get over it. she is not going to give up your friendship because you like her. it will make her feel good and hay maybe even put that thought into her head. i had a friend like that we were friends for about a year i found out he liked me and it made me consider going out with him even though i had never though about him like that before. ( we are getting married in 2 weeks !) worst case she doesnt like you as long as you dont pour it on too thick and make her uncomfortabe she will get over it and your friendship will be fine
2006-08-31 18:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by annabella b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll you sound like an honest guy whose in love to me... here's what you do... ask ehr if you can talk to her for a second.. adn tell her exavtly wat you have said here "That you've always liked her and you really want to be with her. yOu know she's nto into dating but you would be sooo happy if she would just know how you feel and then ask her if maybe she'd like to go out soemtime or if not then maybe you could just be gilfriend boyfirend and keep in touch..."... somethign like that... GOOD LUCK DUDE!!
2006-08-31 17:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, just chill and be yourself. in the meanwhile have fun and hang out with other people, seems like you're setting the expectation high. you gonna end up very dissapointed when she doesn't feel the same way towards you.
2006-08-31 17:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by 21questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me personally being a minister i think that it would be in your best interest to tell her how you feel because she could have the same feelings for you and just not know how to express them.try it
2006-08-31 17:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by wanrev1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST LET HER KNOW THAT YOU LIKE HER. AND GO FROM
THERE SINCE BOTH OF YOU ARE CLOSE FAMILY FRIENDS
THEN IT WILL NOT BE SO HARD TO DO. NEXT TIME YOU
TOGETHER JUST CALMLY ASK HER OUT OR JUST TALK
TO HER.NO HARM IN THAT SHE MAY FEEL AS YOU DO.
2006-08-31 17:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel her ut by flirting a bit first...if she goes for it make a move......slow! Don't rush anything...maybe try to hold her hand first....might as well try if you won't see her again!
2006-08-31 17:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by KatieJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋