I met a man on the net, the trouble is, within not so long of getting to know him, he started declaring his undying and unconditional love for me and saying we could get married and have children. At first i didn't think he was serious, but then discovered that he was dead serious. By then I realised he may be a bit 'kooky' and did not speak to him for as long as I could. The trouble is, he keeps contacting me, begging me to take him back and saying he is heartbroken and depressed. I know what he is trying to do, trying to make me feel bad so I speak to him again. The trouble is I do feel bad. I have written several e-mails telling him what we had is over, but it makes him try even harder to beg me to come back to him. I have never met him or even seen a photo of him, so I know it is not 'very real'. What can I do?
2006-08-31 17:45:10 · 21 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you writing this guy emails back ? That is like throwing food to a hungry dog. If you really want to cut it off because he is going to fast and is being "kooky" .. then stop feeling guilty and just end it once and for all. Don't give this guy ANY personal info about you .. no address, no real last name, no phone #'s .. and place him on "ignore" or "delete" off your Yahoo or other chat programs you may have. If he gets through to you .. just ignore him .. as though he does not exist. Unless you want this guy chasing you around for another number of months .. then just END IT . Be real . Don't play games.
2006-08-31 17:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would stop all writing to him.. You know you cant fall inlove with some one you never met. so , find a real man and be happy. He is not the kind of person i want to continue talking to .. His thinking is a fantasy.. If he met you ,neither of you might not like each other .How can he want kids with some one he has never seen. think hard before you get in to something you will regret,,Fantasy some times lead to trouble.. back off and he will get the message.. take care
2006-09-01 01:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by hunt_lady46 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is definitely something that is not right with him. He sounds like a desperate soul if you ask me. Not because he likes you lol it is because he is already telling you that he is in love with you. It takes a lot more then just typing on the Internet to get to know a person. It is much easier to lie about one self when typing then it is actually talking in front of the person. You can iggy him if he is actually bugging you. When you go in the chat room and he tries to talk to you find the button that ignores him the problem is though you will never be able to talk to him unless he gets another screen name.
2006-09-01 00:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so proud of you. Keep standing your ground, only not as often. If you stop respondinging as much until you don't anymore, he should get over it. I think you did the right thing in ending it the way you did when you did. He does sound 'kooky' among other things. Good for you. Infact let me revise this. Send him one, maybe two more emails, max saying that you don't want to talk to him anymore end of story. You don't need to give any reasons. Just that you don't want to. Giving him reasons just gives him something to debate with you on. If he keeps on, completely ignore him until he goes away. Don't give in!!!!
2006-09-01 00:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've tried to be nice and that doesn't work. He is obsessed with you, and may be confusing that with love. He may be harmless but he definitely is off balance, so you can't predict what he'll do with any certainty. I'd block his e-mails if I were you, and if you have given him your phone number, change it. The last thing you need is him tracing you somehow so he can take his obsession to the next level. He may want you to think he is hurting, and maybe he is...but that is no reason for you to continue a relationship with him. You matter, too.
2006-09-01 00:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by flysilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say dont get caught up... it seems that you have no feelings for him, and why try again or something and keep feeling worse because nothing changes. It is good you are thinking about him, but you need to think about yourself FIRST! And if you do not like him then forget about him, there are tons of guys out there, and they arent crazy! Be careful whatever you do, especially with people on the internet.... i hope the best for you!! :o) c-ya
2006-09-01 00:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ LEILANI ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you are a good hearted person who cares about peoples feelings, but you need to love your self first. Espeshialy in a case that can lead to great danger. Why is it that bad things always happen to good people? This time prevent the bad from happening to you. It wll take a lot of dicipline but if you are asking for advice you are wise enough to know that you have to get out. YOUR feellings should come FIRST- Good luck!!!
2006-09-01 00:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by confused one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just cut off all and any contact. By you giving ANY response to him is only giving him hope that he can still talk you into going "back with him". So block his emails, change your number if you have to and I really hope he doesn't have your address otherwise you might want to get a restraining order...
But seriously, don't reply to him anymore. He should stop after awhile and if he doesn't, contact the authorities.
2006-09-01 00:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him on your ignore list. I know you do not want o be mean, but you can only say no so many times. He obviously cannot take a hint so I would stop having any contact with him. If he is thie obsessive over an internet relationship, it would be scary to see how he would act if he actually got your offline info.
2006-09-01 00:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Mojo Risin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what you are doing is a correct decision. You hardly know this person, he may be a fraud, so what you r trying to do is to ignore him....thats a right decision,you need to think of yourself first and it might be possible that he is pretending only and if that person is v. serious in reality then also its better for him to let you go as you dont have such feelings for him,,and by the time passes he will be ok.
So in any case ...your decision to ignore him is right. You have already written him so many times, now you dont need to right him again.
ALL THE BEST
2006-09-01 00:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by ritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋