I just want to be friends with my ex boyfriend but he insists on havin sex with me he just wont take no for an answer he says he loves me and all but i mean i just want to stop because I dont want to have that kind of relationship with him
He was my first love, the only person i had sex with and everything.
2006-08-31 17:36:07 · 29 answers · asked by sexygurl91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do it
2006-08-31 17:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by I love money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have to except no for an answer, if you don't go around. You will never be able to move on in life, if thats what you want. Any new bf you get, find you'll still seeing your ex..... they will never have a trust. Either make a choice to move on, and decide..... that you cannot even have a friendship with him any more, because you know now.... what he wants. The both of you must let go...... if you are apart.... and move on..... or carry it to the next level. You answer would be to tell him, and both stop depending on each other for that. If that is all there is left to your relationship it is not worth it to you or him. It is not GOOD for you or him!!! Just don't go......and stop talking to him......You both need to move on and let go of the past!!! An ex is an ex..... as hard as it is...... just say no, and don't go anywhere, or be alone with him. He has to take no for an answer........it is your giving in that keeps him coming back over and over.......You need to put the stop to it..... you have control of the wheel.... don't let it make you feel guilty..... Move on and let go of the past. It will be better for the both of you, rather than hanging on......to what???
2006-08-31 17:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know (from experience) that having sex with an ex complicates EVERYTHING. If he REALLY loves you, then he should be able to understand. I know it's a cliche, but it's true. He'll think that your there for his disposal and whenever he's horny, you're there for sex. At first it feels ok, because you love him, and he keeps telling you he loves you too, but then you begin to feel used. If you think you'll be with him again, then he can wait. If he determines whether or not he'll be with you based on any further sex rendevouz, then tell him NO.
*BY THE WAY, NOT TAKING "NO" AS AN ANSWER TO SEX IS CALLED RAPE*
2006-08-31 17:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by p!ng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've given in and let him have sex with you since you two broke up? Well that's got to stop. A firm no should do it. If he can't deal with it then kick his *** out of the house, or leave his, depending on where you are. If he can't deal with the rejection then pull yourself back from him. Some people can deal with being friends afterwards, some people simply can't let go. It sounds like he's one who just can't let go and by letting him have sex with you and be friends with you, doesn't that make breaking up with him useless?
2006-08-31 17:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want him to get over with then just leave him alone and not bother. But if you yourself think you want him in your life to be in touch with or not loose him forever then think about it. Whats the harm? Are you married? No!!! And you want him in your life?? Yes kinda!!! Then go do it....what the heck!!! when you are confused yourself, and you;ve got one foot here n other there, might as well try and find out what you really want. It all comes down to your own choice, its either a YES or a NO!! No in between sometimes.
2006-08-31 17:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mani Srivastava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't deal with him. He obviously wants no commitment just sex. That isn't love. Love is respect and he certainly doesn't respect how you feel. Do not give in, you will only feel terrible about it if you do. Move on with your life. Find someone that will treat you as you deserve to be treated. Take care...
2006-08-31 17:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by shar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He comes back because he knows that he can get it from you. Plan to be some where else when he shows up the next time. Go out with the girls or to a movie. Just don't put your self in the position anymore.
2006-08-31 17:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not usually big on ultimatums, but in this case, I think it's needed.
You should really tell him that if he cannot control himself, you two can no longer be friends. If he truly wants to remain friends with you, he'll respect your wishes and try to be more considerate. If not, I would abruptly tell him to **** off. Sounds harsh, but some people need a loud wake up call.
2006-08-31 17:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him in person, and if needed, put a restraining order on him through your local police department. Forcing you to have sex with him is also known as rape. Best thing to do with a case like this is to cut off all contact cold turkey. One final "goodbye phone call" ... and that is it . Period.
2006-08-31 17:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that you're not that type of girl to be going around ..Your relationship is over and that meens no sex as well ..
And if that doesn't work just tell him that you're in a relationship with someone else ...
Good luck to you !!
2006-08-31 17:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way he is going to have sex with you is IF you LET him, it does not sound like you are saying NO strong enough. If he won't leave you alone, get a restraining order, maybe then he will take you seriously.
2006-08-31 17:40:14 · answer #11 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋