So my gf for a year never had a problem with sex once we started when she was turned on she'd tell me (ect.) but we stopped for a little bit so that she could get on Birth Control to be safe, now that she's on it she doesnt seem to ever wanna have sex, doesnt tell me anything, and if plays games with me and tell me that i need to find out how to turn her on (ect) so now having sex is not really good for me because i really feel like she doesnt want to, wat should i do? and i dont wanna come across that all i cared about was the sex too cuz i do love her but its just so frustrating now. thanks
2006-08-31 17:33:36 · 8 answers · asked by empire_942 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women don't understand that just as their number one need is communication...a man's number one need is sex.
How would she like it if you went a month without talking to her?
But I feel your pain, a past girlfriend of mine was on birth control and her sex drive sunk like a rock. I tell you, there was no way in hell she was gonna get pregnant because we never did it! THAT STUFF REALLY WORKS!!!
2006-08-31 17:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Edward 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being on the pill changes a womans sex drive. For the worst if you ask me. I was on the pill for a long time. Ask her if there is something that really turns her on and do that.
2006-09-01 00:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, No one can make you bad or sad. You have control of your own mind. You have the authoritiy who is alowed free rent space in your head.
2006-09-01 00:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, first of all.... you jerk.
why is it that every time a girl does something a guy doesn't like all of a sudden we are playing mind games??? that is not a fair accusation.
let me tell you about my experience-
when my husband and i first started having sex it was great, then i was on birth controll and it wasn't that great anymore. sound familuar? i wasn't playing mind games with him. birth controll is a hormonal drug, operotive word there being HORMONAL. IT DUMPS HORMONES INTO YOUR SYSTEM! they can make you feel loopy and depressed and sometimes sex doesn't feel as good as it did before, and you can feel self consious.
i hope you didn't tell her you think she is playing mind games because if you did you just might have made things like 30 times worse. she is not playing mind games which is evident because she told you she needs you to do other things to turn her on. she is telling you what she wants and needs, so do it!
my pastor wrote a paper on sex for men and women. in it he says what each partner needs. for women it was like, flirt, woo, buy gifts, give flowers, beg, plead, bedazzel, cuddle, date, ect, ect. just this huge list for what men need to do for women. you know what us women need to do according to him? pretty much just show up naked. women need more then men. just be sweet to her and be supportive and don't EVER suggest that she is playing mind games with you because you are likely to just drive her deeper into a funk and it will be that much harder for her to open up to you.
2006-09-01 00:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
we like games (especially the ones we always win)
2006-09-01 00:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by Shameless Women's Advocate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and figure out the root of the problem
2006-09-01 00:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by steve w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask "what has she done for you lately?" then find someone who will.
2006-09-01 00:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by *I CURED My Yellow Teeth* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dumb her.
2006-09-01 00:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋