We've always spent a weekend away for each of our birthdays. My parents give us the gift of babysitting for the weekend so we can get away twice a year for some alone time, but now the kids are at an age where they are starting to understand that they are not spending mom's birthday with her. They are 5 and 3.
2006-08-31 16:49:55 · 17 answers · asked by JustJake 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No honey, you shouldn't be feeling guilty. Lots of parents take weekend getaways without the children. However, if they notice the birthday, then maybe celebrate with wife and the kids one night over dinner with a small cake right before your weekend getaway. This way they can have cake and eat it too!
2006-08-31 16:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them at home, life is pain and the sooner they learn that, the better off they'll be. No, I'm just kidding. You do need to get some alone time with your wife, but you should also have a birthday party with the kids, either before or after your weekend getaway. And sometime you should take your kids on a weekend getaway too. Kids love going on trips.
2006-08-31 16:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you feel guiltier if she had to spend her birthday caring for the kids? Heck, they will probably enjoy the vacation away from you all as much as you all will enjoy your time without them! Just start hyping up the trip to Grandma's a little ahead of time. They can celebrate with Mom a little before or after the actual day.
Take her somewhere FANTASTIC!
Happy Birthday to her! You kids have fun!
2006-08-31 16:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by hrhtheprincessofeire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason to feel guilty for having a weekend away to be lovers and not parents. Since the kids are so young, they have no concept of the date, so perhaps you could have a little birthday celebration before you go away. They will feel a part of the festivities, and you will get your weekend.
2006-08-31 16:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Renae 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya just gotta go. It's important for a couple to have some time alone. It's more likely that your kids feel left out of this weekend trip period, and not regarding Mom's birthday. They know you are going away to have great fun, and they can't go. let them do their own stuff for her, but go always on your trip. Stay married!
2006-08-31 17:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then the kids are old enough to understand that the weekend trip is a "special" present" Go and have a great time -- the kids get to spend a special weekend with Grandma and Grandpa
2006-08-31 16:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by noway983 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could spend her birthday with them and go away on the following weekend, once anyway. It is important for the kids to be with mommy on her special day. Maybe you could have a special birthday breakfast the morning of her b-day, and then go on your get-away.
2006-08-31 16:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by lisa s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though it depends on individual values i personally feel that its not right. Children are as much a part of thier mother's birthday and after marriage its the family who should celebrate occasions like this an dnot just you and your wife. I think you are right when you think that kids do understand and yes they do! These are family bonding times and you should not be selfish in enjoying the company of your wife. I think she too would miss her children
2006-08-31 16:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the journey that your youngest infants are 3 and four i'm guessing he hasn't been divorced very long. mixed families are hard. It seems such as you have a stable marriage yet for the infants it is going to constantly be a broken domicile. in the journey that your husband feels undesirable in keeping with risk he might desire to talk to his ex spouse approximately having his infants sleepover at your place on particular nights throughout the time of the week.
2016-11-23 17:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do something small with the kids a dinner and cake exchange gifts but still have your weekend together you guys need some alone time too.
2006-08-31 16:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋