I think I do. My mom's brother is married to the greatest woman ever. I love my uncle and his wife more than my mother and grandmother. I can talk to them about anything and we have so much in common. My aunt's family is also wonderful. They are so close and nice with such a traditional family setting I crave at home.
Is it right? Maybe I just love their relationship to eachother and me more than my parents?
2006-08-31 16:14:20 · 10 answers · asked by Ali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you can love who ever you want and nobody can do a thing about it
2006-08-31 16:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by jjtrdx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from. I have also been in the same situation with my family but just different family members than you. My parents were never the type to show love or the attention that I craved. Most of my Mom's family was just like what I needed. I loved all of them so much because I could talk to them about anything and I do mean anything. We can laugh and have such a good time. They show their children how much they love them with little things that I always have craved. For example: just telling them they love them, showing a interest in their life, wanting to be there for their kids, and they joke around all of the time. It is so neat and makes me feel loved. I love my parents very much and I know that they love me in their own way, but it would feel so nice if they would just show me or tell me once in a while. It isn't wrong to love your in-laws alot, but you will see that in time you really love your Mom just as much. It is just a different kind of relataionship. You seem to crave love, attention and what should be a traditional family setting. I always have too, but I had to learn to accept my parents for the way that they are. You will only have one true set of parents and it has really messed me up some that my parents never showed me the love that I needed. But it made me even a better person. I show the people that I love just how much I do love them. And I show them alot. It's okay to love your other family members, in fact it is great. But I think you are alot like me, you wish that your parents was more like your other kin folks. Don't feel guilty. As you get older, you will understand your parents alot more. I do.
2006-08-31 16:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a wonderful Aunt and Uncle too. I dont love them more, but I sure like them better. Think yourself lucky to have an Aunt and Uncle so wonderful.
Just realize that Aunts and uncles, grandparents and other relatives have a different kind of love for you. Your parents have to be harder on you, they are going to be more difficult because they are trying to raise you right. Other family members seem nicer, because they can be friends with you and they dont have to parent.
2006-08-31 16:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Mcy, these people are your biological family. And your husbands family are your in-laws. It is very possible to care a great deal about other people than your immediate family (mom and dad) I get along with all my family members on both sides, but I still have my favorites. My moms brother (my uncle) is my favorite uncle out of all of them that I have. But I still love my parents very much.
2006-08-31 16:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. You can't help who you feel close to. If you can't talk to your parents but you can your aunt and uncle then that's OK. I hope that everything to work out for you. Don't worry about the way you are feeling because it's only normal.
2006-09-01 15:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by cdavis257 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it this way, you don't get to choose your own parents -- you love them because they were always there. But you can love other people because of what kind of people they are -- these are the people you get to choose to have in your life so the relationship feels different. It's a different kind of love.
2006-08-31 16:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. As screrwed up as my in-laws are I asctually get along better with my in-laws thasn my own family. My in-laws actually accept me better-- and that's really scary considering there's basically a civil war going on with my in-laws just because I married one of their family. Go figure.
2006-08-31 16:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people you are describing are not your in-laws if they are your mothers siblings. In-laws are your husbands family. And sure you can love them more and there is nothing wrong with it.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 16:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say I love them more. But my hubby's family is pretty incredible, they are so giving and supportive that I feel closer to them than I do my own family.
2006-08-31 16:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i love my boyfriend's parents more than my own, there's nothing wrong with that
2006-08-31 16:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by mexicanabeibi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋