Rents' how would you like to be told your 15 y/o is pregnant?

Question

So tomorrow I go to the DR. I am wondering if the dr. says im pregnant how i should break it to my parents. I was responsible about it and was taking my b/c regular (was not for sex purposes..health issues) or so i thought i was being responsible...if I was your child how would you like to be told, its not something any parent would want to hear.( I have been hiding my sicknesses and illment so they couldnt catch on but the other day i told them im sick and need to go to the dr.)

abortion is out of the question and im thw one who f-ucked up not my child and I am preparing to be the mother of this child....adoption doesnt work for me either, because I once felt like an ophran myself.

Answer 1

I would be upset, but what I would like to hear wouldn't be I want an abortion. It would be Mom I messed up and I am sorry but I am pregnant. I am sorry but I need your help deciding what to do. There are MANY people out there that would love to have your child if you are unable to take care of a baby. Please don't try to hide this much longer as it is unhealthy for the baby.

Answer 2

You sound like a very mature 15 yr old. As a mother of a 2 yr old girl my mother's instinct was if that was me omg. After the first shock your parents should be more understanding. Understand this when you have the baby you have to go back to school and get a part time job (rarely as a 16 yr old would you get more than part time) You need this job for diapers and to pay the baby sitter. There are lots of teen parents programs out there and you can get on WIC (woman infants and children-they give you coupons for milk and baby food). Hopefully your parents would support you (emotionally primarily but you are going to need some help financially)When you are old enough you are going to want to move out and have your own space as well. Parenting is a big responsibility and I'm glad you are looking at it maturely (even if I can't spell it ) The best way I think is to sit them down and say mom, dad, the reason I've been sick is because I"m pregnant. Then wait for the shock to get over. Don't scream and yell. Talk like the mature adult you are trying to be (it'll be really really hard). OH and one more thing. You need to talk to dr about stopping birth control if you are. For now....don't sweat it unless he says you are ok?? Good luck and try to let us know!! I'll pray for you hon. I was 18 when I had a miscarriage and never told my parents....breaks my heart but God granted 2 beautiful children. Good luck.

Answer 3

I had my son at 14 and 9 months. I didn't tell my parents until I was 3.5 months pregnant. I love my son with all my heart.

My life changed and will never be the same, I now work 6 days a week, I'm single (and can't see that changing anytime soon), and have been on my own since he was 1 year old. I now have some quolifications but would like to have had the opportunity to do things around the "right" way eg: date, work after school, go to uni at 18 not 25, take a job I like not a job I have to, to feed my family, fall in love and make the choice to start a family with a person I look at and think I could spend the rest of my life with.

You have to make some huge choices, think about what you want in life and what you are able to provide a child eg: stability, time, emotional strength, security.

Answer 4

Needless to say, you shouldn't be having sex--protected or otherwise--at 15! Have mom go to the doctor with you and wait in the waiting room. If you are pregnant, have mom come in and tell her in front of the doctor. As a parent, I know I would be more likely to "roll with it" in front of the doctor.

I don't know what you mean by an "illment" but I am going to be blunt here: You don't sound very well educated to me, and I think keeping your baby would probably be a mistake. HOWEVER, there are lots of couples looking to adopt; you should explore that option thoroughly. Think of it as taking your "disaster" and turning it into something positive for you, the baby and the adoptive parents. Then, finish high school, go to college, get a good job, get married and start a family with the man you love, secure in the knowledge that the child you COULD NOT RAISE is safe, secure and loved and getting the best his parents can give him.

DON'T have an abortion...you are so young and this will scar you forever. Give the gift of life to your baby, and the gift of your baby to a couple who wants one.

Good luck. Hopefully, you aren't pregnant. If you aren't, remember how scared you were and DON'T HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO BE FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL THE CONSEQUENCES.

Good luck & God bless.

Answer 5

Any parent would be diappointed to hear their teen is pregnant. They understand, more than you can, the amount of time, effort, energy, money and patience raising a child takes. This is a completely life changing event and unfortunate when a teen who still has high schools, proms, dating, college, and other important monumental life experiences ahead of her.

Unfortunately, it happens. You sound like you are taking a responsible and reasonable approach which is respectable. I hope you are not singing a different tune when your newborn needs you and your friends want to go to the movies. Really think about what you are committing to and be sure of the choices you make.

If you are pregnant, the responsible thing to do would be to straight out tell your parents and ask for their support with whatever decision you make.

If not, be more careful with precautionary measures in the future. If you are on B/C like you say, and taking it as directed, there would be a VERY slim chance you are pregnant.

Good luck hon...

Answer 6

As a parent, I speak of what it's like when your child delivers such bad news. Being pregnant is just a part of why parents fall apart when told. It's a complete loss of innocence of my child, knowing she's been sexually active. It's a loss of my dream for my child, the one I wanted to go to University and do something fabulous with her life, more than what I accomplished. It's shame brought to the family when others learn that my 15 year old daughter is in a predicament and the questions will come - where did I go wrong? How could I have not prepared my daughter so that this doesn't happen? After the initial shock your parents will have to go through a huge process of dealing with what you've just given them. First find out for sure if you are pregnant and then just sit them down and say the words - be ready to run for your life if violence is a part of your everyday world at home. Be ready to feel as low as low can be if they lay a guilt trip on you. But be ready also to have your parents love you and support you after they've come to terms with reality. One last word of advice - this is your body and your future - you decide if you want a child or not, you can carry the child to term and there are so many loving families wishing and hoping for a chance to give their love to a child, or you can have an abortion, but research what happens to other women and girls who abort and see if you can deal with the aftermath of such a huge decision. You can - with help - raise the child and he or she can be loved deeply by you and your family - which is what happened when my baby sister got pregnant at 16. Our "oops" baby is now 28, a wife and a mother herself after going through college and becoming a nurse.

Answer 7

WHY are you children not using condoms? Is it because your boyfriends complain that it ruins the "feel" of sex? This is just hogwash!

Do you know that teenage boys have contests going between themselves to see how many kids they can produce, and how many girls they can have pregnant at the same time? I kid you not. I heard this on the bus, and I went ballistic! This one black kid was saying that he's only 17 years old, and he already has 17 kids, with 2 more due in just a couple of months. I just stood up and started yelling at this kid that as far as I was concerned some parent should drag him into a dark alley and cut it off. I wanted to know what he was doing to support all those kids, and whether he even sees them. And then a black woman my age jumped up when the kid tried crowding me, and said she'd help hold him down if I wanted to cut him right there. We had a near riot happening on that bus with all the mothers wanting to teach these kids a lesson.

So, I say again...whatever happened to using condoms? Do you know that you can get them for free at any planned Parenthood clinic? EVERY WOMAN should be using them. The serious upswing in STD's is staggering. Do you know that there is an near epidemic of Syphilis in teenagers these days? And if left untreated it can lead to permanent damage to the nervous system, heart and brain. It can even KILL you.

I suggest you tell your parents as soon as possible. They are not so far beyond their own wild teens that they would fail to sympathize somewhat.

Answer 8

well, you can't hide it much longer, you need to just come clean with them. you are going to feel so much better after the weight is lifted off of your shoulders. i know that it is not going to be easy, so i wish you the best of luck with telling them. just remember to be honest with them, that is the best thing that you can do for them right now.

now, onto the important thing, the baby. if it comes back that you are pregnant, then you are going to have to decide what you would like to do with this child. there are options out there for you. you need to pick what the best one is for YOU AND YOUR CHILD. you can't make a decision to make someone else happy. Then the rest of your life you are going to wonder if you made the right choice or not.
I would sit down with a piece of paper and write the pros and cons of each of your decisions. then take a good look at it right there in black and white. I did this when I was young and pregnant with my daughter. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. I decided that I was going to keep her (and had a lot of support from my family), and she is now 6 and going into 1st grade
on tues. I am glad that i made the decision that i did, i don't know what i would do without her.
if you have time try to prepare this list before you go and talk to your parents, that way they will know that you have been thinking about this. Good luck to you, and i wish you and your child the best.

Answer 9

if they are ones taking you to the doctor than be straight forward and tell them it's possible ahead of time. have you taken an over the counter test. I'd like my daughter to trust me enough to tell me the truth. " I'm pregnant and I don't know what I'm gonna do with the baby yet but i'd like your support regardless of my decision. "

i just saw your adoption comment and i respect your feeling but if you have the childs parents selected before birth and have an open adoption it's kind of like the child has four parents not like being an orphan. - my husband had his first child at 13 and she has a better life now than i could wish to provide for the other five we have. We talk to her and see her all the time.

Answer 10

I would rather be told, and have my daughter be honest with me. Parents only want to help their children, and if you are pregnant, they SHOULD only want to help you make the best decisions for you, for now and into the future.

I would like to be told directly, it would help me to believe that although you are pregnant, you are being responsible, not only for yourself, but for the feelings of all involved, and like it or not, your parents ARE involved.

So just be direct and honest... and believe in your parents, they DO love you.

But I do admit, that first reactions can be dramatic. I wish that there were an easy answer for you. I hope and pray that this works out for your best interest. If you ever want to talk to a non-biased parent, send me an email or an IM, I will be happy to talk.