hi i am a 14 year old freshman i have this friend that i like a lot and a while ago all her friends said she liked me so i asked her out and she said not now well later her friend told me it was because her parents would not let her until she was 16 wel now we are still 14 and r good friends but i still rly like her i thought i was over her but i am not and she now has has told me she likes me and we talk on aim A LOT but when its in person every thing is so awkward anyways i just want to know ur advise anything will help conversation starters anything thx alot. o and also we dont go to the same high school but we see each other at church
2006-08-31 16:06:48 · 9 answers · asked by help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SO WAIT UNTIL YOUR 16----WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?
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2006-08-31 16:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by alice b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably feels more awkward because you don't see each other as often; and because you're at church, so you can't speak as freely as you might elsewhere.
So when you are face-to-face, ask her about something that interests her (based on the AIM conversations), and let her do the talking. Pay attention while she's talking, because not only does it show that you care, but the clues for what to talk about are in the things that she says. To keep the conversation going, all you have to do is say, "Tell me more about ___" and let her talk some more. Teenaged girls usually love to talk, so as long as you ask open-ended questions, you probably won't have to say much.
But like I said - LISTEN when she speaks... that's the key to being a good friend and a good boyfriend. When you do speak, be yourself! Don't try to fake anything or say things that you think she wants to hear. Be genuine, but also considerate when speaking. That way you won't find yourself complaining later that she doesn't really know you or like you for who you are (usually when people complain about that, it's their own fault for not being real from the start!)
Also, get to know her parents and be very respectful of them. Let them see that you are a good kid, and a good friend to their daughter. That is how you can establish trust with them, so if you and she do progress from friendship to more than friends one day, they will feel more comfortable with you.
Hang in there, and good luck!
2006-08-31 23:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you're looking for. Obviously you like her and there's nothing that can come from it--unless you want her to go against her parents wishes. You're really young to date anyway. I'd say she's got good parents and maybe you should consider that too.
When you encourage your feelings, you are only making things worse. I know, you don't wanna hear this, but you HAVE to stop. If you really care about her, you will treat her as only a friend and stop encouraging this crush.
If you are really serious about getting over her, here's what you do--control your thoughts, aviod her a little more, don't talk to her unless you have to (like you don't have to im her all the time--you're just encouraging your crush), and TELL her that you only want to be friends.
It will be rough at first, but with time, you will be able to move on. Honestly it's the best thing you can do. Once you stop liking her, it won't be awkward either. Maybe when she's 16, you'll be able to go out with her then.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 23:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so highschool. It's normal and it happens to the best of us. I am glad that it still happens, that means there is still some innocence left. Take it slow. The slower the better. If you have a foundation for a relationship it can grow to be very strong. Just do some play flirt, tapping hands or footsie. you have the break the ice someway and it's so fun.
2006-08-31 23:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Mr if you really really really really like this girl as you say you do then you will stick to her, maybe one day she will throw away her parents rules and just go with her feelings, but if she is a stricked believer in following her parents then you will just have to wait until your 16. if you lose interest then you know what? you didn't really like her as much as you thought you did... you never lose interest in someone you really love.
My advice is to be true with your feelings and if your heart is saying her name well then stay friends because the best thing in life are relationships no matter kind and you should be happy to one with her whether it be romantic or friendly it still is something isn't it?
2006-08-31 23:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by kristyLovesDavid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.... well i would probly just wait till she can date cuz if the parents find out u 2 r gettting 2gether without there permision that is an automatic no 2 dating in the future
2006-08-31 23:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would continue to talk to her about her goals your goals, Hobbies, What is it that makes her laugh, what makes her mad. Etc, Atleast you know you both like eachother and if you two spend time together at church and her parents know you that then maybe they will let you two date,,,,,,Good luck
2006-08-31 23:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can wait and wait until she is 16 yrs of age ....
2006-08-31 23:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the parents don't know won't hurt them!!! So go for it ;)
2006-08-31 23:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋