Im not foreign I am a single soon to be mom. I dont know how I will be able to work and take care of my baby when she is born. I live with family and need to get up on my feet, and the father is not in the picture he is not someone I would want my baby to be around and I am scared if I try to get child support if that means he will get rights to see the baby. Anyways I was just curious as to what some of the requirments were to get on welfare so if anyone has any answers they would help out a lot. thanks
2006-08-31 16:03:59 · 18 answers · asked by xtinanders 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
LET ME FIRST TELL YOU CHILD SUPPORT AND VISITATION HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ONE ANOTHER. MY SONS FATHER HASNT SEEN HIM IN YEARS (BY CHOICE) BUT IS GOING TO COURT SEPT. 11 FOR NON PAYMENT. IF YOU HAVE A COURT ORDER HE HAS TO PAY EVEN IF HE DOESNT SEE THE CHILD AND HE PROBABLY WONT WANT TO AFTER A FEW TIMES OF HAVING TO TAKE CARE OF A BABY BY HIMSELF. JUST GO TO YOUR LOCAL DEPARTMENT OF FAMILY AND CHILDREN AND APPLY. CHANCES ARE GOOD IF YOU ARE NOT WORKING AND ABOUT TO GIVE BIRTH THEY CAN HELP. PLUS WHEN YOUR READY THEY CAN HELP WITH DAY CARE. MY SISTER HAS WORKED AND IS RAISING A 2 YEAR OLD LITTLE GIRL ON HER OWN AND SHE GETS HELP WITH DAY CARE SHE PAYS 2 DOLLARS A DAY FOR IT. THEY WILL ALSO PURSUE CHILD SUPPORT FOR YOU AND ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SIGN THE PAPERS. IF HE WANTS VISITATION HE HAS TO GET AN ATTORNEY AND TAKE YOU TO COURT. DO YOU REALLY THINK HES GONNA DO THAT ? I DONT CAUSE HE'S PROBABLY TO INTO HIMSELF. ITS NOT HARD TO GET HELP IF YOU REALLY NEED YOU JUST NEED TO WALK IN AND ASK FOR AN APPLICATION AND GO FROM THERE. YOU CAN DO THIS SWEETIE ON YOUR OWN I SEE IT EVERY DAY WITH MY SISTER AND I KNOW YOU CAN DO THE SAME. WE WOMEN ARE STRONG!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 17:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by bigmommanova 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
okay...let me get rid of some of the answers that have aready been posted.
first off, the welfare program isn't what it used to be. they will not just let you sit on welfare and stay home. you HAVE to go to work, school and they will set you up with daycare. in time, you will be off of welfare.
second, child support services could care less if the father of the child sees the baby or not. they do not handle custody. they only run after the father for money.
by all rights, both parents have joint custody of the child unless there is paperwork filed with the court to say otherwise. so, take your rear end to court and file full costody right NOW! apply for a fee waiver if you can't afford the cost or ask for a payment plan. you can even hire a paralegal to file all the paperwork for you if you can't figure out what you are doing. if he wants rights to see the baby, he can have them. i'm sorry, but i hate to break it to you, but you cannot prevent him from being in your child's life unless he proves a harm to the child directly. he could have beaten the crap out of you and the judge will still let him have visitation.
because you are pregnant, you will have a better chance of getting some assistance. but they will find you work and put you to work. so this is no longer a free ride.
2006-09-01 02:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the father of the baby wants to support you and you don't have any money i would say that you must give him a change. i understand what you saying and all but I honestly don't think that welfare is going to be an option here reason why I'm saying this is your child's father is still alive and he is not disabled. i really do respect the fact that you don't want anything to do with him but atleast let him be there to support your child then you don't have to live on welfare there are so many others that really needs that money.
Posh
2006-09-01 06:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by free2b_posh 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey..don't listen to these a s s holes!! Taking taxpayers money?!?!?! HA!! Have you ever had a job? Then you are a taxpayer. So what if you need a little bit of help. I did!! People don't understand that you can't work right away. DER!! You people need to back off. Have you never had a rough patch in your life?? Why not ask the government for a bit of help?!?!?!
Anyways..you should go to the Division of Social Services and sign up for Medicaid, and foodstamps. They will direct you to the WIC (women,infants,and children) office. They provide assistance with Formula and rice cereal and odds and ends (foodwise). Although, I highly suggest getting a job as soon as you can after the baby comes. Its definetly not easy to take care of a child without a job. You still have to find a way to get diapers and stuff.
As for the deadbeat....take him to court!! You can ask for SUPERVISED visitation as he is unfit for this reason....blah, blah, blah (whatever your reason for not wanting him to be around)
He needs to support his child. Don't take on this HUGE responsibility on your own. It takes 2 to tango. I have been in your situation when I was 17-18, pregnant with my first child, and no daddy. My son is now 3 and his father has never seen him, but I get a check in the mail most months. Not alot, but, more than I wanted.....I didn't want his money at all. Now, I am glad to take it and go buy something nice for my son. He deserves it!! Good Luck! And if you need to talk to someone who understands, e-mail me.
2006-09-01 00:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by hello_heather_03 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think its sad that you let some man father your child, want his financial support, but don't want him to have rights to his child. Stop being selfish and denying your child what he/she deserves.
So you made a bad choice. If you really need welfare, get on it and get off. People here have negative comments because so many girls are abusing the system by birthing kid after kid they know they can't afford. Be the exception...try hard to stand on your feet, be a great mother and let your kid have rights to his father if they can amend.
2006-09-01 01:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to your local Department of Human Services (sometimes called Family and Childrens services) You just fill out an application and they can answer all these questions for you. Don't be afraid to go to them. They are there to help you, not judge you. As for the father getting visitation rights, he would have to hire an attorney and sue you for it. It's a hassle, and if he's not in the picture now, he probably wouldn't bother with that much of a hassle. Most dudes like that give up on visitation when they see it's gonna cost them money! Dept. of Human Services can also help you get child support, and you won't have to pay an attorney. Don't wait.....go to them now. You probably qualify for wic or food stamps now. Good luck
2006-09-01 01:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i admire you for wanting to get help for you and the baby some people see they have no way and they want to put it up for adoption so get on line and check out they welfare requirements for your state and then go from there more than likely he will get rights to see the baby if you do ask for child support but here in my state if you have info about him and want to put him on child support then they do all the paper work and you don't have to go to court good luck to u both P.S don't let some of these people get to you about wanting to get welfare because if they really needed it then they would get it i know i still do it helps out a whole lot i have have 3 kids but i do work so it is not all bad
2006-09-01 01:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by sassyladytee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not the only one in this situation. I don't want my son's father around either. I don't think you should get on welfare. From what I hear, it is very hard to get on and stay on. If you work, you will be taken off of welfare. Just hustle and have faith and you and your baby will be fine. Don't get stuck relying on food stamps and welfare. Try it on your own. Don't take the easy way out. Think about the baby, do what is best.
2006-09-01 01:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by young_buck_gurl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you feel that way about him you shouldnt have concieved with him even though it was prolly a mistake. However you can fill out the paperwork at you local human services office and they will get you the help that you need. If you can prove he is unfit you can take away his parental rights, or claim you dont know who it is. But in most cases if you get state help you will have to go after the father for support. And for all those people who tell you that your wrong for getting state help, dont listen to them. It takes more guts to ask for the help you need now to get up on your feet then to make your child go without. Just make sure that you get going on your own soon. I understand completely where you at.
2006-09-01 15:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by pamish1 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to contact the department of jobs and family services fill out a application. In order to get state assistance YOU HAVE TO FILE for child support the state will not allow A single mom to get state money without filing against the father BY LAW YOU HAVE TO FILE ON HIM for support if you go in saying you don't know the father they make you tell them possible fathers they DNA test them SO best to just tell them. Yes if he pays he can file to see his kid.
2006-09-01 00:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by mandie_darkness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, recieving child support DOES NOT grant the father any rights to see the child. HE would have to file for rights with the courts. (as long as you are not married when the child is born). As for requirements for welfare,
1. Low income and proof to go along with it.
Here is a list of things you will need to apply.
1. Proof of income
2. Photo ID
3. Social Security Card
4. Your Birth Certificate
5. Proof of Pregnancy with Due date
6. Proof of Residency
7. Any and all Utilities that are in your name.
8. Any and all expences you pay on a monthly basis.
9. Since you live with family, a statement from them stating your living arrangement, whether you pay rent, utilities, buy your meals seperately, etc.
I know some people may be rude about this situation, so just try to ingnore them. I am a single mom of 2, one that is autistic. I was left homeless by their father 3 days before my second was born. I got on welfare and went to college. I couldn't imagine trying to raise 2 kids, work full-time and go to school full-time. It was hard, but I did it. Also, I will recommend trying to get into low income housing. Life might be less stressful having your own place. THe lists are long sometimes, but it doesn't hurt to apply. Sometimes you get lucky and only have a short wait.
Congratulations on your baby. I wish you the best of luck, and remember that it will be stressful at times, but it gets better, I promise.!!
2006-08-31 23:29:53 · answer #11 · answered by jennylove21326 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋