a good relationship with your 11year old daughter?
2006-08-31 15:28:59 · 15 answers · asked by adel e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You try and set a good example for her. But you also realize that she is getting near the age where mom is going to know less and less but her friends and herself are going to be smarter than Darwin or Einstein. Ah, remember the youth. Sorry for reminicing there for a moment. You should be there to be an ear when she needs to share her deepest secrets and the worlds biggest problems. You should always, or as much as possible, tell her how proud you are of her. If she should fall then your there to help her up if she wants help, but if she wants to try and limp off on her own then you allow it. Motherhood is not something that I would envy but fatherhood isn't that easy either. Ha! Try and be a parent and not a best friend. She is going to have enough friends and she will need disipline and boundries and your the one that will be responsible for this. Sure she will probably get angry with some of the decisions that you make on her behalf but as she matures she will see that you were a lot smarter than she ever realized and will be grateful for the limits you placed on her. Best of luck to you and stay strong because it is just beginning. Oh, and try and remember being that age yourself.
2006-08-31 16:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with your daughter now, you are doing something right. Keep parenting. She needs to know you love her and trust her. She is getting older and with in the next year she is going to want more time by herself. sniff sniff.
Talk to her, get to know about her friends and school. My daughter talks my ear off. Music videos, boys, clothes and friends. She talks to me like I am a friend, she loves to be with her Mom. I take her out to eat or for a walk around the mall. That way she is forced into talking to me.
I try to explain why when I say No. That way when I tell her she cant go to the movies without a parent. She understands, she doesnt like it, but she knows I am not just being mean.
2006-08-31 23:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take an interest in the things that are important to her. Sing and act silly with her. Start a hobby together. Guide and teach her. Do homework with her. Hug, kiss, and tell her daily how much you love her. Read Teen Beat together. Have girlie time where you do make up, hair, and paint your toes. Have lunch with her at school. Be involved with her school. Spend time together teaching her things like how to cook, clean, and do laundry. Send her a card in the mail (kids love getting mail). Take a walk together. Teach her to respect you. These are a few that come to mind.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 22:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her individual attention. Take her with u when ur doing small chores. Take care window shopping. Ask her to invite her firends over. Never stop being affectionate, kids crave attention no matter the age. Whenever I call my parents and dad tells me he loves me and I'm his little girl, it makes me feel good. It's a hard age, but keeping the lines of communication open is key.
2006-08-31 22:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her, critize her behavior but never critize her.keep up the communication that is the big part as they get older they want to know they can count on you and go to you when something happens. they mayt act like they can handle everything but they cant and they want someone to run to.Do fun things together just take the day just ofr t hem and hang out dont worry about talking about your work, school just make it fun for them, bake cookies or cakes or something if she has an email account find out what it is and send her little love notes on there to let her know you are thinking of her, dont treat her like a baby she is in that transistion age treat her like she is almost a teen i mean dont let her get away with things but she needs her privacy she needs her space best of luck and most important just be that cool mom she needs
2006-08-31 23:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jon and Nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must first and foremost be a parent, not her friend. Be a loving parent, talk to her, listen to her. Play hooky from school every once in a while, just you and her. This is special time that she'll never forget. Listen to music together, belt them out in the car together. Just spend quality time together. If she doesn't appreciate it now, she will definitely remember and appreciate it when she's older:)
2006-08-31 23:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to understand her points of view, about what she think and believe;and trying to be a good friend,as also a good (father or mother);and respecting her always.Listening her always.Communication is always the key.
2006-08-31 23:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend quality time with her! Play games, do crafts together, go to the park, talk, if she is involved in an activity, support her.
2006-08-31 22:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by happy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk,talk, and more talk!!! need to keep the lines of communication open. have some alone time with her , shopping out to lunch. go to the movies, bowling whaatever it takes. at our table anything was open for discussion if i didn't know the answer i would find out for them. know who there friends are .
2006-08-31 22:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by kimj g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
truth..no lies ever! if she asks you a question never sugar coast stuff! be open and honest with her! your her mother first but be her best friend!
2006-08-31 22:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by always_happy_2_c_you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋