Any info would be great, a good thorough answer please!
2006-08-31 15:23:37 · 18 answers · asked by Blue_Falcon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it depends on many things.
It is quite possible that she has self-esteem issues, especially if the divorce is recent. Divorce is a hurtful process, it is natural to be guarded for awhile. It will pass. On the other hand. after going through divorce and not becmoning guarded at all after this - sounds pretty reckless. Every person comes back to their normal state eventually, but the time is different for everyone. Some say - it takes half the time of the past marriage to heel and recover completely.
2006-08-31 15:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a loaded question. It completely depends on their individual situation... how long they were married, at what age did they get married... was it a bad break up... was he unfaithful... or what was the reason for the divorce? All this contributes. If they've been married a LONG time... (like me, over 20 years) then it's really weird having men approach us, because it was never okay for that to happen for so long. It just takes some time. Self esteem? Yeah... some problems because (I'll use myself again) you get married too young (in my case) and start a family and most women LOSE themselves in the role they have as mom and wife... after divorce they have to re-find themselves... realize who they really are. They should do this even if they don't get divorced... but most don't. Just know the situation, use caution, and a ton of compassion will help immeasurably!
2006-08-31 22:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by GraphicsNGolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am recently divorced as of 6 months ago after being married for 6 years. I am very guarded now when any man approaces me. It is hard to even just go on a date with a man for the thought of even just liking him and him not feeling the same. It is not because of low self esteem it is because i am afraid of being hurt again. A broken heart is the worst feeling in the world.
2006-08-31 22:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by just divorced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. Some women probably have self esteem issues if they felt they were rejected. Or like in my case they just feel like they need some time to themselves so they are very guarded and do not want to get into another relationship right away.
2006-08-31 22:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by shar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the woman,how she viewed Her marriage.The hardest part is actually going through with a divorce,but again,like some men depends on individual.Isn`t it better that she views marriage/relationship seriously coz it`ll show what kind of a person she is.Older,wiser.Anyway it`s obvious really isn`t it?..same as a guy.Who wants to make the same mistakes again.Read the signs,don`t ignore them.You only get so many years this lifetime!Personally I don`t intend chasing my a*se for the rest of it.I want to open up to what should be.
2006-09-01 00:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you have been hurt by someone that you loved and trusted, it is hard to trust anyone else. I think that self esteem issues are usually part of a bad break up because you start to question yourself. When my ex left me I thought that he knew me better than anyone and my thought was if he knows me that well and still doesn't love me then there must be something wrong with me.I think you have to tread lightly with anyone that is fresh from a break up or divorce. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 22:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Special 'K' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times yes. When I got divorced I thought I couldn't do nothing right and that No one could love me because I couldn't even make my husband happy. Really the only way I got through that time in my life is my kids. But then as time went on I relized I did all I could to make him happy. Now I just got married to a great guy 2wks ago.
2006-08-31 22:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! most women do..... it's not too different from a man, think if you were a middle aged man, had a wife , kids , everything...suddenly u got divorced! do u think it would be like nothing to just go out and find another wife???? maybe yeaH.......but wouldn't there be another side of ur mind saying to you : "can i really get another wife" after all the emotinal attatchment already experienced???? anywhoooo.......in most cases women think : "who's gonna want me?" ....they feel like they're not good enough because they couldn't hold a man down, most women are all about competition, they immediatly picture all the pretty and fine girls they're ex husband is gonna meet...which makes them even more depressed.......
2006-08-31 22:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by →Sasha← 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the divorce circumstances. If its from infedelity from their partner then for sure and that leads to them being guarded as you lose trust in men but also dont feel confident in your attractiveness to them and so you become guarded as to why he would approach you, not to mention not wanting to be hurt again from your lack of trust in men. Bottom line your world shatters and you smell the dogshit for what it is. Get me i.e nothing smells of roses anymore you smell both the roses and the stank that you never smelt before in life!
2006-08-31 22:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jena L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both- depends on how long ago the divorce happened. As time goes on she usually gets better self esteem, and gets a tougher outlook on what she wants out of life.
You go from weepy- to how can I conquer it all? Been there.
2006-08-31 23:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋