2006-08-31 15:22:04 · 30 answers · asked by catzrme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am the cancer patient.
2006-08-31 15:27:31 · update #1
Yes I would myself but I am a breast cancer survivor. Diagnosed at age 30 and then again at age 32. I am now 40. I have dated a few ppl that was ok with it and some that wasn't. They was all into dating until I told them about my cancer and then they was gone no more phone calls!!....lol..... But thats ok had to weed the good ones from the bad!!!!!!!!!!.....lol...ppl are ppl some can handle cancer some cannot but the ones that can tend to be more loving, kind, and compassionate and those are the special ppl we need in our lives...........:)
2006-08-31 16:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by breastcancersurvivorandproudofit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I would. I think it depends on your tollerance for pain. I don't mean in anyway, that if someone can tollerate more pain in their personal like that makes them at all a better person, its just that some of us are capable of handeling sickness and loss then others. If you aren't good at it, then don't it won't do either one of you any good. He may be perfectly healthy for the rest of his life, but because you don't know that, you have to weigh the benefits against the risks. What kind of cancer was it what is the ratio of recurrence after remission. exactly how much potential does this individual have?
2006-08-31 15:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure as to the fact that this person usually will have a much better out look on life. They will see life as more important. Go Date and be happy as if in remission is gone. Life can be to short to be afraid to love someone. You need it and the person in remission needs you. Good Luck
2006-08-31 15:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no if I didn't know the person and it was a blind date. Only because I wouldn't want to set myself up for heart break if the cancer were to return.
If I knew the person and cared for them then YES! Cancer survivors need love just as much as anyone else. Since they've been through a great ordeal and faced death then I feel they know how to love better than the majority of we healthy folks.
2006-08-31 15:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. It's about love and being with someone for WHO they are not what they have, or their diseases. You may have been put in this person's life for a reason.
My boyfriend of 4 years has a deep family history of cancer...and he thinks he is going to die young because all the men in his family die young...his father at 40....so he thinks he only have 8 good years left. He could be wrong, he could be right, but I loved him before I knew this and love him with all my heart until the end.
NO MATTER what pain I may go through if I lose him. I COULD die in a tragic accident before he goes or by something else. Just spend the time you have with the person you love...because each day is a gift....for the BOTH of you.
2006-08-31 15:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was diagnosed with cancer one month after I met him and I married him 3 months later. We have now been married for 3 years and although he lost a kidney to cancer, he remains cancer free. Just follow your heart. Good luck and I hope this person remains in remission. I know how hard this is.
2006-08-31 15:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Misty Evenings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if you really care about the person...and if it is just "dating" than what is the big deal...it's not a marriage and you are not signing up to be there thru chemo and raditation etc. should the cancer some back...it's just dating. Would you not date someone because they had diabetes?? why is cancer different?
2006-08-31 15:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by justwonderin' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would....people can live for many many good years after a diagnosis.....If this is someone I felt a real relationship could develope with .....i would rather have a short time with them than miss out on it altogether......real love doesnt come along everyday. Take a chance.....you could be hit by a bus tomorrow.....should he not date you just because you could be careless crossing the street? There are no guarentees that anyone will live to be 90.
2006-08-31 15:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course why not! Nothing in life is guarantee so enjoy your time with this person. If they are cancer free and it works out..good for you! If the cancer returns and you are still together, love them enough and care enough to stay with them to the end. That is what love is all about. Through good and bad!
2006-08-31 15:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancer is evil. I've had my share of cancer in my family and would not wish that upon anyone.
As for your question, if you can find someone who is supportive and will be able to support you through the demands of your sickness then i don't see a problem with it.
Hope you get well.
2006-08-31 15:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋