I have tried a few dating websites & fixups by friends. I don't think I am being unreasonable in my belief that I can find someone, who isn't going to run the other way.
I work too much (70 hrs a week), have a child (not living with me), have been married twice, make plenty of money, and live in the Portland a very a beautiful city. I am bipolar and stable, I have been stable for a very long time, so I don't think that is really an issue.
I only want what every other women wants in a potential mate - employed, intelligent, loves cats, a moral person, does not want more childern, close to or older than my age (my age being 39), kind and thoughtful....... Is this too much to ask?
What am I doing wrong? Help, any suggestions would be appreciated.
2006-08-31 15:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by leslieguelker0517 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
omitting the bipolar would be dishonest - why styart off lieing
2006-08-31 15:29:20 · update #1
how about at a bipolar support group. if the person has an understanding of the disorder and had developed the skills to support a family member then perhaps they will be a good fit.
2006-08-31 17:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by mochi.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not lying about anything if you don't tell them on the first date. A first date is getting to know the basics. Everyone has problems and if everyone started by telling each other the bad stuff nobody would be dating lol. Get to know the person and if they seem the understanding trustworthy type then let them know.
Think of it this way, being bi polar doesn't make who you are it's only a part of you. If it's under control then obviously it's not a BIG part of you I'm sure you have other great qualities that you can start out with.
2006-08-31 23:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I don't think that you are doing anything wrong. I am also Bipolar and stable on my medications. I think that you just haven't found your Ms. Right yet. She is out there somewhere. You sound like a really nice guy, if I were in Portland I would be happy to date you. I get lonely alot and i do date alot but i have the same problem that you do, I can't find my Mr. Right. I know he is out there somewhere. Don't worry she will come along if you would like you could e-mail me at Shinningstar33160@yahoo.com i would be happy to chat with you. Good Luck
2006-08-31 22:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you must be honest with yourself. Then you must be honest with the men you run into. You don't have to tell them that you are bi-polar. That will run any man off. But you should take inventory of yourself. That will answer alot of your questions about what you are really looking for in a potential mate. No man or anyone for that matter, should know how much money you are making. There are plenty great men looking for women like you. You are independant, you have a good job ( I'm assuming), you know what you want, and you are familiar with yourself. But it sounds like you have low self-esteem. Love yourself first. Then GOD will send you a holy man. That's what all of us women need. So be patient and wait on GOD.
2006-08-31 23:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Wednesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion, is to stop labeling yourself Bi-Polar. It does not put you in a special category, or make you different. How does a blond find a decent man, or how does a high powered attorney find a honest man, or how does a proud, strong black woman find... get the idea? You're a stable, good woman seeking a stable good man.
If your bi-polar disorder really is well maintained, I doubt he'd have a problem once you get to know each other. Be outgoing, and do what others do. Get out there! good luck!
2006-08-31 22:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by Appolnia_76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you would look at my Q and A in this site you would get another impression about me.
but I am the guy you described.
but I'm only 29, married and taking care of my daughter and house while me and my wife both work full time.
oh yea i need to answer your question. Pray, and dont mention that you have bi polar until a little after you start to get to know each other.
have you thought that you have been misdiagnosed. I thought I had bipolar, but I have stress at times, sometimes I have insomnia, and I have a little obsessive compulsive disorder. but over all I believe that I dont have bi-polar. I might have some symptoms such as I described, but over all, I have only a touch of those things.
2006-08-31 22:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by bradlitazole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could stop mentioning the "bipolar" thing. At least to potential dates. Save that for the third date, for example. I think that a lot of men would be like "woah!" as soon as they hear that. But if they got to know you first, it wont' seem as bad. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 22:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to find someone that not only shares your interests and certain traits, but is compatible with you. If you really want to try to find someone, you might need to give up a little of whatever you can give up to look for that person and commit yourself to them. Other than that, just try whoever you are attracted to and good luck. C:
2006-08-31 22:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by huh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a LOT of lonely guys in the world. YOu just have to make it known that you are single and want to date. Good luck to you. I'm sure you will find what you are looking for.
2006-08-31 22:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people might get scared of you being bipolar but by telling them upfront you're being straight with it, nothing to hide...i dont think you're asking for too much.that's what all women want but sadly not all men are like that 96% of them arent and the ones who are are gay [no offense guys]...but you sound like a very nice person, pray for a mate, God understands...but dont forget to tell them that you are STABLE, that's very important...good luck hun!
2006-08-31 22:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋