Should I let him know?

Question

So tomorrow I find out if I am actually pregnant. I told my ex when my period was late and I began to feel sick all the time he said "oh thats sad what do you want me to do about it?" I was just wondering if I should let him know what the DR. says. I mean he told me flat out he didnt care and that he wasnt coming back, but should that stop me from telling him anyway?

Answer 1

if you are pregnant then he has to now because whether or not he wants to get back together he still has a responsibility to his kid so yes

Answer 2

Sweetie,It doesn't sound as if he wants to know.U need to ask your self are u telling him cause u feel he needs to know or cause u want to use it to get him to come back.If the latter of the 2 then know U don't need to tell him cause A baby shouldn't be a reason or a excuse to hold on to anyone.I am not saying u should never tell him.But if that is your reason then u need to wait till that passes and maybe later on in the pregnancy or after the baby send him a pic and wish him well.but don't use it to try to get him back it never works like that it make u both resent the other and possible even the child in the long run.So love your self and your unborn child first.good luck

Answer 3

in some states he has a right to know if he is the father so that could be an issue plus you at least want to give him the chance to step up to the plate and act like a real man and own up to his responseability if the doctor says yes also you may need concent from him or for him to terminate his parental rights if you decide to adopt or any of the other options you have
Remember a woman has rights as a mother and a father has rights as well before makeing any long term decision consult your doctor a clergy member and your family they are there to help you

good luck hun i hope everything works out ok

Answer 4

He has a right to know if he is the father. Regardless if he wants a relationship with you or not, he has a responsibility to the baby (if you are). I would make him hold up at least the financial obligation. I mean, he didn't seem to mind when you had sex, he should pay if things didn't go right, too. You can't be the only one expected to care for the baby.

Good luck. I hope all goes well for you.

Answer 5

Ok i think you should have found out if you were pregnant BEFORE you started dropping hints that you could be. That is really irresponsible on your part and can make emotions arise that maybe unnecessary. There are always 2 sides to every story and i have had girls tell my cousins this ALL the time. You should never use i "COULD" be pregnant as a way to get attention!!!!!!

Answer 6

You need to tell him and let him know you'll be going for child support because your not going to take care of the baby financially by yourself, he may then step up and be a little more supportive, if not oh well guess he'll just be paying you til the baby is 18.

Answer 7

not to be an awful person, but if the father doesn't want the baby, then you might want to take the hint and not have it. rather than "get him for child support", you might want to consider getting him for halves on an abortion. one of the biggest problems in society right now is that women act like having a child is only their choice, which is entirely alienating to the father. women these days seem to act like it's solely the man's fault they're pregnant. then, after they voluntarily engage in sex with the man, they surprise him after they are pregnant with their sole decision to keep the child. after the man protests, they have the child anyways and demand child support to get revenge for a failed relationship, forgetting the unwanted child that is being used as a pawn.

obviously, the heart of the issue here is the fact that the decision to keep or abort MUST be discussed before any sex is had, but what women continuously seem to forget is that it's half their responsibility to have that conversation, and it OUGHT to be half their choice if they wind up pregnant. true, a single mother needs all the help she can get, but if she places herself in that position despite the man's wishes, is it really fair to demand such help?

i think that unwed couples ought to sign an agreement within the first trimester of pregnancy stating they both intend to have the child, in order to help with the frequent exception to my logic when the man promises help early and backs out too late (after the child's born). in that case, ladies, you have my blessing to tear him a new hole and let the child support pour out.

Answer 8

I think you should tell him. Even if he does not want the baby he should know he is going to be the father. You should also make him pay child support. You did not get pregnant by yourself.

Answer 9

Yes, you should stay away from him. He knows how to get in touch with you if he changes hs mind. When the baby is born, after you prove paternity you can subpoena him for child support. (And you should! It's the baby's money, not yours...)

Best of all would be to release the baby to a healthy, 2 parent family, but no one seems to be able to put the needs of their babies first anymore...

Peace.

Answer 10

Hell nooooo! Tell his triflin' as$, he was there to lay down with u. If u r pregnant he needs to be there to help raise the baby. These guys get on my nerves with that wanna be tough bull$hit. They wanna be grown but don't wanna take responsibility.