this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, I know this is a no, she clearly said she wants to remain friends, and trust me, I am treating that with respect and honor. Now my question is, is she just scared like she said because we have been such good friends for a long time, or because she doesnt see me like that. If she doesnt now, will she
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Now , what would she have said she doesnt want to ruin a frienship?? Without meaning it, I asked her straight up to be honest, and I know she isnt lying. What should I do? I mean I know nothing is gonna happen in the near future, but maybe when she matures a little bit, or decides to take the risk to date me, I mean, I like her so much, and am just not ready to let her go. I know she is afraid of me breakin her heart, because she told one of her friends, that she doesnt like how many girlfriends I've had that Ive broken up with. And she really used to act like she liked me, I mean, we obviously had soemthing more than friends, but when I asked her she got scared and backed off. She also told her mom, who she is really closed to, that she is REAALY scared of ruining the frienship. What should I do?
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8 minutes ago
But, her friend asked her a few minutes ago about it, and she got all mad and said who wants to know?..and her friend said me.. and she got all mad and signed off. what should i think/do??
2006-08-31 15:08:56 · 47 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I already answered this yesterday....
YOU ARE PUSHING IT and all she is going to do is RUN. Don't push her dude or you are gonna lose her.
Just play low for awhile....
Give it time.
2006-08-31 15:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't really like you, she wouldn't bother to talk to you so much about it. She is wanting things to proceed slowly. She knows that boys often want to get physical fairly quickly, and she is trying to prevent that from happening. She understands that once that happens, then your relationship changes, and you could decide you want to move on to somebody else. This is something which happens quite often. She likes you a lot and she wants you to show her that you care enough for her to take it SLOW. Respect her wishes and you just may have a nice long term relationship. My husband of 34 years is first of all my friend. That is a very important part of any relationship. Hang in there, you are both young and you have plenty of time. Next time you see her, act like nothing is different. You are great friends, and don't be so nervous and worried around her. Just be yourself.
2006-08-31 15:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) she sounds confused if she wouldn't even talk to her friend. Give her some time to think with out asking any questions. When she's ready to talk she will.
2) If you truely love her you will also know that 13 is a very confusing age and relationships only make that more evident. Give her time to grow up a bit not just to think. She's got lots of life in front of her why don't you wait and see who she's going to grow up to be before you decide she's the one, or have her decide what she wants to do with her life.
2006-08-31 15:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by poochies girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously....u hav pissed her off "somehow"....mayb u care n "mind" too much abt her n she get cold feet. Honestly at 13 i dun think she is ready to "commit" into a relationship..... my suggestion, leave her alone for a while n stop pestering her the more u try to find out the more she will "hate" u. Just remain as friend like wat she said....remember friend dun call or see each other everyday. Let her hav some "space" to do her stuffs...when she feel ready to talk to u again she will call u, but if she never call u again...it ok my dear....i believe both of u r v young so move on u will find someone tat belong to u....just b patience....
2006-08-31 15:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say a 13 year old really isn't ready for a real relationship. I really don't know that they are capable of a "real" relationship. Just stay friends with her. She probably is just scared. If she hasn't had a real bf yet or a first kiss yet, that stuff is pretty scary for a little girl. Give her a little time.
2006-08-31 15:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only 13 years old, she probably has trouble picking out which clothes to wear to school. Way too young for anything more than a friendship.
Leave her alone, she's too immature for anything serious right now, maybe in a few years she'll discover with you as her friend, always being there it could be something to build on.
2006-08-31 15:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by trusport 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure her to give you an answer, unless you want it to always be no. If she wants to be more than friends she will come around. She already knows how you feel. The ball is in her court, I wouldn't press the issue anymore with anyone, especially her friends. Go back to being just friends for now and lay low
2006-08-31 15:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know how old you are. I answered your question the other day about this same topic. I realize you are really infatuated with her but... it could be too much. You are pushing her away by dwelling on this. If she really is your world then respect her and give her space. Remember... Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Good luck to you and God bless!
2006-08-31 15:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only read the beginning but I can tell you. You have been way to pushy. Everyone gets hung up like that somewhere and it is not pretty. Best thing to do if you want things to go your way is act like she is a close aquintance and look around. If that person is really interested they will find you.
2006-08-31 15:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop beating a dead horse. the first email should have been a big clue that you should not persue a romantic relationship with her. so if your looking for a girlfriend would you spend a lot of time with someone who has already told you no not in that way. no turn your attentions somewhere else and if you must give her whats left of your time not the first dibs
2006-08-31 15:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one you didn't say how old you are. At 13 you still have your life ahead of you. theres no rush to be with anyone. i push my kids to do their best at school and then worry about the relationship about the opposite sex. lets face it nowdays there are to many young girls who have ruined their lives by having children at such a young age when they are no more then babies themselves. let her go, let her have her life, sounds like you are both to young to be thinking in that context right now anyways.
2006-08-31 15:24:54 · answer #11 · answered by steffie2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋