He's my Best friend, but I really like him and I wish he would feel the same way, but if he doesn't I'm o.k. w/ that. I just want to know if he feels the same way- and I think he does but hes just too stubborn to admit it... If he doesn't feel the same way then I want us to still be really good friends. So how do I get him to tell me how he feels without it ruining our relationship, or make being around each other feel awkward???
2006-08-31 14:46:03 · 50 answers · asked by Rachel F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if u 2 r best friends just be straight up with him and ask him his feelings for you. and if he is ur best friend he will be honest and you 2 shouldnt feel awkward in front of each other at all
2006-08-31 15:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by skitzthump 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As they always say.... Honesty is the best policy.
That's not to say that it will be easy though. I think one night you should go out, see a movie, have dinner, play mini golf, something he likes to do....whatever, and take a minute-look at him and say "have you ever thought maybe about you and I, you know..."
And he'll probably nervous laugh, slap you on the arm or something and feel a little awkward, but you'll get your answer. (Trust me, an "I don't know", CAN be a good thing) and if he does do the I don't know thing, that's ok
That way, he doesn't feel pressured to give an answer, but you are at least "putting a bug in his ear" so to say that you have thought about it.
There's a good chance that he'll throw the question right back at you by saying "why, have you?" Tell him the truth. Tell him yea, you have and maybe it's not a bad idea if he's game to give it a go and ONLY with the understanding that you guys are to remain friends if either of you decide it doesn't work out.
People appreciate honestly. No matter what age you are.
Good luck honey! I hope it works out in your favor!
2006-08-31 15:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cindari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you are under 17 just keep being his best friend. if he gets close to a relationship that could threaten you, that's the point you should jump in and say how you feel. otherwise, use the time you have to make what you have even better, there is nothing like like being in love with your best friend, it could never be better. I'm afraid that doing so too young can hurt you in the long run. remember if he really loves you, he always will. so these short term things can only help you later. If he feels the same way about you, he'll drop her like a bad habit and treat you good for the rest of your life.
2006-08-31 15:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by moquin747 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you, he may not be telling you how he feels because he is afraid you do not feel the same way. You should make it obvious to him that you have other feelings than just friendship for him. You can do this by getting physically close to him, touching him on the arm or shoulder, and just being cute and sweet around him, until he is desperate to kiss you. Keep at it. Even the dumbest guy will get the message eventually.
2006-08-31 15:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scotdic has an awesome approach if you're pretty sure he likes you, but maybe a bit too forward if you're really not sure how he feels, and he's one of the shyer guys....if he's one of them, maybe try a 1-arm hug, then a full hug, THEN the kiss if all goes well. It's easier to forget about a hug if it doesn't feel right. And give him time (a couple days) if he never thought about you that way before. He might back off then start chasing you around after he's had time to think about it...
2006-08-31 15:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Arbor Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're together and alone and having fun and are relaxed, smile and say that you think he's really cool and just sort of ease into it. Don't get all uber-serious and tense, and for God's sake do NOT say "it's cool if you don't feel the same way...". It should go without saying that if he doesn't feel the same way, he can say so. Saying that makes you look weak and unsure of yourself, like you're expecting rejection. Just say what you feel. As for ruining your friendship if he doesn't feel the same way.....if you come across as unsure and clingy, you can bet it will. But if you come across as self-confident and relaxed, you needn't worry.
2006-08-31 15:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to give him time and space, then if he doesn't talk to you for a long time, go to him and remind him that you're still waiting for an answer. But if I were you, I would keep him as a best friend, and nothing more, because you do need some really good guy friends to lean on. Good luck.
2006-08-31 15:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to do it - just do it in the most tactful and considerate (to both of you) way possible. But definitely do it!
I've learnt that lifes too short not to express your feelings and the longer you repress it, the more its going to hurt. It could also do some damage. As, if you're frustrated, you could act out while not even knowing it.
if he feels the same way - awesome! If not, at least you've told him. Good luck!
2006-08-31 15:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by soulgirl76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that position before and u know what i did, I told the girl how i felt about her and told her that i wanted her to be my gf, she told me she felt the same way about me but she had a bf and we were still friends despite our feelings for each other.
2006-08-31 15:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe suggest going out to lunch...just the two of you. Or going to see a new movie that he wanted to go to...just little things like that...and if that goes well and it seems like there's romantic compatablility (because we already know that you're friends!) then you should really go for it...dont worry about the what if's!
2006-08-31 15:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by onehotlamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋