i'm a 29 year old guy and yes i... still live at home. i guess you can say i'm like the guy in that movie 'failure to launch' .. ie. a decent looking educated guy with a good job, normal social skills etc. that hasnt left the nest..
as a women, what would you think when you hear this from a guy on a first date?
2006-08-31 14:45:06 · 41 answers · asked by tom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would think that either (A) he's a no-account / no-ambition guy who likes to let others wait on him (B) he's into drugs and just sits home and gets high instead of working or (C) he is coming out of a bad relationship and needs to lean on someone for awhile (D) there are serious problems with social skills (E) he has serious problems with self-esteem (F) he has serious problems with relationships he has with a / both parents or (G) all of the above. I hate to say it, but it would be very off-putting for me!
2006-08-31 15:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by Deb F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I had an attraction to you on the first date and you told me that, I'd want to get to know you better before making a judge-mental call. You could have a very good reason you have not left home. How very immature of anyone to not find out the reasons before making a snap call. Don't get discouraged as the right woman will come along who will be interested enough to get to know you. Now, if I find out you just haven't left the nest because you were too lazy and too afraid to move out - I'd be gone.
2006-08-31 15:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I'd picture a lazy guy playing videogames in his room while mom does the cooking and dad does yard maintenance. I'd think the guy is really insecure and clingy for being unable or unwilling to leave the nest and fly out on his own. I'd think there's something fundamentally wrong with his personality and be totally turned off, even a bit scared. But I'm sure other girls wouldn't mind.
2006-08-31 15:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I want that much info on a first date. Maybe if you are saving the $$ you'd be spending on rent and not partying it away then I think that would make you an intelligent guy.Think about it..if mom does the cooking,cleaning and dad helps you work on your car and your able to save $$ then yeah I think its great.Chances are if you were gonna attack a date I don't think you'd be so inclined if your parents are in the house or could pop up at any time.Where if we were at your apt.all alone and you were that kind of man then nobady would be there to hear the yells for help.Assuming that if you were that kind of man and we were at your parent's house they'd help IF they too aren't THOSE kind of people. I think a guy that is close to his parents would have good values.Unless your parents are serial killers or something.
2006-08-31 15:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Raevens'Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from my point of view it would be disappointing to hear but some day you have to leave the nest because not all women want either urs or her parents in the middle of the relationship so u need to find some where to live before u start looking for a mate.
2006-08-31 15:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by skitzthump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tom. I might believe a lot of things (like maybe he was trying to save money for something important), but the main thing I want to say is that I think you are a great guy. To be this honest with yourself, that takes real maturity and sincerity. You have a rare gift: you are someone a woman can trust. That makes you very attractive. So on behalf of the women of the world, don't worry about where you live. Just be yourself and you will leave us breathless.
2006-08-31 15:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate i dated a guy who was 27 and still lived at home. It didn't bother me all that well. I dated him for 2 1/2 yrs. The whole time he lived with his momma. We have a kid together but thats it now and he is 32 and still living at home. There is a time to leave the nest, and i just think that this guy (not you) is over stayed his welcome. I mean there is a time when you need to get out, but its just when you know that you can afford it. But i have to say all i know is that im glad the only thing that we have in common now is our son, cuz his momma is crazy.
So i give you the best of luck!!! :o)
2006-08-31 15:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely agree with failure to launch. I also think there is an unhealthy fear of failure. However, I hear potential,educated good job. I would definitely encourage you to find a good thing. When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. I t sounds like to me that is all you are missing. I would like to encourage you to look more closely in your current social settings or if you like sports at the ball games.
2006-08-31 15:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Deborah c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brutal honesty here:
Living at home at that age is REALLY immature. You need to establish yourself before you can get a real relationship.
Life is not like the movies.... most independent women would run the other way if they found out you're still living with Mommy....
2006-08-31 15:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman who has been involved with men who lived at home beyond the normal age to be on their own, I would not go on a second date. There are usually issues related to not having lived away from Mom.
2006-08-31 15:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by nomadsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋