I'm dating a guy right now...him and I are at the peak in our relationship and all and he says he loves me. I feel the exact same way for him but I've said 'love' before and gotten hurt. We havent even had sex yet but we've been together for about 2 months...I dont want to get hurt again so how am I supposed to know if it's love or lust?
2006-08-31 14:41:57 · 12 answers · asked by onehotlamma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All those answers can be found easy in the movie Forest Gump. Forest loved Jenny. He always loved her. He would not put any other woman before her. He would do anything, give anything, sacrifice all that her life be better, no matter how many times she yelled at him, rejected him, rebuked him, or no matter what she did, or how many times she f*** up. Even when he knew she didn't have the same feelings back it made no difference. You want to know if someone loves you? Put them in the "Forest" position. Want to know if you love someone? Put yourself in Forest's position and them in Jenny's. BINGO! You have it
Lust: Is self-indulgent
Love: Is outward giving.
Lust: Temporary.
Love: There for life
Lust: Non committal
Love: Solely committed.
Lust: Done 1st before building lines of communication.
Love: Done after the ground work of communication is done
Lust: Like renting.
Love: Like owning
Lust: Is physical only.
Love: Is metaphysical and soulful. Is like a 5 course meal, never leaves you hungry.
Lust: Is like a snack cake not a meal. Is never enough.
Love: Is more than you can ask for, you are always satisfied
Lust: For the immature.
Love: For the mature.
Lust: The booty call
Love: A loving relationship that just has sex in it.
Lust: You are controlled by your body.
Love: You command your body.
Love can grow from the seeds of lust but it is hard. Once sex muddles the water, all those things that could be there or is thought to be there but really ain't can not be seen because no one wanted to give up the sex. Only marry someone you have had good conversations with before you became a couple. Those simple communication skills will be way more important years from now.
2006-09-04 23:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, jumping into a relationship in just 2 months is like a baby that has only been in this world for 2 months let alone to engage in sex. If you do not want to be hurt, don't rush into it and a good relationship can only determined not only by months, but years, any relationship that lasts for approx. between two and a half to three years, has the potential of succeeding into the next level, not sex, other commitments. If you both have an understanding and respect one another, then you both don't have a problem in waiting and continuing to be there for each other, supporting one another and helping each other. Anything apart from this is the lust of the flesh, which can only do much harm and a possibility of a breakup, which will cause much pain and hurt for you. So take it slow and step by step and let patience have her perfect work in you. waiting would not hurt, what it does, it just Make the relationship spicy and lasting.
2006-08-31 19:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by samoy y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you get the traditional symptoms (weak in the knees, heart racing, chills, etc.) when you hear his voice or when he lightly touches your hand? If so, it's lust.
Do you respect him as a person, and do you remain devoted to him even when you're angry with him? If so, it _might be_ love.
Yes, I know that my answer left both possibilities open -- and that's how it should be. If the relationship has a real future, love and lust must both be present. If either is missing, he's not the right one for you.
2006-08-31 15:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Personally, I think love takes longer than two months to develop, but everyone is different. You will know if it is love, and if you have any doubts right now, give it more time. Kudos for waiting on sex by the way.
2006-08-31 14:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're putting off sex says something, something good. It all depends on how you feel about him. If he's the only one you can see yourself with and you feel completely at ease around him, it's probably love. Don't be afraid to fall for him. Don't be scared to be hurt. You've got to live and not be afraid of your fears. Good Luck
2006-08-31 15:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u havent had sex yet then i'd say it is love. usually lust doesnt last 2 months.
2006-08-31 14:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Monk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you get to the point you can't live without each other then you've got a good clue it may be more than just lust.
2006-08-31 14:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by TonerLow69 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 months and your still holding out on him i'd say either its love or the guy is not all there in the head
2006-09-01 02:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you havnt had sex yet and he says he loves you and spends alot of time with you not his friends well its love....
2006-08-31 15:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man will never admit love for a girl unless he really loves her.
2006-08-31 14:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋