Here's the deal. I was friends with someone @ work. The conversations were never sexual in nature nor did I ever insuate anything. I was always faithful and never so much as met this girl outside of work. What did I do wrong? I admit to calling her, but I have a shared phone plan with my girlfriend (who dumped me) & she had access to the account, so what was I trying to hide?
2006-08-31 14:26:25 · 11 answers · asked by BM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are better off without the girl who "dumped" you. Some people are very possesive and will only try to turn you into a possession. I know what I am talking about. If you think you did something wrong and she can convince you of it she will impose her will upon you until you cannot tolerate it. Sometimes people don't discover the trap they walk into until after marriage, and sometimes after children. You need to realize that it is her insecurity problems that are between you two and not your actions of making a friend. The one who dumped you wanted you only if she can control you and claim ownership of you. She is probably still testing to see how far she can go. If you apologize and try to get her back she will only see you as week and stupid as you are willing to give up your "self" and your social needs and conform to her idea of the relationship, which is actually ownership of you. Get away from her, she will only suffocate, manipulate, judge and try to control you until you have no choice but to get out of the relationship. Get out now while the getting is good. She dumped you remember? You got lucky! I suggest you talk to some female friends about it and you may discover that they will run to your side to show your ex that she is the one loosing out.
And don't let MLM tell you that you were well on your way to cheating. She has no right to hold you accountable for something you didn't do. She doesn't know your character and she is probably one of those types I mentioned earlier.
There is no such thing as cheating unless you decieve the person you agreed to be exclusive with. The fact is we all have needs. No one person can fill all of another person's needs. If you needed a friend, then your girlfriend should have recognized your need and tried to fill it. If she wasn't willing to fill your need then she shouldn't complain about you getting your friendship needs filled by another. And that goes for both people in a relationship. Communication is the key element of success. Aparently her communication is that you either let her call the shots and deny you your needs or break up. You are better off breaking up. Find someone who can handle healthy relationships instead of someone who creates unhealthy ones.
2006-08-31 14:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to female friends is fine, it's when it goes into emotional cheating that it's not okay. If you spent time with them instead of your gf or talked to them more than your gf then that could be a problem. Either way, if you aren't with your gf anymore then why do you care?
2006-08-31 21:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's insecure,and thought that the conversations were sexual and flirtatious. Especially if they were hour long and up conversations. But nope, i would not call that cheating.
2006-08-31 21:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by ::.Mz.Allure.:: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no i mean its talking next thing u know she'll b pissed cuz ur looking at another gurl thats a stupid reason 4 her 2 dump u i say u can find a way better gurl but mayb she felt like u werent giving her enough time
2006-08-31 21:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend was uncomfortable, you should have sacrificed the friendship. Call me old-fashioned or controlling, but people in relationships shouldn't have close private relationships with those of the opposite sex.
2006-08-31 21:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by angry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did nothing wrong. Your girlfriend is being insecure and immature.
2006-08-31 21:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by KMSMT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend is the jealous type. Her loss...
2006-08-31 21:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by mystrygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was not the entire reason; she's using it as an excuse for something
2006-08-31 21:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have contacted her after work. I think you were probably looking for more and so did your girlfriend.
2006-08-31 21:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess she figured one thing might lead to another, and another, and another - get my drift.. But i get your point too, I guess if you have a good explanation, and she buys it - you're golden.
2006-08-31 21:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by cat lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋