her daughter is 6 and her twins are 3 and a half. isint this just so sad? could you ever see yourself doing that?
she used to hit them a lot but i still feel bad.
2006-08-31 13:46:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Anessa, I have adopted children they are grown now. I have foster children now that have special needs as a result of being with parents that verbally abuse and physical abuse them..These children have lots of issues as a result of staying with these parents. Thank God your cousin see that she can not handle her children and are giving them a chance to have a happy safe and well structure home life. Parents that adopt, or are foster parents have to go thur training, have back ground checks, medical checks, home studies and many interviews with DHS staff before they are allowed to adopt. Your cousins may have had the want to keep them, but knew she did not have the can do. Please be support of her, she will need it. Please do not feel bad for the children, because of another woman I have 2 great grow children, and grandchildren that I adore.
2006-08-31 14:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by shortansassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend's daughter was 17 when she gave birth to her son. She gave the baby up for adoption and now the little guy is perfectly happy, well care for in a loving, stable family with a mom and a dad who love him more than anything. The daughter, at 17, wasn't even sure who the father of the baby was, didn't have a high school education or a job or a place to live. She was in several abusive relationships. The adoptive parents keep my friend updated at least twice a year (on his birthday and at Christmas) with pictures and notes about how he is doing. He is in such a better home than he would have been if his birth mom had kept him. Your cousin must have loved her kids very much to know that she wasn't in a position to give them the best life. She made a great self-less sacrifice for her kids. It is always a sad situation when children are in a difficult life. Being abused is no life for a child. When the children are adults perhaps they will contact your cousin and renew a relationship with her. All kids deserve to live in a loving, safe, caring environment with people who love them.
2006-08-31 20:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, she didn't treat them properly so she "gave them up for adoption", don't you mean that the cpc took them away?
A mother doesn't usually wait 6 years to realize she's not a good mom, they took the kids from her, right?
They will be taken somewhere where they will be loved. I'm sorry for you to have to go through knowing that you may not see them again.
2006-08-31 20:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though it's understandable how you feel people do things for several different reasons.
It's sad they are not in the family any more but at the same time you have to respect her for the fact that she knew she coukdn't care for them and that she can hardly care for herself so she did what would be best for them. It takes a strong woman to give away the very babies she gave birth to.
They didn't have a fighting chance at life with her. Now they do.
Penny Babson
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2006-08-31 20:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by penny c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very proud and supportive of your cousin for making such a difficult, heart-wrenching, but loving and wise decision to do what is truly best for her children. Perhaps, if your cousin had been surrounded with more acceptance and support, she would not have had to make such a drastic decision. When a women gives up her children, it is never her decision alone. How the world treats us, what the world teaches us, how the world helps us or not, is always partner in the decision-making.
2006-08-31 20:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you feel bad that these children finally got a real chance at life and some loving couple finally got the chance to become loving parents. i'm an adopted child and i don't think it's sad at all.
2006-08-31 20:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving your kids up- it's everymother's nightmare. But sometimes it's whats best, and the kids are always in nice homes. My family takes in foster kids, and some of the story's are really sad.
2006-08-31 20:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by yourstruley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin should be commended for putting the children where they will be wanted. They will be better off, and the new parents will receive a great gift.
2006-08-31 20:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Steven M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its is sad. and no I couldn't. Question is how old was she when she had first child? maybe it is best thing for children to go to better home where they are not abused. You have to think of the children's welfare. the day will come when your cousin will wish she had kept them
2006-08-31 20:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by yankeecowboy10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say thank goodness she smartened up and realized that she was not capable of caring for her children like they deserved to be taken care of. Hopefully she will use birth control from now on and spare any more children suffering.
2006-08-31 20:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by rachel_renee_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋