Ok, so my hubby buggs me all the time about wanting anal sex, I'm not thrilled about the idea, mainly for health reasons, also he's an italian and its pretty popular in italy. Is this popular in america too and what is wrong with traditional sex? How can I get him to understand my point of view?
2006-08-31 13:17:24 · 33 answers · asked by dreemcache 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a cat? How do you type so well? It's really gonna hurt that cat butt. How is that legal to marry a cat? Only a horny Italian would do that, I know I'm Italian.
2006-08-31 13:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately - most men want this - sorry to tell you this. It has nothing to do with nationality. It is men! There is a creme/gel that can help with the "pain" involved. You can go onto any adult site or store and buy anal ease. It actually works too. It does help if he is distracting you by doing other things to/for you too. Good luck. Most men want variety - although you can try to get him to understand. Maybe you could try to come up with something new that you two haven't done and it may help for a while. Just remember - he is a man and will always want this.
2006-08-31 13:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great if you can get into it. He needs to know that you daont want it. End of story, if you arent gopnna let it happen, make it known. Eventually he will quit bothering you. I dont understand health reasons. I dont know of any diseases that you can get that way that you cant get vaginally, i think thats an excuse, which is ok, but be truthful. He likes traditional sex im sure, but would like other varieties as well. YYour hole is much tighter on that side. Maybe he is trying to tell you something????
2006-08-31 13:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know you are not comfortable with it. Maybe try a little at a time and see if you might at least "tolerate" it for his pleasure. Have him wear a condom if you are worried about health issues. I've done it, it's not my favorite thing to do, but my fiance' really loves it and I like to make him happy that way. If I was absolutely disgusted with the idea though, I would ask him to give me the respect I needed when I said No.
2006-08-31 13:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should explain to him in full details how you really feel about anal sex. Let him know you are concerned about health reasons. In the main time do a little research on it and show him what your fears are!
2006-08-31 13:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Latoya W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not quite a few people in America are getting into anal sex I don't care for it myself. But a friend of mine said it's not bad and it really doesn't hurt. But it is totally up to you.
2006-08-31 13:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by KEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO
Men will ALWAYS try making you do this, or just keeps suggesting it. Married 18 years and the answer is still NOPE.
Your body, your bumm. Just stress to him that if he keeps mentioning it, it makes sex in general a turn off. Tell him just the thought of it makes you want to puke.
If he loves you, he'll respect your decision. Maybe one night you'll surprise him years down the line, but tell him Don't count on it.
2006-08-31 13:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he shouldn't pressure you into doing something that freaks you out. None of my friends do it and we all thinks it's a little out there so I don't think it's very popular here. Maybe he just wants something different maybe you could suggest another potion that you are more comfortable with. But sex isn't fun if you aren't comfortable doing something.
2006-08-31 13:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say sit down and talk with him about him maybe a few bj's would change his mind!! But if not I've heard anal is very good once u get used to it so maybe just relax and enjoy it!!
2006-08-31 13:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance was the same he always bugged me for it and eventually he got the idea that i didnt like the idea, and we tried all sorts of different things that we enjoyed. but i made the mistake of letting him try and believe me its not that pleasent now he wont stop bugging me. once ilet him once he thinks i am going to do it again. maybe u could try something different that u never have ask him if he has any other fantasies or something. ask him to imagine what it would be like for him to have it done he might get your point ofview then.
2006-08-31 13:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋