We were estranged (her choice) since April, and it has been a difficult time for me since April, as I loved my wife and still do. Her behaviour had changed noticeably, and with what I know now I suspect the cancer was the cause.
Her family had always hated our marriage (we'd eloped) and so I was not told nor given an opportunity to attend the service. She passed away on the 19th after a brief battle, and I've only learned of it today thanks to her lawyer sending mine a death certificate.
Needless to say I am grieving, and just can't stay with you while I go through this.
I will be back.
While I'm gone I hope you will love one another as you'd be loved. Bear in mind I am not the only one grieving this night, and there are many who need your love, not your hatred or your fear. Be kind. Life is brief and when it is done, there will be no chance for you to make ammends with each other.
Value Life. Value Love. Value each other as brothers and sisters who are all seeking.
2006-08-31 13:17:21 · 25 answers · asked by bobkgin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i'm sorry for your loss buddy. i lost my dad last year to a brief and intense struggle with brain cancer.
it sucks.
i'm also sorry for the way you had to find out. may God in his infinite grace give you strength and courage.
2006-09-08 12:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for this! As you grieve, I hope you will find people who can love you up close...in person. I think you would benefit from crying in the arms of those who know you intimately...allowing yourself to be supported while you simply let go of the need to be anything other than your raw, bleeding self.
In the meantime, I will strive to stay within Love's heart, knowing that it will lead me to knowing how I can, in my own small way, help heal this broken world that we both love.
Within your suggested list of values on which to focus, I find my value of you dear heart, who has been such a strong example of living life fully, loving deeply with your whole self, and acknowledging the fact of our deep connection as seekers.
You will be missed but never forgotten and never alone.
D.
2006-09-01 00:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear of your loss ... but your love for each other is strong even now
i lost my dad to cancer recently and know the effect it can have not only physically but mentally
i wrote this for someone i loved and lost and would like to give it to you xxx
when i think i need you most i feel your hand in mine
your arms wrapped around me filled with love divine
you are but a breath away, a single thought, a glance
and when i fear carrying on you help me take a chance
you have taught me to love, be thoughtful and be kind
and i know im never alone youre in my heart and mind
2006-08-31 13:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I hopped on just to check my mail and Denise W told me about your loss. I have poor relations with my in laws as well. (they pretty much despise me) I had taken sabaticle to get my head straight and do some writing. Then my investors set up a meeting with me finally, after six months of waiting. It seems that you really loved her (insofar as I can tell electronically) and I hope that you will remember her fondly. The downside is (as I have come to understand) that's what makes the loss really hurt.
Keep your chin up,
Will
2006-09-01 09:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It must be especially hard for you since you didn't get a chance to say good-bye. I can tell you loved her very much. You will be in my prayers, and thanks for being such a kind-hearted person and doing your part to make the world (and Yahoo Answers) a kinder and more loving place. May God Bless you.
2006-09-01 15:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear of your loss i lost my brother to lung cancer in 2001 so i kinda know what your feeling since he was my brother not my spouse . find support in family friends and in your church if you go to one , grieving is what you in now let it out talk to GOD HE listens no matter what or when . i hope you will be back soon and continue to communicate i think it took a lot of courage to write i feel very concerned for you and loved by family prayers for you
2006-08-31 14:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by cozjeanda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May the Peace that surpasses all understanding be with you in the coming times where ever you go. Remember, death is like a cocoon, on one side of it is a caterpillar (our life here on earth as we know it; on the other side one does not see a caterpillar, but a butterfly (our life after death (Matt. 22:32).
2006-08-31 13:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by jefferyspringer57@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your loss.
My sister lost her ex husband the same way: lung cancer and no one in his family liked her so they didn't tell her. She had to hear it through the grape vine about a year later.
Blessings,
W.
2006-08-31 13:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will also say God bless you and may He bring peace to your heart, let go and let God. My condolences and with the love of Christ Jesus - I'll say take care and praise Him in the midst of it all, He is still Your God. Cancer may be the cause for her to go, but IT (cancer) doesn't have her but God
2006-08-31 13:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember the happy times. Don't let anyone get you down. I am so sorry for your loss. Be strong. God be with you.
2006-08-31 13:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by MikieB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋