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Question

I'm a very privliged person don't get me wrong ,but my family is far from perfect. It seems as though the attention in my family is placed on my other siblings. My sisters for being so athletic and just down right mean but me everytime I do something wrong my folks yell at me constantly. My half sister has wreck multipe cars and they have all been her fault when I recently had a wreck myself my parents yelled at me and still continue to do so. Things are just really bad and I don't know how to confont my family becasue every time I do it always ends the same. WIth lots of yelling and tears.

Answer 1

Sorry to lecture, but you don't know how lucky you are. 99% of the young women in the world would envy you. Try to remember that and don't yell back. That will help. A mature approach will take you a long way in winning arguments with spoilt siblings. Don't rise to their bickering.

Answer 2

I come from a family of 11 children. I only grew up with 4 other sisters. I was yelled at allot because I think they expected more from me than they did the others. It actually made me the better person. I am the only one out of all 11 that graduated from high school. My father did most of the yelling and preaching to me. He installed things in my head that my other sisters did not get. It really made me more responsible. If you still live at home stay at home. I have been on my own since 11th grade. I know the yelling can take it's toll but hang in there it really does get better.
If you do need to talk go to the parent you feel closest to. Talk to them one on one. Do not raise your voice, be compassionate to them and they will do the same. I was a Daddy's girl, he pasted away 9 years ago. OOOOhhhhh, what I would not do to hear him yell at ma again. You have to let thing roll off your shoulder. They just expect more out of you then they to the others.......
good luck to you!

Answer 3

Thats not right. Probably your other siblings just require a lot more of your parents attention than you do. Maybe you are the easy going one who rarely causes trouble and yet they are the demanding ones requiring all your parents time and effort to deal with.

That isn't fair to you that when you DO do something wrong that they go all crazy on you. I think you have to talk to them at a time when you're both calm and state how you feel to them. If you don't think you are able to do it write them a note and tell them.

Sometimes parents aren't aware that they are doing that and feel terrible when they realize that they are treating you unjustly. I know I've done that too and I try very hard now to treat each of my kids as the individuals that they are and not all the same because they don't all behave the same.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I know how it feels, kid. In our family, there were definite lines drawn between the kids. My sister and I were the black sheep, got nothing from the parents and were told we didn't belong in the family , our younger brother was allowed to do whatever he wanted, but he wasn't handed anything...and our younger step sister was treated very badly, but got material things hand over fist.

I know this sounds really awful, but sometimes the best you can do is stand back and be the ONE person who know's whats going on. When it's all said and done, you will be wiser than those who don't observe and learn from the behaviour of others. Someday, you'll be on your own and possibly have kids of your own. You'll remember this and you won't treat them that way. Hang in there!

Answer 5

Sometimes there is a spiritual challenge in life to NOT be the one who gets babied. It only makes you stronger in the end because you will have some fight in you when you get older. One day you will grow up and have real life and real problems nipping at your heels. I am speaking from experience. I used to want to be the adored one and I wasn't. And now that all of us are adults, I am the strongest in the crew and have done the most with my life even in the midst of turmoil while my siblings have a tendency to sit and whine when the going gets tough. And when the going gets tough, they look to be rescued and the fall on their faces. I weather the storms and land on my feet.

Answer 6

It seems like in every family there's always those that are favored over the others. I don't know why that is, but it seems to happen. Unfortunately there isn't much that you can do about it, except live with it until you're old enough to move out. I'm sorry I wasn't much help. Good luck, hon and God Bless!

Answer 7

Can you talk to a trusted adult about this? An aunt or uncle or neighbour? Even the school psychologist? It sounds to me like you're trying to deal with a frustrating situation, and the people around you may not realize how their behaviour is affecting you. Try to find an ally. And hang in there!

Answer 8

Sit down with your parents. Seperatly if you need to. And talk calmly. Tell them no screaming. If thing get out of control, tell them to come see you when they can talk calmly. Politely get up & walk away. It'll all be cool. Maybe go to a park, or other public place. They are more likely not to over react. Be genuine & tell them you love them, tell them your concerns.

Answer 9

i understand my family is somewhat the same way. don't worry things will get better they always do even if it doesn't seem like it. But what you should do is ask you mother and dad can you talk with them one day along and then tell them how you feel. and why they treat you different form the other children

Answer 10

I think your family has higher expectations for you, therefore they are harder on you as an individual, the only way to figure this out is to sit down with them and calmly voice your opinions, concerns, and complaints.