plz , tell me what should i do?

Question

me and my girlfriendof 10 months , my first , i am her first , loved her sooo much , tursted her blindly .....lastnigth she told me she has feelings for another guy....and that she been lieing to me about most stuff for weeks .......i was hurt and had to walk way from her...i cant gether off my mind , i still love her , but i dunno how can i earn her back and more importantly : how can i earn my turst for her back

i think i still love her and want her back

never got asmnay answers , i left out some details ...we talked about marrying each other , and she left me lsat night and today is my birthday

Answer 1

thats a tough situation. been there, done that. you dont want her back no matter how much you love her. yeah i know its hard. but she lied to you, once a lier always a lier. if you get her back she will just keep on lieing and she will hurt you even more and it will get alot worst. keep you head up and stand strong. move on with your life, dont let her hold you back, thats the worst thing to do. has some confidence with your self, go out and find another love. there is more out there than just her, some one that WILL treat you better. trust me. hang in there.

Answer 2

WELL she may have been your first but she wont be your last, each & everyone of us have gone through what your going through now at sometime or another, it will take a while but you will get over this, i maybe wrong but i dont think you were her first, i think she also lied about that as well, had you of been her first she wouldnt have just fancied another guy, dont bother trying to get her back because if you did you would NEVER trust her again, how could you, you would allways be thinking she is after other men, its a shame but leave her in the past & move on, in time you will find your soulmate then you will know you have the right one, good luck,

Answer 3

Let it go. I know it's painful and not the way you wanted things, but in the long run, it will be better. You deserve someone with pure feelings for you that would never lie or treat you that way. That lady is out there for you. Spend some time by yourself and wilth your friends, maybe pursue a new hobby, like guitar lessons or drawing or Karate, whatever you think might be interesting, keep yourself busy and when you've had time to heal, you can start with fresh eyes to meet the person who will be happy and grateful to be true to you.

Answer 4

First of all, the thought of losing your "first" to someone else is a very difficult feeling to overcome. Trust me, I've been through it. The suffering, pain, and continuous thoughts of her is all part of the process of letting go. My advice to you is to sit her down and discuss with her where she stands in the relationship. Question her love for you and what it means to her. Lastly, ask her if there's anything that your not doing to make her lose interest in you. If the outcome is the least that you expect, sometimes you'll have to make decisions that you don't agree with. And as far as earning her trust back...she lied to you once...what makes you think she isn't going to do it again? Hope everything works out witcha!

Answer 5

Honey its always tough when its your first love, Right now you both are really trying to find out about this big wide world. Just write down all the pros and cons about her and if the good out numbers the bad then you know you must try until she's back if it doesn't then you know you must let her go. Its sort of good for her to have told you rather than you finding out from someone else.

Answer 6

It sounds like she is already in another relationship so right now you need to move on with your life. It doesn't sound like she even apologized for lying to you and unless she is truly sorry, she will lie to you again. I wouldn't take her back. Maybe in the future she will realized what she is missing but hopefully by then you will have moved on and you will have found someone else that deserves your trust and love.

Answer 7

Start looking for someone else, you might think that you'll be able to trust her but it will always be in the back of your mind. Get out there and find yourself a nice, sexy new woman, just think of all the fun(sexual experiences) you can have now, believe me get out there and experience other people, when you do finally find the right one you'll appriciate each other more.

Answer 8

Oh, I'm so sorry.

I understand how hurt you must feel right now, but it's best for you to put all this behind you and move on. Unfortunately, once someone has lied to you you'll never be able to trust them again.

Without trust in a relationship you have nothing.

Go find someone who'll appreciate and respect you.

Good luck...

Answer 9

Let her go. If she didn't have the consideration to tell you weeks before that she has feelings for another guy, she is not worth a second chance. I understand how painful this can be, but for you to even consider going back with her and learning to trust her again is something that is not going to be easy.

Answer 10

LET HER GO! it is totally over between you! The guy I just broke up with yesterday (we've been going out for 1 1/2 years) keeps on trying to get me back and it's annoying!!! Now that you've walked away, keep walking! Don't turn back! Although she is your true love, do you want a liar and a cheater as a girlfriend???