If your 15 old daughter got in trouble for mooning at school, what you do?

Question

I am 15 go to school in Texas.

My dad was very upset because he had to miss a few hours of work to visit my school to talk to the principal get my in-school suspension reduced from 3 days to 1 day, and to get the 1 day served taken off of my record. However, I had to agree to 10 days of detention, licks from the female vice principal (extremely embarrassing, in front of my dad and principal! yes they allow it here, I know how lame, writing an essay about why what I did was wrong and I am suspended from cheerleading for until my detention is served. My rear is sore! poor me!

I am also grounded for 3 weeks (2 originally but I got an extra for talking back) and lost my allowance for a month, with extra chores while I am grounded. All I get to keep is computer and cell phone, so I guess it could be worse. He screamed at me too!. All Dad cares about is missing work. He does not care about me as much as his job and honestly I would have rather just served the whole in school suspension.

I didn't mention my Mom because she passed away a year and half ago.

Answer 1

Sweetie, why are you so mad at your Dad? He had to leave work , the job which pays the bills, puts food on the table for you, the one that pays the cell phone bill, pays for cheerleading...money doesn't just magically appear....you do realize that.

Did you Dad not come? If he didn't love you, he would have told the school to do whatever they thought they needed to do with you. He proved that he loved you by coming, and still letting you have your computer and cell phone. That's not punishment honey, 3 weeks at home with no tv, friends, no phone, no computer, that's punishment, so I so glad you realize that it could be worse.

Yes, he proably did scream at you, and he shouldn't have. But parents make mistakes too. No, your Dad loves you, honey. I can't imagine the embarrassement that he was suffering, it's one thing to get catch smoking in the girl's room, or talking back at a teacher...but to have your baby girl that you love with all your heart---expose herself at school...I bet he wished he could crawled under something. I think you owe Daddy a big apology.

Mooning has been around since I was a kid, never done it myself, but a ex- boyfriend did. It's funny at the time, unless you are the parent that has to come and bail you out of trouble. Think about how you Daddy feeling right now. He's proably feeling like he's a failure, that he's not doing a good job of raising you. And raising you is all on his shouldars..he doesn't have your Mom to talk to, and explain how girls think...I would love to give your Father a medal for keeping his cool as well as he did! He's under a lot of pressure, and you showing off your butt to the school, doesn't help. I don't mean you got to be Ms. Perfect, but you got to help your Dad out a little.

Do you understand what I am trying to say? If you have any questions, please e-mail me, and I will try to explain it better. I think you should go give Dad a hug and a apology...don't you?

God bless us all...............

Answer 2

Honey, I'm so sorry you lost your mom. It's hard at any age, but especially for a teen.

Your dad was right to be upset. I'd say your school and parental punishment are just about right. The other thing I would do, if you were my daughter, is to get you into counseling. You wouldn't be acting out this way if you weren't still hurting so badly over losing your mom.

I don't think all your dad cares about is missing work. If he didn't care about you he wouldn't have done anything to get your in-school suspension reduced. And he would have grounded you, taken away your allowance or given you extra chores. He's done all those things because he loves you so much and wants you to grow up to be a well-rounded and responsible adult. He's got a tough job, being both dad and mom to you. He probably questions himself all the time wondering if he's doing right by you. Talk to your dad. Tell him your feelings. Ask him about some counseling for you (and maybe for the 2 of you together). I pray you and he will work through this with love. God bless!

Answer 3

It seems that you're in a little bit of trouble at school, plus you're smarting off at the mouth & dissing him.

At 15 you should be starting to mature up a little bit. You're losing ground girl. Take a look and think about it. You're making life miserable for your Dad & he's trying really hard to work a good job to be able to keep you financially supported. Give it break.'

Answer 4

Did you ever stop to think that without your Dad's job you wouldn't even have a computer or a cell phone????????? You shouldn't even expect a allowance for doing chores around the house, you live there too. He should have stayed at work and let you take what ever the school dished out to you. You deserved it !!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

i guess i dont understand, if you took the risk to moon at school where you are likely to get caught, then why boo hoo all the way about your punishment, and as far as dad being upset.... he is the one missing work due to your actions, causing less money to come in to support YOU by himself, since mom isnt around.
maybe when you have kids you will understand. its not all about you.
whatever you decide to do will come back on your parents most of the time, till you are of legal age

Answer 6

Why contained in the international might you moon all and sundry? we live in Texas and that i did no longer comprehend they could whip the toddlers. properly they could no longer in our area in any case. What have been you thinking? i presumed females your age have been nonetheless somewhat shy approximately exhibiting all and sundry their buts. Sounds embarrassing to me. Hate to tell you this, yet i think of you got off rather undemanding. have been given to maintain your telephone and laptop?? which would be the two issues to no longer lose. so which you're able to stay abode and do a pair greater chores and no allowance? and that i'm particular that your dad wasn't merely screaming because of the fact he became lacking paintings. He became in all probability thinking why you will possibly do something like that. It could desire to be no longer undemanding and not utilising a mom. sounds like your dad went to bat for you, getting the suspension reduces. supply him a injury. sounds like he became greater desirable than honest.

Answer 7

It sounds like it was handled right. You have to learn that you are a young adult now and should behave like one. Also to respect your school. Now as far as the statement you made about your Dad caring about missing work, he has to be accountable to his employer and show responsibility also. But you do need to sit down with your Dad and tell him that you need more of his attention, RIGHT?

Answer 8

Did you ever try to think of things from your dad's point of view? Maybe he's so caught up in work because he needs to be a provider for you, and he's a single parent. Stop getting into trouble, and tell him how you feel.

Answer 9

LOL!! I really don't know. My son is only two and we laugh when he does stuff like that! I think your punishment is a little harsh. I would ground you and just hope that you would never do that again!! I would be more pissed that I had to leave work! Good Luck!!

Answer 10

I hope u hve a nice but. Otherwise u should hve gotten much much worse. If u do, then tht really suks. The school should hve made an exception for you.