What is one way to help not be sad in the month of September?

Question

because september is the most sad month because it sept 20th is my mom birthday and she passed away on sept 22 of 99 and it is still hard

Answer 1

Volunteer in her honor. Make a difference in someone's life whether a child or an elderly person. Take a spa retreat in her honor. Do something you have always wanted to try. Forgive someone. Reconnect with an old friend. Join Chemoangels.com or Soldiersangels.com and touch another in a special way by mail.

You should live the best life you can possibly live to honor your mother's life and love for you.

Pray and maybe even find a consolation support group. There is no set time to mourn and you will always miss her, but you may benefit from the testimony of others.

Answer 2

Get a really good photo of your mom, ideally one where she's smiling and having a good time, and keep it out where you can see it. Celebrate her birthday on the 20th by thinking of her and maybe doing an extra good deed or two on her behalf. Be happy for the time you had together, remember the best things about her and celebrate her life. That's the best way to remember anyone! Make September a time of good memories and kind deeds, and you'll start looking forward to the month.

Answer 3

My mom still has a hard time during the month that her mother was born in and the month in which she died. My grandmother passed away 18 years ago.

To make it easier perhaps you could spend some time with those you love remembering the memories you have about your mother. Instead of spending that time mourning her (I'm not saying you shouldn't do that at all) spend it rejoicing in the life she had and all the wonderful things she gave the world before she left (you for example). Celebrate her life ... it will be bittersweet but hopefully the sweetness will out way the pain.

Answer 4

Perhaps you can look at some pictures of her and remember what happened in her life, including what you did with her and all of the good times that you shared together.

Sadness is sometimes okay but try to not dwell on it too much as there is nothing you can do about it now. :(

Here are some songs which you may like that contain the theme of September:

Wake Me Up When September Ends- Greenday
and
September Of My Years- Frank Sinatra

I personally like September of my Years because it always gives me perspective on my life and where I am within the song... you'll see.

Think of the circle of life and of all the happy things that happen as we get older.

Good Luck and keep your chin up!

Answer 5

If the leaves on the trees in your area are already turning to their beautiful autumn colors, think of them as a whole bouquet held up for your mom to see.
I think I'd start writing a letter to her. Start out with what the family did for Labor Day weekend (assuming you're in the US). Tell her how some small tradition that she started is being upheld, and how it made you smile to think of her that day.
Write about the start of school. And reminisce about what she used to do special each year when you started school. If you're carrying on any part of that tradition with your children, write of that, and how remembering her made you smile.
If it's time to get the car ready for winter, think about whether your mom & dad ever discussed it about now, too. Write to her how that influenced your decision, and how thinking back on them made you smile.
Invest some time into discovering how many things you do on a daily basis that she influenced. Do you vacuum first, then dust because that's the way she taught you? Tell her how nice your house looks because of the things she taught you. And how discovering her influence in your home made you smile.
Then, bypass thinking of her birthday. You need to concentrate on the day you lost her. But by now, you'll realize that you didn't lose her...not really. She's manifested in you. And smile that you are now a person as worthy of love as she was.

Answer 6

First, so sorry that you lost your mother. That said, think of what your mom would have wanted for you. I have 3 sons and one grandson. If I were to pass away, I would want more than anything for them to be happy. Sounds like you and she were close. You cannot believe that she would want you to be sad honey. The very best gift you could give her or her memory would be to celebrate what you love about her. No guilt, no sorrow. If she loved you as I love my boys, she would want you to be deliriously happy and never for a split second want you to be sad at her memory or to dwell on the loss of her-there is no doubt in my mind. Give her that honor and that gift, and give those things to yourself. Without a second thought. If she is watching over you now, and you know that she is; that is what would make her happy.

Answer 7

Volunteer for a cause she liked or supported. Visit a favorite place she liked and make it a yearly event. Doing something like a "tradition" will give you something to look forward to, not be sad about.

We foster dogs for a rescue group because my departed mother-in-law loved dogs and the group. Being part of the group reminds my husband about his mom and is a huge benefit to the community. When my mother passes, I will continue our Fall outing we take every year together. Even though she won't be there, I remember her that way.

Deceased people don't want us to "die" with them, they want you to go on and live your life.

Answer 8

Remember her with a smile. It's hard when grief won't let go, but try to remember her for the happy times. Go on holiday, get away, do something new. Associate the month with something positive, happy memories of her and not the period in which you lost her. Good luck.

Answer 9

Anniversary depression is very common. Try to focus on a new beginning if you are school age, throw yourself into school activities and sports, or your studies. Make new good memories to take the place of negative ones on the day your mother died. You are not betraying her by being happy and continuing to live your life. Every mother would want their daughter to be happy. Good luck and I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

Maybe you might have to make something happy that will happen on that date so to try and level out that depression.

Maybe go on a holiday to a place that you will only see once. Just try and make something great happen sometime in the future, so that date won't be so painful.