How much bad luck can one person take??

Question

Seriously? In 3 yrs I have lost a child, gone through dirovce, started over new with everything in my life because of my divorce, then I lost my job due to "downsizing", I have an ex husband who doesn't see his kids nor does he help support his childern. How many trials can one person take. Seriously! I just don't understand why I can't ever seem to catch a break with life on the easy street. Will thing turn around for me? Hell I'm only 26 my divorce was 2 yrs ago and my son died almost 3 yrs ago when he was almost 6 months old....and I have two kids that I'm raising. Life is hard and someday's I'm just tired of trying!

I don't want my ex back!!!! He is remarried anyways and going through a divorce with her along with not being a father to there child as well.

Answer 1

I am so sorry you had to go through all those things. It must be the hardest things you've ever experienced.

I'm 32 now almost 33. I spent my twenties in contant chaos. Married, divorced, broke, friendless, depressed, and I didn't have much of anything good going on.

One day about a year ago a was laying in bed in my lonley one bedroom apartment, thinking about painless ways I could kill myself. I don't know what happened. I think maybe fight or flight, but I got some things together at about 3am in the morning and drove to another town to stay with some friends. I looked for work and hooked up with some old friends. Basically, I made a new life for myself in a new city.

Since then I got a great job with the city. Met my fiancee online and we've moved in together. We're expecting our first baby in January. Things are more wonderous that I could've ever imagined they would be.

The point is that life can turn on you on a dime. Keep working at it. Do the best thing you can do for yourself and your children every day. Things change, they always do. My best wishes are with you and yours. Good luck.

"And I know what I have to do now. I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?" -Chuck Noland from Cast Away

P.S. See that movie if you haven't it might cheer you up.

Answer 2

Even though I'm 18 and haven't been through what you have been through let me say that you are a strong survivor because people like you become stronger believe it or not. Things happen for a reason. I don't know your faith but I believe in God and he has definitely carried me through storms and I'm still here to talk about it. I'm still living and for a reason I might add. And I am some body's testimony and you are too. You did not go through all that for nothing but for something and don't say you didn't get nothing out of that. You are still living and well and have a lot to do with your life so don't give in and don't give up. One day all the things that you've been through; people who've been or in the same predicament can see your life as a hope for their own and for them to keep going and never quitting. My friend it says in the bible that you can do all things through Christ which strengthens you and everything is possible to him that believes. Step out and faith and become that woman your suppose to be. Your not that marriage or the mishaps and bad luck. You will help somebody with your testimony if you hold on and see the person you really are which is beautiful. Don't be discouraged but encouraged and stand taking the place where you deserve to be. You can always find hope in the lord and that's the truth.
Keep your head up.

Answer 3

Life will turn around for you. This might not help, but when I'm having down days I always think about the people that have it less forutnate then me. I know it's hard to realize that at times, but it's true.

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, I'm sure it isn't easy. Does your ex pay any child support? There is a lot of legal programs that can help you out with that, and there are also other programs in your community that should be able to help you. I don't know if you attend church but that is a really great place to start. I personally don't attend, but I know a young mother who lost her husband with 3 young boys, her church took her in and her whole life has turned around. She was left with nothing when her husband died, she lost everything and now she has a thriving business all because other people helped her out. Don't be too proud to ask for help, others understand and realize you are going through tough times, and as long as you are willing to help yourself others will want to help you as well.

You have to keep going for the sake of your children, it's not easy and may not be for awhile, but be positive and things will turn around and you'll be such a stronger person because of all of this.

Answer 4

Sounds like you have had it bad. Just hang in there, some things go in bunches and you have shown by what you went through that you are a fighter. You just chose the wrong man, and as far as the job, that happens alot. Just take it a step at a time, and day by day. Things will get better. If you don't go to Church, now would be a good time to go, as many of good friends were made there and are sure to help you along the rough paths.

Answer 5

You can handle anything that is thrown at you. Know why? It is either survive and overcome and cope, or die. And dying is not going to help your children or you. So you must handle everything thrown at you.

I have been there. I was abandoned along a highway in a hot car by my mother at 4 months old. My father took custody of me. He started to molest me by the time I was six months old. That went on my entire childhood. By 18 I lived with my grandparents after a big (and messy) court battle. They found out I was gay, and they found out I was abused at age 19. I was disowned. I became homeless-- I was living behind a dumpster in the wintertime, eating whatever others threw out in their trash and going to the food line for a hot meal every day. I got into a relationship with a guy to have a roof over my head, and spent several years being beaten and raped by him. I got involved in alcohol and drugs and tried to kill myself several times.

I had a chance thrown at me to have employment. I took that opportunity. I worked hard, got an apartment of my own, by myself.

Skp ahead ten years. I have moved away from that area. I am now 35 years old. I am a Sophomore at a University in a Major city in the south. I am majoring in psychology. I go to school as well as work full time and I run a household.

I have had it hard, harder than alot, and so have you. The loss of a child is the hardest thing ANYONE could ever go through. Even the abuse I suffered does not compare to the pain you have felt by losing a child. BUT every day the sun still rises. Meaning every day, a new day starts, and we MUST pick ourselves up and carry on. We do not have a choice. Mourn the loss of your child, never forget that child, but continue with your life-- when your remaining children are grown up, and have families of their own, you will look back at the dark days and remember that it was your strength and your courage which helped shape their lives, and they will pass that on down to their own children.

Life is hard, but you are strong and CAN cope with it.
My heart goes out to you, and if you ever need a listening ear, just drop me a message and I will gladly listen and share the pain with you. Sometimes sharing the pain is better than going it alone. I know. I have lived more life in my 35 years than most people live in 100 years.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Just breath. It WILL get better. I lost a daughter...not to death, but she is living with family far away. I rarely speak with her. I lost my 13 yr. relationship w/ her dad 3 yrs, ago...and lost a job due to medical issues. My father had a stroke, and my grandma died. All hell was breaking loose, and I was drowning in the middle of it all! Well, just recently, my life came together...I met a new guy and he's the best thing that's EVER happened to me. I was so close to wanting to give up many times...and people told me to hang in there it'd get better. I thought they were full of crap...well, things ARE better. You just need to be patient hun. I wish you and your family well, and remember to make time for YOU when you feel overwhelmed. Bubble-baths are a great relief. Good luck.

Answer 7

I totally feel the same some days. But i think we all do at times.Just think that god gave you all these things to deal with because you are a strong woman. Thats how i see myself. Even though some days i feel like i just cant do it anymore.Im a single mom trying to raise my son,,,and i know its not easy by no means. Im sorry for all that you have gone through.But things will someday get better for you. You just gotta believe that they will. I think you are doing great from what you have said here. Keep uoir head up and take one day at a time.You will be just fine!

Answer 8

Don't believe in luck, beleieve in God, turn your life onto Him, you'll se the sunrise and beautiful sunsets. You will also learn why your baby is gone, and where he is at now.

You don't have to spend three days out of the week in church, for I personally think that the relationship with God is personal, between you and Him only. He knows your troubles and sufferings, He's waiting for you to come to Him.

Kneal down and talk to him the same way you posted this question. He's a lot better than all of us here, He'll confort you, He'll lead you and He'll Bless you and your children. I just said a prayer for you. In Jesus Precious Name.

I did it, I an happy I did it.

Answer 9

You are 26, you are beautiful, you will find happiness don't let all of these set backs drag you down, you can't if you want good to happen for you. Maybe you could work out your marriage if he hasn't been with anyone else and if you haven't. You may meet one of the many decent men who would love to be with you and treat your family as his own when you are ready. I have known many good men like this. I wish you luck and wish I could give you a big hug, downsizing sucks I've been pushed back in my career because of it

Answer 10

God doesn't put anything in your life that you can't handle. Just think how much stronger you will be for going through all this. God's walking right there with you and he will never abandon you. God bless you and keep you strong. I know it's easy to say stuff like that when somebody's not going through it, but I really believe it's the truth. Keep your head up.