this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, I know this is a no, but is it a no because she doesnt like me, or because she is afraid of ruining the frienship. Because we are close, and have known each other since 5 years old?? What should I do?
2006-08-31 12:10:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's just not into you!! read the book...he's just not into you. it's for girls and guys.
2006-08-31 12:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think she's being nice and straight up honest with you. She's not ready for a boy friend girl friend type of relationship. She's young still and so are you. Give it time. Be her friend. When she starts really finding guys interesting maybe you'll be her first and only true love real boy friend. Hope is good there. She's being for real with you she doesn't want to ruin the friendship you've had for the last 8 years. So slow down, stop worrying and be her friend for now. Take it from there. She may even love you like a brother now then maybe in a few years a bf. Who knows how girls think at that age. Female advice take over from here please. LOL.
2006-08-31 19:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is the best thing that this cruel world has to offer.If she doesn't want anything serious then you as a friend should respect that. What you have lots of people envy, and that should make you proud. Remember that good things come to those that wait. And if she really cares for you like I think she does then that means that she does care of you. And right know that all she needs ... a friend.
Good luck!!!
2006-08-31 19:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sex witch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to tell the feelings of the person if it's just text; it's easier for me to tell what they're thinking if it's an actual conversation. But I'll try my best...
I believe that she is not only scared of ruining your relationship, but she is also afraid, period. It can be a tough decision for a girl of 13 (I'm no older myself). It also depends on what you asked her to do. Go to the movies, or something else? Just hang out with her and be a good friend to her, but never give up on her; if you truly feel that you like this girl, you won't give up on her. I'm not sure whether or not you LOVE her, but just try your best. If it doesn't come out well, try again.
2006-08-31 19:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to read what she wrote. She cherishes your freindship, and doesn't want to lose that. That you and she have had a great freindship for years means a lot to her. She seems to want to hang onto that, and trusts you to be her friend and confidant for years to come. It is true, in many cases, that moving from friendship to something more serious isn't the best thing to do because if things don't work out, then the friendship may not be re-attainable at all. Think about it, and Good Luck!
2006-08-31 19:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case, i think that this girl is stating her feelings pretty obviously. She just wants your friendship. You are a good friend, keep it that way....Right now that's all she sees you as, and that's all you should want to be. Respect her wishes, and start looking elsewhere for romantic ties. I think she would be happy for you. In this case...I doubt NO...means Yes....It means No, but I do believe she might be trying to spare a friends feelings..So just be happy about that, sometimes young ladies don't think in those terms.
2006-08-31 19:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was pretty obvious, all she wants to be with you, is your friend, not a boyfriend.
So just go back to being her friend, and forget about asking her out on a date.
Find another girl to go out on dates with. Maybe when you two are older, your relationship might change. But for now, it's the status quo, let it, be, go back to what you two had before.
2006-08-31 19:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes you as a friend and she doesn't want it to be more than friendship. She says you have always been a good friend. If you want to be more than friends with her, she doesn't want it. She is so young. Just be her friend and maybe down the road, it will turn to more.
2006-08-31 19:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She likes you as a friend....she does not want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with you. Remain friends, but don't persue the girl. Otherwise your friend since 5 may run and you will never see her. Go persue other girls.
2006-08-31 19:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by goldelox9990 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a no man. How old are you? English is my second language and even I can tell that's a BIG NO.
Time to back off. You need to give her some space or you are going to lose that friendship, ifyou havent lost it already.
Seriously: back off
2006-08-31 19:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must really like this chick to ask this question twice. Go to my profile on yahoo answers and email me if you wish, I might be able to help you out.
2006-08-31 19:21:01 · answer #11 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋