She called her ex-lover at 3AM when I was out of town, is this reason to break up with somebody?
2006-08-31 11:56:24 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have to say yes. Why was she calling him at all? Further more, why at that hour? Like my grand mother used to say "Ain't nothing open after midnight except for the hospital and some legs!"
Go with your gut instinct.
2006-08-31 12:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is why she did this. I have found that a lot not all but a lot of both males and females need constant attention. The point that she called is not so much to question but rather why she was thinking of him to initiate the call. Breaking up is avoiding the question all together. Wouldn't you rather know why. Your question is very vague. Are there problems in your relationship? Do you two live together? How serious is your relationship? Trust is key. Do you know because she told you? Often people are compelled to do irrational things. It sounds like you were not available for her to call her by means of traveling, hence, not having a phone. But was her need emotional just someone to talk to. I do not think it was right of her to call an ex. But understanding why and knowing if she is the type that needs drama in her life is all interesting. A lot of peoples behavior is learned not taught. If she told you kudos for making you aware of the situation but trust is key in a relationship. Once you lose trust you will always have what if's in your head and it can drive you insane because instead of enjoying yourself you will put so much energy in wondering what the other person is doing. Noone lives in your shoes so noone can or knows how the relationship is. Do what's in your heart and then let your mind follow or vice versa.
2006-08-31 12:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by dioress007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion this isnt looking like a healthy relationship. Why didnt she call you if she was having a problem or just wanted someone to talk to. You arnt even sure what happend when she called him because you were gone. Honesty and trust are the most important things in a relationship. But I wonder how you knew that she called him? If you found out easily, then she really wasnt worried about you knowing... but if you had to really dig to find out, you are scared that she is unfaithful, or sneaky... and that is not healthy in any relationship. Good luck!
2006-08-31 12:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you out of town doing?
Were you with other women?
Otherwise yes I think this is a good reason to break up with someone, she sounds like she is keeping her options open or that she is still in love.
2006-08-31 12:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it would make me wonder and I would go with your gut instinct. Why didn't she call you while you were out of town instead of him. It makes me think that she was interested in some sort of a relationship with him. I would ask her about her feelings upfront and tell her your feelings about what she did.
Tell her you do not want to be in a relationship if she is still having feeling for her ex. You deserve better than that.
2006-08-31 12:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, get out before she hurts you. Because there is NO REASon to call her ex . Here are the three strikes.
One, she called her ex
Two, she did it at 3am
Three, she did it while you were away.
I mean, maybe if she told you RIGHT away you should stay, but me personally, thats a violation of trust, and I'd leave. Best of luck man.
2006-08-31 12:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by theonewhoguides 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why she called. Are they still good friends who are close? Do you think she maybe called to tell him how much she missed you? Does she hide things a lot? Did she tell you this information or did you find out? Is she someone you see yourself being with for the long haul? Cause if not? Yeah, I'd dump her....she's too sneaky.
2006-08-31 11:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't she call you instead? I would hate to think my guy would wake up a 3 am and the first thing he thought of was "oh I think I will call my ex. If she is that bored and lonley then she must be trying to keep her options open.
2006-08-31 12:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she did it...maybe it's no big deal. My best guy friend was a former ex...and there is never anything between us anymore. Don't break up until you know that there's an attraction.
2006-08-31 11:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants to get back with him so I think you should ask her why she called him and then if she tells you she still likes him then get rid of her. If i was you i would get rid of her now unless she jsut called him to ask him a question. TO me u r in a complicated situation. I hope you get through it all right!
2006-08-31 11:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by mac_lefty_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋