My step-son is a lump! I try to get him to go play but there arn't alot of other kids around. It just seems like back in the day we just FOUND stuff to do. We would pretend or make the back yard a forest or SOMETHING.... He just breaths and takes up space. My mother in law feels like I'm picking on him. He goes back to school in a week. He's been outside twice all summer. Am I asking too much?
2006-08-31 11:21:26 · 13 answers · asked by cabinfeverjen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For you critics who are so quick to blame me... That is the ONLY time he will do anything is when I do it with him. I have a two year old to tend to as well and a home to tend to. I would love to have nothing else to do but tend to him but he is one of a few things that need my attention. I suppose if you think I'm a ***** for wanting him to do something you'd really hate me for not caring if he turned into an obese child with no imagination. God you people are unbelievable. Damned if you do and damned if you don't!
2006-08-31 13:50:06 · update #1
get used to the times
2006-08-31 11:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try counseling. Maybe this boy has somethings he is going through and doesn't feel like he can trust anyone enough to talk about it. Even though he is just lounging, he is actually crying out for help. By what you are saying he needs a friend. Have you tried to be his friend? Have you introduced those same games you used to play to him? Maybe he just doesn't know how. Teach him and give him the time and attention he may have been lacking for the last 9 years. What does his mother do to motivate her son? Seems like you two may want to try family outtings or something.
2006-08-31 18:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by menyauna s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking about the problem and think of a solution.. why not take him to the zoo, His dad can teach him how to build/fix things.. sports are a great way to get him in shape and also give u a few hours alone with ur hubby.. and kids who aren't acting normal and (he isn't ) might have something else going on.. have u taken him to a doctor? why did u let him do this all summer and are just now worried about it.. I think maybe u are the problem cuz u sound like a B**ch! get that kid some HELP!
2006-08-31 18:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cabinfeverjen..
How about someone Motivate YOUR Fat @ss to get up off the computer?!
YOU've been on YahooAnswers for Over a Month, w/ 17 Best answers and Over 175 answers! WTF? Nice way to Waste your kids' entire summer vacation!
And you complain about your 9-yr old step-son being a LUMP, Breathing, and Taking up Space??
OMG! How much Space does your Lazy @SS take up sitting in front of that screen all day?
You are a loser, and you are a Horrible mother, you should be Ashamed.
2006-09-01 12:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he interested in any sports? My son is much older, but he was getting to the point to where he stayed inside all day and just played video games. This year we signed up for the local football league. They have a Spring and Fall Season. My son's time was undefeated for the Spring Season, and now we are never home. Constantly driving him to practices and games. Are you willing to put that much effort into it? Or do you just want him out of your hair?
2006-08-31 18:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by impatientone_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what do you expect. It doesn't sound like you taught him how to play. Playing is something that children learn by playing with their parents and if you did not cover this then it is on you. If you call him a lump(dude, your his MOM) then why should he go out around strangers who may treat him worse than you. take him walking and by him a bike, does he like to swim, take him to lake with friends, but mom, you must change first, and complaining/insulting will not get the job done. Hope this helps.
2006-08-31 18:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh harsh mom!! "He just breaths and takes up space?" Does he know you feel that way about him? Maybe he's afraid if he leaves the house...you'll forget who he is or you wont be there. If he went outside to play by himself you'd probably say he's a freak who talks to himself. Youre mother in law is verrrry correct.
2006-08-31 18:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to motivate a 9 yr. old boy to go outside and play. #1 Make sure he has toys to play with outside such as bike, scooter, skateboard etc... #2 Take away the things that keep him inside such as TV, videogames, computer etc... #3 Make a little bit of time to spend with him and try to understand that it's boring and difficult to play by yourself unless you invent an imaginary friend, but at his age you would have even bigger problems to worry about.
2006-08-31 21:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a *****, He probably would rather Watch TV or play video games. If there arn't any other kids around do you expect him to just go play by himself, get real, he's got nothing to do. get him a dirtbike or a BBgun so he can go hurt himself.
2006-08-31 18:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ivan D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, your not asking too much. In fact it is a prooven fact that we need sunlight in order to get certain vitamins. The best thing you can do is get him involved in some type of sports. Even if he isn't into them it will force him to participate and get more active.
2006-08-31 18:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋