I am in the same boat with you. My husband has a 6 year old daughter that we have not seen in almost 3 years because his ex-wife is so jealous of me and my relationship that I was building with the child until she done everything she could to stop the child from coming here, we live in the same town also I might add. It is hard on him to deal with it, but he says that one day she will grow up and come back to him, although he is missing so much now with her growing up. Just stand by your husband and give him comfort when he needs it. You will always be the outsider as far as the ex is concerned even though I am sure when the child was with you and your husband you were probably the one taking care of her. Us women have a tendency to be so jealous of the other woman because we are afraid that our babies will love someone else as much as they love us.......Just pray for her, sounds like she needs it.....I know I pray for my husband's ex, cause God in Heaven knows she needs it.....Good luck honey
2006-08-31 11:11:34
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answered by dixiegirl 3
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For one thing you left alot of info out...
Does the mother have sole custody, does she have a right to make such a decision. If your husband had equal custody of his daughter then there is not much his wife can do about you being in contact with his daughter, as you are legally her stepmother, and the biological mom should know this.
Is there a court order on you that you can't be around children, barring that, I can't see what the mother of the child can do to stop you from meeting your step daughter. Ask your husband to seek legal advice on this, he has just as much right to the child as she does unless there is a court order stating otherwise.
I hate it when parents make their children pawns in a situation that can only damage the child in the end. Your husband has a responsibility to his daughter to ensure that her primary caregiver (in this case I am assuming the mom is) is healthy enough both, physically and mentally to do what is in the best interest of the child. Not what she thinks out of spite. There is alot wrong with the picture you have painted without more info , seek a lawyer.
Good luck.
2006-08-31 11:12:05
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answered by Neptune2bsure 6
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Unless you have been ordered by the court to have no contact with this child she has no right to keep her from you. As long as your husband has some kind of custody (unless it's restricted by the courts) he can do whatever he wants when he has her.
Sounds like she is afraid her daughter might like you.
Good Luck
Blessed Be
2006-08-31 11:03:25
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answered by paganmom 6
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That is weird. Do you think she does not want that because of something you have done or she is very insecure?
As said before, give it some time. I am sure she will start considering that eventually.
Be patient by the way and do not let this affect your relationship with your husband.
2006-08-31 11:36:48
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answered by tabularasa73 2
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He has long previous back to his united states which shows he grew to become into of a distinctive way of life. Unfotunately, its a hardship-loose element that he will probable have discovered somebody the place he's, and that's is greater clever for him to start up afresh extremely than be reminded of the previous. there is not something you're able to do, on account that he's overseas. in spite of the shown fact that, i think of you're able to take a seat with your ladies and clarify that daddy had to pass to a distinctive united states, and he will attempt to touch them while he can. You clarify which you realize they omit him, yet you 3 are a "unit", and which you will adore them adequate to make up for you and daddy. Your ladies would be slightly clingy using fact they are going to be scared you will leave them, so please, only lavish them with various time and interest. If he can abandon his little ones, then its maximum suitable to purely get on with it, and if he contacts you, then high-quality, and if not, dont stay on it, using fact this is going to impression your ladies.
2016-10-01 03:43:09
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answered by Anonymous
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you need to just chill and allow your husband and his daughter to establish a relationship just be good to the girl when you do see her and don't try to have conversations with the mom just be polite when she calls in time she will see your not a threat and the situation will mellow out been there done that
2006-08-31 12:09:43
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answered by Sandra 2
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Take it easy my dear, this things come naturally, all you need is a little bit of patience and with time everything will sort itself out, you don't need to rush it, the daughter will come to like you herself and she'll be the one to come looking for you and her mom aint gonna be able to say anything.
So all you nee do now is make her understand that you aint got nothing against her, i.e, the daughter.
2006-08-31 11:06:02
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answered by CPR 2
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There is not enough info here to answer. For example, how old is the daughter? What are the terms of visitation from the court?
2006-08-31 11:04:44
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answered by rhymingron 6
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My husband is having contact with his daughter?
2014-12-12 22:13:08
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answered by ? 2
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honey im in that same circumstance what i do is give her the respect that she wants and deserves. i go by her rules with the kids. occasionally call her and ask how the kids are and if she wouldn't mind if you could tag along on an activity so you could see how she is with her kids. tell her that you want to get to know the kids and if she won't let you see them at your house then how about hers. it works for me just see if you can get her to break. let her guard down! it will work, just be patient
2006-08-31 11:09:16
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answered by Anonymous
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