help!I want to toast at my wedding but parents in law paid 4 the wedding, my parents didnt, want to toast both

Question

So, my fiance's mom and step dad, are letting us live w/ them until our house is ready- and helped us/paid for the wedding in october. MY parents who live 5 hours away, cant (but want to ) help pay. they just filed bankrupsy...
So i want to toast to parents in law because i appreciate them so much, but then my parents will be hurt, and feel like losers. How do i toast to both of them, without making my parents feel bad, but still show appreciation to parents in law??????????????

Answer 1

Do one toast to "the parents". Then thank both for their love and support, etc. Address each by name and say a few kind words to each pair. No need to mention particulars, such as who paid for what, or who didn't. Just thank them for being there for you..
Best wishes,
Flamingo

Answer 2

Your guest need not know who paid for what. Honestly, the toast should be about the love and understanding your parents showed you while you were a child and as a teenager, if you were a typical teenager you know you were hard to live with.

You sound like a reasonable young lady, tell your parents they are the best and that you are blessed because now you have another set of parents ready to welcome you into their family as their own. How many blessings can a girl ask for, also thanking your future in-laws for having raised such a handsome and thoughtful (if he is thoughtful) fellow. You know sugar plum everything, you should never think of your parents as loosers, bad things happen to everyone, things will come around for them again I'm sure.

Have fun at your wedding. Wish I could be there Lol

Answer 3

You should toast both sets of parents. You and your future husband should both stand up and thank them both for bringing you into the world and for everything that they have done. Be generic in the speech, and let the inlaws know on the side that you really appreciate all that they have done for your special day. If it wasn't for your parent's you wouldn't be here. I'm sure that all your parents have done for you in the past (with money and love) is priceless. Don't forget them.

Answer 4

I don't think it's necessary to mention the money in the toast; actually, that would be tacky. Just toast both sets of parents and thank them for their love, support, and help planning the wedding. No one needs to know how much monetary help each side gave; that's no one's business but yours.

Answer 5

Well you can toast to both of them just not about the financial part. You can say " I want to toast to think my parents and inlaws for both being there for me when I needed them the most I know all of you will be there for me now and into my future." You can add I love all of you or thank for being you, or something like that.

Answer 6

You should definitly toast to both sets of parents. Try something like"

" I would like to take this moment to thank my mom and dad for all the love and support they have given me throughout the years. They've stood by me, supprted me, and loved me unconditionally. I wouldn't be the person I am today, if they had not guided me with such tender devotion. I would also like to thank (insert your in-laws names) for welcoming me whole-heartedly into their family. Your acceptance and support has been a true blessing. Thank you for raising your son to be the man of my dreams."

I just wrote that off the top of my head so you don't have to worry about it having been used before. Relax. Everything will be just fine. If you have more questions you can contact me.

Congrats and best wisshes!

Answer 7

What does paying for your wedding have to do with anything? You can toast both sets of parents.

Answer 8

Do one toast, thanking everyone who has made this day extra special, especially mr. & mrs....(whoever the inlaws are) and your parents name. List the inlaws first, but don't single them out cause your parents WILL feel like crap. You can have a special thank you note at the parents table on their plates before everyone gets there, thank your parents with all that mushy stuff, and then in the in laws thank you card, thank them for the financial help and mushy stuff. that's what i would do.

Answer 9

you could say something like "we would both like to toast our parents, the wonderful people who each raised the special person we are marrying today. without the support of their love and encouragement, today would not be possible. thank you for loving us and helping us become the people we are so that today our families can unite as one". something along those lines where you're both thanking both sets of parents, without trampling anyone's toes. that way you're thanking them for their support through the years, and not just for the wedding.

Answer 10

"I would like to take this opportunity to thank my parents for everything they have done for me. *list all the things you want to say* Without them, I wouldn't be the person I am today. I would also like to thank my new in-laws for all the love and support they have shown me. *insert list here* Without them, we wouldn't be here today. I would like to thank them all for being such wonderful parents, and I hope I be as wonderful as they are when I have kids of my own."

I wouldn't come out and mention money, but use words that convey how much each side has helped you along the way. It's better to talk about "support" and/or "assistance" than to say "they paid for this". Since your parents were not capable of contributing, I think actually talking about money would hurt their feelings. Try to say how much everybody means to you and your husband instead.
Besides, some people still think talking about money is rude and/or vulgar.