me and my gf been together for 3 yrs now and we live in different states. she use to live here now she dont (long story) ne way her home coming dance is coming up in a few months and i dont know what to do because I want her to go because i dont wana take the apportunity away from her but then again i dont want her to go because i am a jeleous person and i dont want her to be all close to some other guy and his hands all over her and that i dont even know. We all know his intentions and what happens after homecoming. what am i pose to do about her prom night also not let her go and her be mad at me? She will prolly go with or without my permission any way what should i do??
2006-08-31 10:39:45 · 23 answers · asked by xtremecrakhed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were her, I would want you to get on a bus and travel to where I am, and go with me. Her parents probably would let you stay there. Or, if you can drive, and your parents will let you make the trip, go there yourself. Three years is a long time to be together, and since you feel that way about her going with somebody else, you will never be satisfied with this whole thing unless you go to those dances with her. Make it happen.
2006-08-31 10:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a dance. She doesn't need your permission; you are not her dad. She does want your support. She can find a friend that is a guy. It's OK, and if she does hook up with someone else, maybe your relationship wasn't strong enough anyway. Surely, you have the confidence in your relationship to withstand a night of dancing, right? No? Well, then you have a whole different problem.
2006-08-31 17:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be jealous, there is nothing more unattractive than a guy who is jealous and controlling. If you are that worried why don't you save up your money and fly out there to go with her, you ARE her boyfriend aren't you? But you have NO right to tell her she can't do this or that or go here cause you have a mind that tends to get the best of you and you can't control your thoughts. If you trust her there should be NO issues with her going. don't take away from her high school memories or make them bad memories for her. She has a right to go to homecoming, and prom and every other function at her school and have a blast without the thought of you being pissed at her while she's there. So to solve your problem, fly out to go with her!
2006-08-31 17:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a few months...start putting away some money and take your girl to her homecoming. If you don't have a job, get one, do side work, talk to family and friends about doing odd jobs for them to make the money. Your girl would be so happy you did something so romantic and special for her it would make it the most memorable prom night any girl could have! If you can't do it, your going to have to let her go on her own, this is a once in a lifetime thing. Don't blow it.
2006-08-31 17:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "not let her go", or be the one to "give her permission". You're not her father, you are her boyfriend. I now it sounds cruel, but the bottom line is that she is the only one in control of her actions I would like to think that no girl would pass up their high school prom or homecoming because her boyfriend was jealous. Let her enjoy these experiences. Are you going to pass up your high school dances?? You shouldn't. Go and have fun! Encourage her to go so she knows how much you trust her. Your relationship will be nothing without trust:)
2006-08-31 17:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do feel sorry for you. It must be hard that after three years someone else can make the decision to take her away to another place. You have to let her have her high school years or she will end up resenting you forever. As hard as it may be , you have to tell her to go to the dance and mean it. It is something you have to trust her with. If your relationship is sound, maybe you can both go to the same college.
2006-08-31 17:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far away do you live from her? Could you have some one drive you to her and you be her date? If not, you are correct in that, she will go whether you like it or not. You are also correct that you shouldn't expect her to miss out on these things. True love will pass all tests. If you trust her, there is no reason to be jealous. Of course you don't have to trust all the guys she meets, but you trust her and that is all you need. Tough spot for you though.
2006-08-31 17:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by mine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go to homecoming with her girl friends. As for prom-that is a different story. You may have to let her go with a long time friend that will treat her with respect. You are just going to have to trust her on this.
2006-08-31 17:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're living in different states, and you can't take her to the dance... then what kind of relationship do you two have? Long distance relationships (especially when you're young) are really tough. My advice... let her go and think about finding a girl that lives closer to you!
Sorry I couldn't be more help!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-31 17:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatly you can't make her not go. Your just going to have to trust her to do the right thing even if she does take someone else. If your having a hard time doing that then perhaps it's time you guys rethink this long distance romance.
2006-08-31 17:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋