Did you still love and respect a parent even though they did not do the best that they could?

Answer 1

Yes, because I believe that even the worst of us deserve love and it is only by showing people what love is that I can get them to show love themselves. As for respect everyone deserves that even some animals. I don't have to like or speak to anyone though, that is something I do by choice.

I didn't see my father till I was 10 and a half and then he constantly abused me physically, it wasn't until I realized he actually had a problem with himself, that I figured he wasn't worth hating. My mother disappointed me by supporting him as he was her husband and its against the culture she grew up in to contradict him.

Also, I have learnt over the years that it takes too much energy to hate and hold a grudge. That energy could be use to do something good and also I cannot change the past, it has been and gone, I can only learn to be better parents to my children, when/if I have them.

Answer 2

By not knowing what it was that the parent didn't enough of to be the best, this is hard to answer. As a parent though, I must say that most of the time, they do try their best, even though to a child it may not seem like it. There are things we want, or places we want to go, but sometimes we have to face everyday life and problems so it halters us from being the "best parent we can be". I don't know your situation with your parent/parents, but just remember, I am sure they love you, no matter what they did or didn't do for you and in return, you should still love them. I am sure they wanted the best for you but maybe they just weren't able to provide.......don't turn your love around on them though, cause without them, you wouldn't of been here sweetie........hope it all works out for you

Answer 3

I am a true believer that you do still love and respect a parent,because they are your parents, I know there is a lot of parents who didn't do much for their kids, or could of did more, and I'm sure if alot of parents could go back in time to change things, they would. Life is so short and we only have 1 mom and 1dad, I think we all need more compassion and forgiveness in our hearts, and not to be quick to judge, or hold grudges or hate in our hearts, but to be good to the people you care and love while they are still here, because you never know what the next minute holds.

Answer 4

It isn't always easy but I do have a better relationship with my dad now than I did growing up. He left my mother after she helped put him through some schooling and she had 3 kids under the age of 4 (I am the oldest). He never paid any support and was a very selfish man more interested in his girlfriends than his kids. It never truly goes away (those feelings that you weren't good enuff for daddy or that he isn't worthy of you now) but I do love and respect the old guy - though only really in the last 15 years or so.

Answer 5

Ya i do because you never know what the parent was going through at the time. you were a child therefore you dont know how they were feeling, what the moment was, and the things that were in their life at that time. its hard to know, and hard to put yourself in that spot when you were so young you cant even imagine how the parent was feeling, or anything like that. so id still love and respect the parent because at one time or another we all will feel like we didnt do our best, and we will all have some regrets, so i wouldnt hold it against someone, when i will go thru that at one time as well. parenting is very hard, and every parent makes mistakes, and misjudges things at one time or another, so i wont judge because it happens to everyone. also, when youre not in your right state of mind, you dont make the best decisions that you possibly could, so things always play into it.

Answer 6

Yes I suppose in part and in whole. I have gained understanding as I matured. My father died when I was a young teen, and my mom a few years back. I do miss them a lot, and I did spend a lot of time reflecting circumstances I did not like or understand then. Loss of respect was in there, partially due to my own beliefs and or set standards, but having looked at the whole picture in great depth and detail, did reveal their life story, and I guess I'm kind of proud of them having done everything to keep their marriage together, for 42 years, and was til death do them part. That is rare anymore...and to see this happen today...would be extraordinaire and completely out of the norm. So in their own way...whether I approved or disapproved of their choices and/or loss of respect i must respect their strength, their courage, their battles, their losses, in determination to keep our family together. How could I not look at it any other way. Therefore i guess, yes I still love them and respect them as my parents.

Answer 7

Yes, I still love and respect them. My parents are divorced and maybe I could say that they did not do to the best of their ability to mend their broken relationship before. But as far as I know, my father tried his best and so as my mother too eventhough the result is that I'd have to grow up without the other one. Who knows if the other parents out there tried their best but it ended up not as we all wanted, you know the happy ending endings. But as they say, everything happens for a reason. :)

Answer 8

i think as we grow older and have kids of our own i def think you look back and wish your parents could have done things differently.my parents views on things are still ,i think quite victorian and that really bugs me,i feel they arent being there for me.however you have tio realise that we are all different,your parents did the best they could at that time.everyone reacts to lifes situations differently dont they?im sure they wish they could have done more for you.hindsight is a gret thing.i look back at wish i could have done things differently when i was younger.you know,work harder,party less,travel more etc etc..but i didnt.maybe becouse i wasnt worldly wise enough.im sure that applys to everyone doesnt it.we all do the best at that time.and sometimes its not enough.especially when kidds judge everything all the time.are you a parent?if youre not,trust me its a tough job to get things right all the time!dont be to hard on them.lifes too short.try to remember the things they did right.us humans always focus on the negatiive dont we?and thats not healthy.

Answer 9

people do the best they can with what they are given. if they say they didn't memory fades hardship and at each time in their lives they had a decision to make. they did the best they could. i do not respect my father, he was a BAAAAAADDD parent, but he did the best he could with what he had. it just never involved my best interests. love is selfless and cannot coexist with selfishness, so you decide. i love my father. love anr respect are very different.

Answer 10

Honor thy Mother & thy Father. But that doesn't mean you have to agree with who they are or what they do. Break whatever cycle they have pulled you into by becoming strong and doing what you know to be right. You too will make some mistakes, no one is perfect but some parents are really clueless so just do your very best. Recognize their mistakes as who you don't want to become! Good Luck!!