I got this friend (single child) and he went to military recently, his father died and his grandma and mom are all alone now (no other siblings, family), they need emotional support and financial. I mean how long will the grandma live and the mother of the soldier doesn't even speak english, how will she live once the grandma passes away. Is there way to get the solider out of the military, without dishonorable discharge? Please I really need to get my friend out of the army, his family needs him.
2006-08-31 10:32:44 · 13 answers · asked by RH 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He can always apply for a "hardship discharge". They have a procedure in place for applying and they make a determination based on the facts. The more facts indicating the family needs him at home, the more likely it will be considered. But nothing is a "sure thing" when it comes to the military.
And yes, it has to be HIS decision to want to try to get the discharge...not yours.
2006-08-31 10:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by hotandtastylady 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He can try for a hardship discharge. But I just don't know at this point in time what they will do. If he can prove that his grandma and mom are physically ill and he must be home as caretaker that is one thing....but if it's just for emotional shoulder - then I doubt it.
armywife and sweet latina have the best info. there are other options than a discharge - moving them to him and getting them on insurance is probably the best answer...
2006-08-31 18:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should see his Commanding officer about possible options. Since he's in already, He may get his pay changed to send some money home. A transfer or some sort of emergency leave is possible as well. As for a discharge? With manpower short as it is, it will be tough to do. Not immpossible I guess?
2006-08-31 17:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by lana_sands 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him out of the military and do what...a shoulder to lean on won't pay the bills, put food on the table, or a roof over their head...their are other options than getting him out...he can add his mother as a dependent...and she will go where ever he goes...he will receive housing...she will receive medical and life insurance...he can even add the grand mother and extra pay for the dependent...how bout that? the military is not going to let him out just because his family needs emotional support and he can provide financial support in the military...
2006-08-31 17:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_latina830 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He may be able to get out on a hardship. Just hope he has a good job where he is going. He also needs to understand that no benefits, bonus's or anything else comes with him. Why doesn't the mother the speak English? She may want to learn real quick like. Is she an illegal?
2006-08-31 17:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be your Friends decision, not yours.. You need to stay out of his business....
But if he feels it is a hardship, he can request a discharge based on that. He will be required to prove the hardship though. Just because mom doesn't speak english is not necessarily a hardship.
He will need to prove that he can provide the things needed, I.E. money, support etc.
2006-08-31 19:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Chief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! He would have to talk to his Commanding Officer and 1st Sgt and seek their guidance in the matter and if approved, he would then have to fill out paperwork for a Hardship Discharge which would be under Honorable conditions. I don't know how long this would take.
2006-08-31 17:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Vagabond5879 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is in a War Zone then Yes he can come Home. But he will still have to finish his enlistment on a Base here in the States.
2006-08-31 19:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the Military does help soldiers in this situation -- and the Grandma and Mother CAN become his Dependents -- and he can get help WHILE STILL IN THE SERVICE!!!!!!
2006-08-31 19:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be almost impossible. He could try and request a compassionate reassignment to get as close as he can to his family. He could also claim his mother and grandmother as legal dependents. Then he could move them to where he is. I am sorry to hear about his situation. He will have to discuss it with his chain of command.
2006-08-31 17:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by armywifetp 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋