Have you ever been loved back...?

Question

I wonder how it feels, being a nice guy I always finish last and never get the girl, I've fallen in love deeply, but I always get the let's be friends crap, so I go out with girls that I just.like. Please tell me if you've been more lucky than I have or not, please state your age, I'm 28 by the way

Answer 1

I'm 45 and I have been in love twice and loved back & have been married to both of them. My first husband was my high school sweetheart. We went to different schools but met while we were both in school so I guess that counts. We never had anything in common but he was, like you say you are, a nice guy and that is why I liked him. He also hated being called that. I even dropped out of HS to be with him since he was a year older than I was. We were together for 6 years b4 we married then I left him after 3 yrs of marriage because of his drinking. I would have eventually ended up leaving him anyway because we really had nothing in common at least not enough to keep us together forever, even though we still loved each other when I left him, I had to go. I hurt him but not as bad as his drinking was hurting me and he knew it.

I met the man of my dreams one month after I left my 1st husband and he was totally different from anyone I ever thought I would have gone for before. Totally not my type! I decided to go out with him anyway and found him not only to be another nice guy but also that we had everything in common.

Well that was 20 years ago next month and we have been happily married ever since. If I hadn't decided to take a chance on him I would have missed out on what turned out to be my soul mate. Sometimes we get blinded by who we think we should be going out with whether if be because of looks, jobs or education and miss out on what is really important. The person.

Maybe that is all you need to do also, just try dating a different type of girl than you usually go for. If couldn't hurt and it sure worked out for me!

Good luck and there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy. As I said, I married 2 of them and while one of them didn't work out, I wouldn't take it back for anything in the world. There is nothing like mutual love and you will find it just be patient, she's out there just waiting for you.

Answer 2

I used to feel the same way towards the quote "The nice guy" I had plenty of guy friends. Guys that i wasn't attracted to and didn't want a serious relationship with.
I feel sometimes women need to go through a little more. Before they realize that things their looking for in a man are superficial.
The other strike against you, is the nice guy pretend to be's. They really mess things up. The pretend to be one of the good guys. That's their play to win women over. Once they have them there true colors come out.
I'm not saying you have to wait for some disfunctional, baggage caring chick comes along. Be yourself. Be honest. And it will happen for you.
From a truly good guy new girlfriend

Answer 3

Well let me tell you ..yes I have been loved but always to their definition of love ..not mine. I could tell you my stories but where does one start? I am the girl who gets told lets just be friends ..I wonder why whats wrong with me ..is it because I'm not the barbie doll image? I have been told by one that I was to good for him..go figure and I told him I loved him!! His loss my hurt. Then there is one who just happened to notice me and we hit it off on our first date only to have others step in our paths we found our way back and yes we are together it has been almost 6 months, I am glad I gave the odd man out a chance and that he gave me a chance. He is 36 and I am 40.
There is hope for you and if you feel like trusting me she is not to far off or it may be you have over looked her ..she might not be perfect but she likes you and would like more from you then friendship....lets just say I have hunch....

Answer 4

Try a new look,maybe you are not giving off a sexxy attitude and girls find you friend material not date material.I have many male friends that like me(and want to date) but I am not attracted mostly because of there lack of self confidence which shoes in how they dress and act.My current boyfriend is the quiet type and my guy friends are loud.Depends on each girl what attracts her.Study what the girls like and go after the ones that would appreciate who you are.

Answer 5

I am in the same boat as you but on the other end. I am a girl that always gets told, hey i like you but your more of a friend to me than anything else. All i can say is keep trying, someone one day will see how special you are.

Answer 6

Hi, I'm 19 and I for the first time fell in love with a guy that was 27 yrs,older. He said he loved me too, but later I found out he wasn't in love with me. He wanted someone older who could be with him and his girls, So this is a warning, Be careful what you wish for. I still am trying to get over him though. But it's been killing me that I let my guard down. So be careful. At least you haven't suffered a heartache. Trust me, it's not that easy to cure a heart ache

Answer 7

I'm 24 and no i don't think anyone has ever really love me back i get guy who care for me a lot but that's about it. this no love thing happens to the best of people just have to looking or in my case keep waiting

Answer 8

let just say between 13-15 been in love truely once. i realized i was in love too late.basicaly to make a story s5hort i was freinds with this guy witch includes trutsing him. and he changed so i realized i was in love with the person he was not the person he is now. i wish i could fall in love with someone and have them love me back but i havn't been that lucky yet.

Answer 9

I don't get it how all these men say they are "nice guys" and that they can't find love, you all must be stranded on the same island, because that's all women want is for someone to love them and respect them, and .....be nice. I've been loved and I've loved and it's the best thing ever! Get some soon please.

Answer 10

i am 23 f i neverbe in a good relaship i wood like to find one that dose not say let be frinds crap it wood be nice to come home to some one to hold my email is [e-mail]