parents is this normal???

Question

ok im a 13 year old girl who lives with my parents wich are in there 40's . my mom all the time tells me im a ungratefull little brat and some times she calls me a ***** no joke i mean she take s care of me very well and stuff but i feel like i dont have a father figure at all my father does not spend time with me he doesnt like to watch me when mom goes to see my step brother he never does fun stuff with me at all i feel as if im not loved ! my mom also told me one time i was worthless and some time i ussally get good hard face slaps at least 3 times a week one time i had a welt on my face . i know at the age that i am i can be a handfull for my parents but i dont feel as if i deserve this at all what do u think please nice answers . and i know i should talk to my parents but i find this hard to do for i feel i may get hit agian are just yelled at !! i know they wont under stand

Answer 1

This is not normal nor acceptable behavior on your parents part. No matter what kind of kid you may be, they should not call you names or leave welts on you. They should also spend time with you and most importantly, show you love. It sounds like your parents were old enough to know what they were doing when they chose to have you and should start acting more responsible and loving. I am so sorry you have to live through this. Just keep in mind that you are special and nothing someone else does can bring you down unless you allow it.

Answer 2

I feel terrible for you.

When I was your age my mom was an alcoholic and she never wanted to do anything with me. Of course because I never had any adult supervision I did what ever I wanted and for that the rest of my family blamed me for my moms drinking problem. I mean I was only a kid.

My father died when I was five and so I never had a father figure either. I felt like I was all alone. I can remember begging my mom to quit drinking and she never would. I felt like she didn't care about me.

You are very young and in a tough situation. The only thing you can do is try to talk to her. If she won't listen you have to talk to someone. Have you tried a school counciler? What about a family member?

I just feel so terrible for you because I know what you are going through. In the end for me I couldn't ever do anything about it. I just stuck it out until I turned 16 then got emancipated...Which is where the court/judge says you are an adult and you are free from your parents. You have to prove to the judge you are responsible by having a job and all that good stuff. But that is what I had to do and to this day my family still blames me for everything. SOme people just never change.

Answer 3

I would talk with your school guidance counselor. You are at an age where you are able to speak and share your feelings. If the problem presists maybe your g.c. can refer you family to an agency for help. At your age your parents should not be using physical. In most places slapping the face is illegal form of punishment.
P.S. Every child on earth serves a purpose. Don't let into your parents, God put you here and your life is priceless, not worthless.

Answer 4

well hun if ur father doesnt spend any time with u its maybe bc hes workin and he is busy doing things for the familly. its really wrong for ur mother to be calling u thouse kind of names maybe u should talk to her and tell her that she really hurts ur feelings when she yelles at u calls u names and if u get another slap out of that thats okay at least u told her how u feel u get slaps all the time so that one more wont hurt. Or just get away from them go to ur room so when they realize why u not with them thell ask u wants wrong and then u let them know

Answer 5

Honey I know how it feels I was beat as a child and my mom told me so many times how I was ugly and worthless. My mom was 40 yrs older than me so there is a HUGE gap. About your father are you the only girl? Its hard for a dad to see his lil girl go into teen hood and might not know how to approach you so approach him ask him to take you to the park to go out to dinner or whatever interest you or even to the movies. Please let us know how it goes. TRY talking to your parents or another adult your close to who may be the bridge between you and your parents

Answer 6

it is hard to know if this is a reach out from you, and if this is, i am sorry that this is happening. obviously you need to talk to someone about this. i hope you learn a few things from this, first, to not raise your children in the same way. you did not ask to be brought into this world, and your parents must respect you in the same manner, regardless of how you act out or not. they are there to prepare you for your future and to guide you and teach you to do better than they did. i have a 4 year old and when i see parents in public that treat their children with no respect, it really discourages me. i am not saying that parents should let kids run all over them, but there are always 2 sides to every story..

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but your parents have issues they take out on you. Should you do what your mom says...Sure. but your mom needs to see that you are getiing to be independent, you have a maturing mind of your own..
I would not do anything to "strike out at them" I would confide in your counselor at school. You are being abused physically mentally and verbally. I never slapped my kids.
Your mom has you dumped in her lap no one but her to raise you. you do need to understand that, be cool to her but discuss this slapping and name calling and tell her you are tired of it and you two need to get along...if that fails you have laid the grounds for talking with a counselor. You should do that regardless. You need a friend who is an adult who understands your problem. Good Luck little lady, just by posting here you want it to end and are trying....Now go get the help on your own....no one is going to help you.

Answer 8

For a week try and do everything you know your Mom wants you to do before she asks/tells you to do it. See how she reacts.

For your father, give him a greeting card telling him how much you love him and want to do stuff with him. See if that prompts him to spend some time with you.

Answer 9

baby girl that is really not normal, your mother sounds frustrated and is taking it out on you. Do you have a grandmother or aunt or a close relative that you could talk to, to get through to her for you. How about a counsellor at your school?

Answer 10

they obvisly don't care much about you you shouldn't be getting hit thats not cool you can call the police or you can even go to0 a shelter I don't know your in a hard situation but you need to get help because its not good for your life.