I've been on other dates and no one seems good enough. I feel silly because I am 40 and should not feel this down.
2006-08-31 09:45:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to break it to you, but there are some people in this world you may never forget. Somewhere, sometime, 10 or 20 years from now, you'll hear a song, smell a cologne, go to a spot that will totally remind you of him. But don't worry. Things get easier over time.
If this was a long tern relationship (over 1 year) it will take longer to get over him. But you will get over him.
No one seems good enough at this time because you still compare them to this man. I personally think that it is too soon to date as your are obviously not over this man.
You can be 20, 40, or 60. It will not matter, as you still hurt the same.
Make new friends, keep yourself busy, learn a new hobbie. (I took up dancing when i had a rough break up 16 years ago).
BTW, every once in a while I still will google an ex just to see how her life turned out (no results, unfortunately). I have definitely gotten over this woman, but have still not forgotten her.
Best of luck.
2006-08-31 10:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on who you are,better yourself learn something new and just forget about dating for awhile and eventually you will like yourself and new interests even more and someone will see this and be attracted to the new confident you that only you can bring out.Trust me,I am now 38 and I spent years liking my independence and a year ago my neighbor and I got together and love is back in my life.BTW he is even cuter then the one that got away and a 28 year old hotty and when I think of my ex,I laugh out loud and think ewww,what were you thinking girlfriend.Life gets better as you get older!6 months you will be happy again.
2006-08-31 09:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Pitdog1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 1/2 months isn't that long! And who's to say how "down" you should feel... everyone gets over things at a different level.
That said, now would be a good time to go out on dates with nothing in mind other than having fun. Don't size everyone up as a potential partner at this point, just have a good time and things will unfold naturally.
2006-08-31 09:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you what, it's been 4 years and I still can't seem to find "good enough". The reason is because I don't want to! The best way to get over a relationship is to want to.
Let go when you are ready, and by all means don't expect the next person to be your savior, just a friend.
2006-08-31 09:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 01:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 41 and I still to this day have feelings for my fist love. ( over 20 years ago) I guess what I am saying is this. Sometimes you never really get over someone. You just learn how to deal with it, and some how find a way to go on.
2006-08-31 09:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by sunnydays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unwind, have some beer, get stuck at work, get yourself busy and get yourself away from the places activities that you used to do together or that reminds you of him. a rebound is not always a good idea, some guys have feelings too you know and it would be unfair for him. but most importantly, have a beer! don't worry honey, it really takes time.
2006-08-31 09:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for 7.5 years and it was really hard to forget about him. Honestly it took me 2.5 years to actually get over him. It sucked, but the memories will be there. So just hang on for the ride.
2006-08-31 09:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is still new to you - the feeling of a breakup. Give it 8 months and you should be well on the road to recovery.
Time heals everything.
2006-08-31 09:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up and move the fuc* on grow up he could not have been that damn good to u treat ur self better than ur doing he probally more than likely have moved on and realationship wise 4gotton about u move on sorry to sound mean but u need it are u now a secert stalker?
2006-08-31 09:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋