ok my house got flooded and everything basically got destroyed i was not in a hurrican just my sewage system around my street is messed up well anyways i am on disability and don t have much money besides the money to pay rent and bills so anyways during my time of need family members who seemed close to me did nothing no offer of food or money or even diapers one cousin said she would give my sons some of her sons toys that have nnvere been opened seeing he has so much stuff and she also went on to say a co worker of hers had given her a gift card for a store here to give me and my family which she said this july4th and she s been basically making up things in order to keep me from getting it and now that FEMA cut me a check for almost 6 grand she told my other cousin he just got all that money from FEMA why does he need this little 50$...alot of people in my family are pretty well off i have nurses firefighters and police in my family but i am so angry at them am i wrong to be pissed
2006-08-31 09:44:21 · 15 answers · asked by glass_city_hustla 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Family should pitch in when bad things happen...especially when they live close to you.
As long as you aren't looking for handouts I would say you are justified in being upset with them. I would at the VERY least hook a family member up with some food...have them to dinner and get them some stuff from my pantry. At the very least.
Its tough because it you bring it up to them and call them out, then you sound like you expect it. You rightly should expect help from family, but should not have to ask.
2006-08-31 09:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are people, regardless if they're family or not. The way I see it, if someone is mean to you are not loving - then why would you want them in your life. Cut your loses. Just because they're your 'family' doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with them. If you encounter strangers at the grocery store and they treat you like $hit, you don't invite them over for dinner and drinks, do you? The same goes for 'family'! Make your own family with people who actually love you, support you, and care for you. Just because you were born into this 'group' of people doesn't mean you own them anything. Obviously they don't give a care anyway. Move away and find a new life, with new friends, and a new family.....
2006-08-31 09:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by ossaciP 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First...I am really sorry to hear about all that you have been through. Second...I'm not sure how much good it's going to do you to hold on to the anger that you feel towards your family but I certainly understand why you feel that way. I can tell you what I do when I am hit with a difficult situation and that is to set up a list of priorities that will lead you to getting back to a somewhat normal life. Whatever that means for you but I'm pretty sure that hating (strong word) your family does not belong on that list. Good luck to you and be strong for yourself and your children.
2006-08-31 09:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by myjoy247 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be mad look at your blessing the material possessions can be replaced but family cant Oh damn thats the problem sorry Ok but fo real there's something good here in the mist of the heartache do some soul searchin this to shall pass it is ok to be angry just don't sin -Many blessings to you
2006-08-31 09:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by phoxy phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family SHOULD have your back. but it sounds like my family. my family would probably sell eachother to the highest bidder. i don't know why they all hate eachother so much, and yet they do. i try to stay out of it but what can you do? if i were u i would be pissed off, but the best thing you can do is just move on and get over it. my whole family's spent their whole lives just being pissed at one another and never getting over anything and now they all lead miserable meaningless existences. it doesn't pay to hold on to whatever's pissing you off. by the way, sorry about your house. hope u get to fix it soon.
2006-08-31 10:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Vol_Fan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. My family is the exact same way. My grandmother had a stroke and we are remodeling her bathroom, and not one of my aunts or uncles wanted to pay for it. My dad paid for everything, and they all have good respectable jobs (all are engineers) and they refused to pay for anything. So just ignore them and if they ever need your help, don't give it to them, they don't deserve it because they never helped you when you needed it the most.
2006-08-31 10:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by enchilada 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
FOR Me, it was a secret. I easily have a huge family members with a lot of sisters. they are b-i-t-c-hes. They made it clean that they hate me with how they single me out and boss me around. I did no longer something incorrect, they only pick to have administration over me so they won up against me. this occurs everytime all of them come residing house residing house. i will't stand them anymore and could no longer take their shhhit anymore. And my dad threatened to hit me basically using fact he wanted me to help cook dinner and that i basically necessary to end something rapidly. its the 1st time in an prolonged time hes carried out that yet i became bowled over. i used to think of of the solid issues my family members does yet I got here to the top that they on no account help me, they only question me and order me around and that they insult me continuously. and then my brother is a jerk and an fool.i hate him nevertheless i've got continuously been constructive to him even nevertheless his sisters hated him. i recommend whats a sturdy reason to hate somebody?? they are selfish and that they continuously argue with one yet another yet interior the top im the scapegoat form of ingredient. they ruined my adolescents and that they ruined me. ..grr
2016-09-30 05:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I'd be upset, but don't know if I'd hate them. Frankly, I'd let them know how you felt - let down and alone. It isn't any good to feel the way you do - they need to know, too. However, I don't know your age, but I might also get some renter's/home insurance in case this happens again.
2006-08-31 09:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right to be upset but the sad part is they have no idea what they did. the next time it comes up put them in there place.nip it in the butt. family is the worst but if they get angry they will forgive you eventually. let them have it. i feel your pain.
2006-08-31 09:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my family's like that to it sucks. YOU HAVE every right to be mad. I just don't talk to ANY of my family because they are like that they all have $ and are selfish and greedy. I in fact would not drink water from them if i was dying.
2006-08-31 10:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋