I made contact with a guy online that mentioned having 3 sons. I didn't think alot about it because he is in his upper 50's and presumed they were grown or in their teens. Most of the guys I meet have older or grown children, not a big deal as I have a teenager myself. However after talking with him , I find out the children (all boys are under 6 years old, all of them) He has full custody of them, as I am not sure of the situation of why his wife doens't have them. He says they are a priortiy and take up all his free time. I am not really interested in a man with that many small children as I have no desire to go from one child to a house full of young children. If I had another child, I would like it to be mine, not a ready made family of 3 kids. He is interested in me and keeps emailing, but I am just no longer interested now that I know the facts but I don't want to be rude but I don't see this is a situation I want to get into. What shoud I say to him?
2006-08-31 09:19:35 · 22 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be honest with him. No one can fault you for not wanting to mother three small children after you have your own child practically raised. The children are a priority in HIS life, as they should be, you have raised yours and are now ready to be in a relationship where a man can devote more time to YOU. There is nothing wrong with that!
2006-08-31 09:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest ASAP! tell him that you like him as a person but the ocmmitment of having small children around again isn't something you want for your life at this point you are at. is being friends still an option? if so you may want to try that, because since you liked him before the kids things in your life may change your mind or his situtation could change... you never know. But whatever your decision is be honest with this guy SOON!! he is an adult and should understand your position at this time.
Good Luck
2006-08-31 09:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think you're making a mistake by not taking a chance and meeting the guy. He might just have everything you want in a man, and you have nothing to lose by meeting him once or twice to find out. I think it's ridiculous to reject someone for artificial criteria when you haven't met them--after all, you yourself are always complaining that guys reject you for some reason or other and how unfair that is when they haven't even met you and given you a chance to show what you're really like. That said, if you have to reject him, just write back and say, "I'm really sorry, you seem like a nice guy, but I'm just not interested."
2006-08-31 23:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you honestly could desire to rfile each and every thing in some form of calendar only such as you probably did right here. as quickly as you have adequate on her you could take her to courtroom for contempt. She is meant to allow you to make up some time while you at the instant can't maintain the scheduled parenting time. She additionally isn't allowed to maintain you from talking on your babies on the telephone. All it is parental allienation. finally you're able to desire to win back custody of your babies. you rather could have fought a touch greater sturdy, her moving with out your consent or the courts consent grew to become into contempt to boot.
2016-10-01 03:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by riedel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell him the truth. Exactly what you wrote in your question. Just explain that you don't think it would work because you don't have a desire to have three small children. If his children are really a priority to him he will understand and appreciate your honesty.
2006-08-31 09:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by walkingdisastr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by telling him the truth,
You've done the little kid thing, and are ready for something Else..
That's not a bad thing, and it sounds like you haven't even met each other.
Don't beet around the bush, hes a man and sounds like he knows what he wants.
I think it might be different if you had met in person..
Don't worry...
It'll get a whole lot better...
2006-08-31 09:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by girlscanfishtoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this is not working out for me, I have no children of my own, and wish not to start a serious relationship with someone with children. ( Plain & Simple )
2006-08-31 09:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by 520 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS WE HISPANIC SAY SOMETIMES DON'T LIKE HIM FOR WHAT HE HAS LIKE HIM FOR WHAT HE IS, AND 3 CHILDREN ARE UNDER 6 THAT'S A GREAT START, THEY WILL START CALLING YOU MOMMY AND MAYBE THEY NEED A MOTHER WHO CAN HELP OUT IF THIS GUY LIKES YOU AND YOU REALLY LIKE HIM BUT YOU FINDING OUT HE HAS 3 KIDS THAN YOUR WRONG GIRL YOU NEED TO DO WHAT YOU THINK YOU GOTTA DO BUENA SUERTE/GOOD LUCK
2006-08-31 09:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by pldjrftb@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just block his email. You don't owe him any explanation. I'm sure you're not the first or only woman he's corresponding with over the internet.
2006-08-31 09:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front with the guy. Just tell him your not interested. What's so hard about that.
2006-08-31 09:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋