How long should you wait to get into another relationship if your man left you?

Question

My man left me about a month ago. We have three beautiful children and one on the way. he just toally left and hasn't called or seen his kids since he left. I know he is alive, I have been in touch with his family. I want to move on but, I am not over the shock of it all. I just hate being alone. How long should I wait? We were together for 11yrs.

Answer 1

my first instinct is to say to have a good f**k with someone else to get him out of your system, but that may not be the healthy way of doing it

Answer 2

Nobody can tell you how long you should wait. That is something you feel when you are ready. Once you are over the past relationship, how ever long or short that may be, it will then be the right time. If you get into a relationship with left over feelings and resentment, a new relationship will not be able to grow the way it should. Good luck. And pleeeease dont take that man back. It is horrible what he has done to you.

Answer 3

well, most psychologists say that you should take the time you spent together, cut it in half, and that's how long it will take you to really be over the guy. so that would be 5 1/2 years for you. although i do think that is a LOT of time, I think that the best approach would be about a year or so after the baby on it's way arrives.

Answer 4

You are the only person who can answer that. You can either look for a rebound or just go have fun see what the world has to offer u! Take ur time if u think ur not ready! But only u can make this decision!

Answer 5

who cares if yall have been together for 11 yrs. if he is willing to turn his back from all that then that's his problem. u have 3 godbless children and that is what you should focus on, especially on the new one coming in. I think you should wait until you feel better about the whole thing, and then move on because if you dont you are still going to be thinking about him. you are not alone you have 3 about to be 4 kids who need you to take care of them and be a mother to them. if you are still to shock to do it for yourself then do it for your kids.

Answer 6

When the time is right. Personally, you need to be focusing on your children. That should be your main priority right now. You said that you don't want to be alone. You won't be alone, you have your children. 11 yrs--- and you put this man first in your life. Based on your post it seems like he never asked you to marry him. He was just playing house. IMO - Good Riddance!!!

Answer 7

Wow its going to be a while to get over him. Cause have 3 kids for him. Your heart have to be strong for the kids and you shouldnt worry about getting into a realtionship right now. You should get your body back in shape after having the baby, then start dating so you will be hot!! Then hopefully he see you and you can diss him right back.

Answer 8

You should wait as long as you see fit. You don't have to go looking for Mr Right, just look for Mr. Right Now! It varies from person to person. I can imagine you still being in shock though. that would be really tough.

Answer 9

You should wait a minimum of 6 months, it really should be like a year or so, but at least 6 months.

Answer 10

if you have a baby on the way you should probably wait until after its born, other then that my advice is that you just have wait until you know your over him, and don't worry about being alone just have fun with the freedom and treat youself to something nice you deserve something that will make you happy.