Why don't I notice when guys are interested in me?

Question

My fiance died a year and a half ago, and I haven't been in a relationship since, until recently, I had a 1 1/2 month fling. It was fun, and it felt good to get back out there. Before that, I've just been going on with my life, and not paying attention to guys. I've noticed my kids asking me why some guy is staring at us. Before, I just passed it off, and said they were watching traffic, or looking for someone, or something like that. But recently, I've actually been looking to see who they were talking about, and it turns out to be a really hot guy every time...Staring at me and smiling. But they never come up to me.

Answer 1

First of all, my sincere condolences to you. I am sorry for your loss. I am a widow for going on 5 years, and I understand what you're going through. Stay strong.

The reason you didn't notice men looking at you or who were interested in you, is because after the death of your fiancee, you were still in mourning and not ready to move on. That's a natural thing. It usually takes 18 months to two years after a death of a loved one/partner to get back in the game (sometimes more). You just weren't ready or receptive to other men's attention to you until recently. That's OK. Every person needs to get through this terrible time in their own way and in their own time table.

As to why these men are not approaching you, they might just be shy. Next time you see a man staring at you, then please smile back at them. It works. and soon you will have men approaching you for a conversation.

Good luck. May God Bless you. I wish all good things for you.

Answer 2

i often wonder why i don't turn and run when a guy is interested in me I should no better by now