and "accidentally" set something in the house ablaze while you were not home. Aside from the smell, missing item and scorch mark there was no damage. The event already scared the hell out of the kid but what punishment would you extoll if any?
2006-08-31 09:03:35 · 22 answers · asked by Go! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I'm sure he's probably learned his lesson if you say it scared the hell out of him. But if you believe that he has not learned his lesson, talk to you local fire department. Ask them if you would be able to have one of the fire fighters talk to your son about the consequences of messing with fire. And I know this might sound harsh but, if he were a bit older you could take him to a hospital with a burn unit. Some children will not take it seriously until they see an actual result due to messing with fire.
2006-08-31 09:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by jo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it really scared him, then he probably learned his lesson. Just give him a lecture on the dangers of fire and that's probably going to be enough. I think all children at some point have a fascination with fire, so I doubt this is anything serious.
In my opinion unless he has done this before, taking him to a psychiatrist will only make him feel like there is something wrong with him. A lot of people these days automatically assume that because you've done something like playing with fire a couple of times that automatically you are a pyromaniac, and that is just silly.
Who knows, maybe because of this little interest he will grow up to be a fireman. In the mean time, you might want to keep matches and lighters away from him when he is alone until he gets a little older.
2006-08-31 16:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Quin S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really good with punishments because I have no kids of my own but I do know that if he already has this passion then he'll have it forever. Some people are facinated with it. My husband was in a similiar situation when he was young and he's 25 now. He loves fireworks and everything to do with fire. It will never end. I wish I could help more.
2006-08-31 16:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amber S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off.....what would a 10 yo be doing home alone?!
He would have to replace whatever got burnt up.
We would call a fire station and he would go there to talk with the fire fighters. We might explore if there was a way he could volunteer at the firehouse.....cleaning up for the firefighters or something? We might also try to get him to meet a pyrotechnician.
He would probably lose a lot of privledges at home.
2006-09-01 13:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fire department just gave my daughter a lesson on playing with matches. How it could burn our house down, and could burn her skin/body.
I have just answered another one of your concerns regarding your son. It sounds like he may still need extra supervision. I would recomend seeing what afterschool programs are available. Ushually they will have a sliding fee scale for those who cant afford full price.
As far as a punishment, I would sit your son down and come up with ideas as to what would be a fair punishment.
Some ideas would be extra house work, finding some jobs that would help him pay to replace what was ruined, talking with his teacher at school about doing an extra project about fire and why he shouldn't play with it and presenting it to his class.
Good Luck
2006-08-31 16:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all there is a physcological illness called Pyromania where people have an obcession with fire and find an urge to set random things on fire or make fire or w.e...like an addiction but not to drugs to fire....its an actual mental illness- the problem usually arises in early childhood.Pyromaniacs are known to set fires when in rage or uspet.So maybe you should go to mental or physcological hospital and have doctors see if your child suffers from this illness. However pyromania is very rare so chance are he just finds fire cool and is not ill. In that case do some research online and find several true incidents that have occured to children or families due to fire and fire hazards...this will one scare you kid and show him the dangers of playing with fire....good luck
2006-08-31 16:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So he is 10..likes to be naked...sets fire to stuff. Does this really sound like a boy ready to be left at home? Naked isn't a problem but not good when combined with fire. Don't leave him alone at home. Make him pay for all repairs and ground him for 3 months
2006-09-01 06:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is a 10 year old doing home by himself? And what are you doing leaving matches where he can get them? Anyway, as for punishment--no tv for a week and grounded to his room for 3 days only coming out to use the bathroom and to eat.
2006-08-31 16:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ground him for a few days so he thinks about what happened, then talk with him about what he did and explain to him why we don't play with fire. You could show him pics of people and houses burned to drive the point home if he really needs it.
2006-08-31 16:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by el_camuyano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most boys like to play with fire. After a stern grounding spend some time with him and have a bonfire/leaf fire. Also something that my mom said and worked for our brother...(and me and my sis learned it well too although we had no interests in fire) "Kids who play with fire wet the bed" I dunno why but me and sis got scared enuf that we didn't want anything to fire. But brother stopped as well. lol kids are gullible so maybe that might be what you need. Doesn'thurt to try.
2006-09-01 06:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋