question for lesbians....?

Question

hey! okay here is my question. i am 20 years old and bicurious. i am kinda seeing this girl and she wants to have sex. i kinda feel awkward talking about this stuff to her right now, so i figure some of u could help me out on here. so...does she mean fingering, a strap on, oral? im lost. what exactly do u do? and if she does something to me do i do it back to her? sorry if this sounds immature, i am just so inexperienced at this.

Answer 1

first of all don't do anything you're not comfortable with. its not worth it even if you're curious. second of all, be honest with her and let her take lead. sex with another female is based on the likes of the individival. some use strap on and don't perform oral at all. some only do oral and some do it all. ask her and see how yall feel about it. i hope it works out for ya. let me know, i'm curious. my first experience was like magic. we talked and after a while i knew i was ready for it. it was great.

Answer 2

Hey...it's not immature. Don't see it so mechanically, I had a woman lover for quite sometime and my first sexual experience with her was quite unexpected and a first for me. I was nervous and like you I didn't know how to go about making love to her. You don't need a strap on. Use your hands to touch her sensuously and your fingers...and if you feel confident enough, have oral with her. My experience with a woman was far more beautiful and passionate then love making with a man ever was. Just let it come naturally, do what makes you feel comfortable and I promise you won't regret the experience. I never did, hence the fact I converted from a straight to a gay. Woman are generally the more passionate of a heterosexual relationship than the man, now imagine the sexual energy between two women? Don't be afraid, be excited and let your ecstasy guide you through. Spontaneous encounters are unforgettable, and that's not saying jump into bed with every women that comes your way, it's that one encounter that can change your life forever.

Answer 3

not a lesbian but i do like girls lesys or not and it could mean all the above. curiosity is a good thing. knowing that people sometimes do bad stuff is a good thing to take into consideration, you know like how well do you know this person, who is setting up the surounding circumstances. Being innocent is not a bad thing. wish i was innocent. i think a person should be innocent as long as they can cuz once it's gone there is no going back, and knowing lots of stuff is not all it seems to be---it's way more and not all of it fun, sometimes knowing lotsa stuff keeps you from sleeping good the rest of your life. the motto "if it feels good do it" well from experience i can tell you for every action there is a reaction. Ihad two lesy's teach me how to satisfy a woman so most of them know valuable things that feel good but know that being satisfied does not make one a better person, and really knowing about that sucks big time

Answer 4

sex with a girl could mean all of the above. She may only want you to lay there and receive, if she's an A.G. (aggressive girl). if you don't want to let her know how you feel, but still would like to have sex with her go right ahead. Just go with the flow. take your ques from her, and if you don't like something she does tell her right then and there to stop. you will know after the first time if that is a life style you could deal with.

Answer 5

before you have sex be sure to know your partner, sex is a wonderful thing
being with a woman is even better. its not all about fingering , and a strap or even oral it's more than that . If your ready you'll just have to find out for yourself.

Answer 6

it means that she wants you to go down on her, strap on's are more for experianced lovers. it is nerve racking at first, but you get the hang of things after a few minutes. my only suggestion is that maybe you two take a romantic bubble bath or shower together first, it just helps you get used to the smell a little. just be gentle and do to her what you would think would feel good. you've played with yourself before right? just work from that. but this time, just read how she is reacting to what you're doing. clitoral stimuation is great! nibbles on the inner thigh-nice!!

Answer 7

Dont worry yourself about questions on what you should do. Follow your heart and just go with the flow. When the time comes, you should feel comfortable with the person your with, either male or female, and do whats natural. If the person your with makes you feel uncertain, then dont be with that person. Of course, when receiving, you should always reciprocate and give back. Email me if you have any further questiton at [e-mail].

Answer 8

WEll Im a lesbian... My first time having sex with a female i gave her head and she didnt do me... I would say talk about sexy with her in a way like phone sex and tell her what you like and she will tell you what she expects and i would say just make a heated conversation of it... just be like Let's have phone sex and see where that takes you and then you will know what might happen when you have sex for the first time

Answer 9

If you don't know what to do then don't even get involved with that. Why can't you have guy friend not for sex but just have guy friend? Why would you waste your time doing and trying to find your self in that mess. That is nasty and that is not what God created you for. You are a women and that is not normal.

Answer 10

There’s a lot wrapped up in your first time lesbian sexual experience. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal. There’s so much cultural hype about “your first time” and “losing your virginity.” One thing is true, you never do forget your first time. Here’s some tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.

1. Get to know your own body. Before you can even think about turning someone else on, it’s good to know what excites you. Yes, I’m talking about masturbation. Spend some time one-on-one with yourself. As you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, you’ll know where to touch her.

And more importantly, how to tell her what turns you on.
2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you’re sober.

3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. Read up on lesbian safer sex and be prepared to bring the topic up with your partner. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community.

4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? There’s a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it.

5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.

6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Don’t got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.

7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.

8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. That’s okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire