i dont drink and i would like for my wedding to be non alcoholic. many people in my group of friends and family do drink. how would i go about telling them i wont have drinks at my wedding?
2006-08-31 08:33:42 · 39 answers · asked by theskyispink v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
WOW! People are giving you a lot of grief. My goodness. I would definitely not put anything about alcohol on your invitations. It is extremly tacky and your wedding and reception are about you and your fiance' joining your lives in love and marriage....NOT about what kind of beverages you offer during your celebration. Don't worry about the whole alcohol thing. People will have a good time regardless of the type of drink they have in their hand. And for anyone who wouldn't go to a wedding just because it is "dry"...well that shows a lot about their character.... or lack thereof. Good Luck Sweetie and don't worry about booze. They will way more important things to focus your attention on.
Best Wishes
2006-08-31 14:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not put it in the invitations at all. Like so many have said so far, it is not an important thing. Your wedding day is a day to celebrate your union and the joining of two families- not to see who can drink themselves under the table.
Those who choose to stay and celebrate will. If they get offended that there is no alcohol, then they wont stay long. If you feel that you must have alcohol at the reception, I would say limit it to beer and maybe some wine. Otherwise, if you dont want it, I say dont have it- no one will think less of you if you dont have alcohol there!
Just a side note- for my wedding we have FINALLY decided to not have alcohol at the reception, but that evening we are going out as a group and may end up going to some places that serve alcohol. Those who want to join us will have the option of drinking then!
2006-08-31 09:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive been to a lot of wedding that there was no alcohol and no one ever told me befor hand, what the big deal? If your having chicken would you inform all the guest there will be no beef? people's lives should not revolve around alcohol if they do and it matter that much,maybe they need help and dont need to be drinking at your wedding anyway. it's your day , don't worry about what other people are thinking so much. People are supposed to come for the wedding and the celebration--not the drinking, if they are there for the wrong reasons, were they really your friends?
2006-08-31 08:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That info does not go anywhere near the invitation. You can mention it in casual conversation though. But even then it doesn't need to be brought up at all, because if someone is not able to have a good time for an entire day or evening without any alcohol, then they have bigger issues to deal with. I like to drink now and then but I still know how to enjoy myself without alcohol at any type of event. And I would never talk behind someone's back if they chose not to serve alcohol for whatever reason.
2006-08-31 16:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had a non-alcoholic wedding and a lot of people in our family drink. We had rented a facility were there was no drinking aloud not even outside the facility. So, we just didn't say anything but they knew how we felt about drinking so most people knew that we probably weren't going to have a bar or anything. You don't need to add it to your invitation or anything it is not your duty to let them know. If the facility doesn't sell alcohol but there is alcohol aloud just but signs on the door saying no drinking aloud please. Or somthing to that effect. If there is no bar then most people wont' drink. If people ask then you can mention.
2006-08-31 09:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hesitate suggesting you print that in the invitations themselves because it should be about your marriage, not the odds and ends. But if you have a separate sheet with directions etc, that would be a good place to put it. Or the simple wording "dry reception to follow." Word of mouth is going to be your best bet to make sure people "get it."
If you are not going to have any alcohol at all (not even some wine with dinner), try to do something fun with the drinks. Have a selection of non-alcoholic punches available or if it's at a cooler time of the year, what about getting an espresso cart?
The bottom line is that alcohol isn't cheap and it's your wedding so it's your decision. People should be there because they love you, not because it's an occasion to get buzzed... or worse.
2006-08-31 09:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You don't say anything at all. It is really poor etiquette to announce anything regarding this in your invitations ahead of time.
If people directly ask, you then you just let them know that you've decided not to serve alcohol. You don't have to go into your reasons at all.
DO NOT HAVE A CASH BAR, though. That is rude of a host.
The role of the host is to determine what will be served and PAY FOR EVERYTHING BEING SERVED. The role of the guest is to graciously ACCEPT WHAT IS OFFERED BY THE HOST and not whine that their favorite food or drink is not on the menu. That is proper etiquette.
2006-08-31 16:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be absolutely absurd to put something like that in your wedding invitation. Just let them show up and when they get to the reception it won't take them long to figure it out. If you and your fiance don't drink then it isnt far fetched for them to realize that you aren't going to have alcohol at the wedding. Give your guests some credit. Unless they are all just raging alcoholics I highly doubt any of them are going to say anything and if they are tacky enough to say something then I dont see why you would want them at your wedding anyway. This is your day. You are under no obligation to try to please anyone else and you sure as hell don't have to tell them something like that in advance.
2006-08-31 08:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It's a good idea not to have alcohol at a wedding, beyond moral reasons. It's expensive!! The CASH BAR at our reception hall was $21/person. It was insane.
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. In fact, I would only tell people if they ask. If they want alcohol, they can get it afterwards. People don't come to weddings to get drunk. I wouldn't sweat it too much.
2006-08-31 10:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would let them know it is going to be a dry reception... maybe that's because I am Catholic....
Just don't expect people to stick around for the whole thing if the reception food/drink is going to end with the cake.
IMO, I would offer some alcohol. Simple things, a wine, and a beer. That makes you seem like a better host and not cheap..... believe me, even if you intentions are good, a lot of people at the wedding are just going to think that money is the reason you aren't offering alcohol.... not personal reasons.... Sorry....
2006-08-31 08:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋