Why do parents refuse to discipline there kids?

Question

Do they not understand the crime that goes on in the country is partly because of no discipline when they were growing up. If your kids misbehave then the should be disciplined. I was spanked as a kid and i have to stand in the corner, my parnets yelled at me and i am just fine. That is fine if you do not want to spank but at least descipline them. Don't leave up to the cops to arest them when they fu*k up before they learn.Let try to make this world a better place and teach our kids right from worng. Give them discilpline and rules they have to follow.

I care because i might be the one who is shot or robbed by a kid who thinks it is ok because lack of discipline. Also i don't want that kid waiting on me in a store they are always rude.

Answer 1

I don't know and I surely don't understand it. Many kids today are out of control. I'm not afraid to discipline mine and she appreciates it. She can walk through a store or go to a restaurant and tell you when kids are misbehaving. She's only been spanked a couple of times. Usually punishment from her favorite thing works the best. What many people fail to understand is that there IS a difference between spanking and beating. These same people have their nose in everyone's business while their kids run wild. Yet, you spank yours and they'll report you for abuse. I think the "abuse" runs both ways....lack of discipline is also abusive. Kids have to be taught how to respect others and to follow the rules. People who don't respect others, can't possibly respect themselves. Look at the world we live in though. It's a very selfish society. Both parents work just so they can look good. Sometimes, it's to pay bills, but often, it's just so they can have the most "toys". We're in the miltary and I've stayed home to raise our daughter. We don't make alot of money, but you learn to go without all the EXTRAS if you want what's best for your child. Most people can't even go eat or drive without a cell phone attached to their ear now.

If we don't teach our kids right from wrong, who will?? Discipline the kids, even if they get mad at you. They'll appreciate it later when they're grown and have success while others are in jail or total failures.

Answer 2

It's hard work to raise respectful children! It's so much easier to give into the whining, plunk them in front of a video...

My two boys are 19 and 14 (turned 14 today) and they are very polite and well mannered. I raise them to call adults Mr. or Mrs. and when they do, almost every adult corrects them and tells them to call them by their first name.

I remember the one and only tantrum my oldest had in a grocery store. I was loaded up with groceries and he threw himself on the ground and kicked up a storm. I immediately picked him up in the football carry, dropped my cart off at customer service and told them I'd be back in 10 minutes to pay for them, drove home and took him to his room where I grabbed his toys, stuffed animals and games and put them away for a week. When his little brother whined in a store, my oldest hushed him and told him "I tried that when I was little and mom took away all the good stuff for a year!"

I've never had to spank because I'm consistent. If I ground for a week, it's a real week no matter how much easier my own life would be if they could just play video games or watch tv. My husband and I are always on the same page so that helps too.

My sisters are always amazed at how "lucky" I am to have such good kids but it took a LOT of work to get this lucky

Answer 3

1. how is atheism remotely related to discipline, 2. it sounds you're racist and you weren't disciplined either. 3. lots of christians aren't disciplined either. 4. not all atheist parents "refuse" to discipline children. 5. it sounds like he's actually kind of educated for a 10 year old.

Answer 4

yes i agree with you, discipline plays a big role in our childrens attitudes, i was well disciplined at home,and some days you hate your parents for it, but now i realize how good it was ,imagine the things i could have done if i would have been allowed to. But I'm glad that i was raised that way. and I have full plans of raising my kids just the same way, a smack on the bottom never hurt noone, God put the extra padding there for a reason.You don't hit your child-you make sure it is out of love and it is disipline,not satisfying your anger. Because that is abuse. God Bless all those that discipline their children and teach them right from wrong.

Answer 5

There are so many people who ask this question....they are lazy. Why should we care anyway as long as what we know we are doing right. I will spank my kids when I see fit and discipline them always. The thing that people don't seem to understand is the parents who don't discipline...will probably never discipline. That's just the way it is. What is this in reference to anyway? If I only had a dime for every time I've answered this question, I'd be rich!

I am so sick of these stereotypes...no, not every child with out discipline is going to be a murderer. People of religion, military, discipline, no discipline...can be murderers, rapists...etc. Where are you getting your facts from? And what is sitting on the internet b*tching about bad parents doing for anyone. I gave up on that a long time ago.

Answer 6

I'm 14 and my parents disciplined me when I was little and they still do of course and I'm a good person. But my younger siblings (I have 2) get away with literally anything. Why is this?

Answer 7

I got spanked to, and I did not grow up to be an axe murderer, or abuser. My son gets a pop on the butt once in a while. I raise my voice to him if he is not listening to me. I think a lot of parents want so much to be their kids friend that they are afraid that their kids won't like them if they spank them. Parents are not supposed to be their kids friends! You are there to steer them down the right path.

Answer 8

I would say laziness looking from the outside but knowing too many who are like that I would say fear. Not so much of authorities but fear of upsetting their beloved angel. They don't want to make them cry or make them mad. They forget their place in the child's life is to guide them and not to be their best friend. Before everyone gets all mad at that, it is great if you can be friends too but they have (or will have) plenty of friends. A parents number one job should be teaching right from wrong not "please don't get mad at me, forgive me." That is the role of a friend.

Answer 9

i agree parents should discipline their kids i work at a furniture store and parents let their kids run wild up here but to defend parents some of them try their best mine has alot of things going on with him and sometimes does get out of control and its not because of lack of discipline its because he's meds quit working

Answer 10

Too tired after working 2 jobs to pay for the McMansion and the Lexus.

Parents have enough money for bail and lawyers.

Lack of religion in the home - hedonistic attitudes.