My daughter does this and she doesn't have a boyfriend and probably won't get married for 10 years.Is it healthy or pathetic?
2006-08-31 08:30:12 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My best friend and I would "dream" about our weddings when we were young and plan them all out. And when we grew up, we were each others maid of honor. And that's how we planned it.
2006-08-31 23:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Valkyrie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with a twelve year old girl dreaming about having a beautiful wedding day if she has her priorities straight.
Get an education.
Mature.
Get a good job and take it seriously.
Find a mate after she's past the first three priorities.
However, if she spends more time planning a day that should be at least a decade in her future than she does studying, hanging out with friends, doing her chores around home, and spending quality time with her family, then she's off track and needs some meaningful talks with her parents.
2006-08-31 15:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfectly normal, especially if she is what I call a "girly girl." She's probably just discovering boys and all that... so part of her is going to dream about a husband and a family. I personally didn't start "dreaming" about my own wedding until I was in my 20's and I was pretty much the only girl I knew who did NOT have it all planned out sometime in her teenage years.
Given that this is the internet age, if she starts seeming to get overly super obsessed with it, sit with her and look online at dresses, favors, etc. and make sure she sees the prices. That should cool her down a bit.
2006-08-31 16:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every little girl dreams of her wedding day which is perfectly normal. Now if you walk in and she is hosting a meeting with a wedding planner then you may have to worry ;)
What concerns me more that her is you thinking that she is "pathetic" for doing what every little girl does. Nothing your daughter does at 12 should be labeled "pathetic" by her own mother. She is a child. Think about it.
2006-08-31 15:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every little girl dreams of her big wedding day but she does need to realize and eventually will that her plans will change as she gets older. When I was younger my cousin and I thought we had it all figured out we were going to live together with our husbands with really HUGE houses and pools and hot tubs and lots of bedrooms and bathrooms. with really nice cars and jobs. We were going to have really large weddings double weddings to be exact then we grew up and things cost money and reality kicked in. I remember those days but my wedding was perfect. It was large but not expensive. It was perfect. So let your daughter have her dream don't crush it because then she will just be mad at you. She will soon realize that things cost and once she meets her husband to be her taste will change and she will look at the world in a different way.
2006-08-31 16:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The society in which she lives is partly responsible for this, and puberty is also responsible. After all, we give young girls at age 4 and below, dolls to play "mommy" with. What's a baby know about parenting a baby ( doll?)
Your daughter probably has a set of Barbie and Ken dolls. In that set are wedding clothes. You've probably encouraged her "getting Barbie and Ken married" a number of times.
What can you expect with all this influence on relationships.
2006-08-31 15:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal i had everything chosen for my wedding around that age and i wasnt even thinking about the groom. Now that i am getting married i look at the dress i wanted and i laugh because it is sooooo out of style i mean it has long sleeves and the back has beads and a big bow in the back.:) I is VERY normal.
2006-08-31 15:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good to dream but aren't there things that she could be thinking about other than getting married? Shes 12 for goodness sakes. My 12yr old daughter doesn't even think about boys yet.
2006-08-31 15:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyez 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What little girl doesn't dream about her wedding day? We all did it at some point or another. Heck, we even pretended in the back yard as kids. It's perfectly normal.
2006-08-31 16:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its probably normal, but if she is obsessing about it too much I would definitely be trying to redirect her energy. Talk to her about other things like what she wants to do for a career try to get her focused on more practical things. If she has this idea where she is going to do nothing but get married and have this killer wedding she will marry the first loser that comes along.
2006-08-31 15:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's normal. A lot of little girls dream about their wedding day. Don't worry about it.
And I hope she waits longer than 10 years to get married! ;D
2006-08-31 15:33:10 · answer #11 · answered by Toga748 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋