In 2003 I gave birth to twin boys that were born at 28 weeks jamin died at one week, jeriah lived for 7 months this whole time I breast feed my child although i couldnt put him too my breast but i pumped and the doctors fed him through a tube.this is my thing my sister during the time my son was in hospital and after he died my sister and other people wanted my to breast feed my niece.(my sister didnt feel like breast feeding, then she stoped and her milk stop coming in) But I wouldnt do it, it was to hard for me. and when I said no people got mad at me, I thought my sister should breast feed her own daughter. It was too hard for me, I wanted my sons to be the first that breast fed. do you think this is selfish, I was already realy depress after my son died so to breast feed my niece just would made me upset.would have done it?
2006-08-31 08:19:29 · 12 answers · asked by Lori T 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my sister didnt breast feed because was lazy and wanted just to give her daughter the bottle and hand her off to someone else. or just let her hang on to it. My step father is the one that realy got upset when I told him I wouldnt do it, he would say mean things but im used to it from him, his a jerk!
2006-09-01 03:36:40 · update #1
No! I can't believe that your sister and your family would even suggest that! I know that they used to have Wet nurses for babies before they had formula, like if the mother died, or she could not breastfeed, but it is not up to you to feed her child just because she doesn't want to. She can use formula!
Also I am sorry for your loss. My son was born at 29 weeks and we almost lost him, and just on the 11th of this month (1 day after my son turned 2) I lost a baby girl at 21 weeks due to Incompetent Cervex.
2006-08-31 08:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all im very sorry you had to experiance that it must of been very hard, like you i had mine at 28 weeks now she is 6 but that was a very scary time and we were not sure how she would do... in regards to your question if she wanted her kid to be breast feed she should do the work her self , i would never breast feed another child unless it was a life or death sisuation. and in your case thats just crazy to even ask of you in that time of your life..formual is just as good as a lazy mothers milk...not meaning in a bad way i was unable with mine both and pumping was to much work,
2006-08-31 15:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by jaydaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HHHHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLL NNNOOOOOOOOOOOo dont feel bad be mad why would someone ask you to do that after you just lost your own... breast milk is like gold for a baby but she can live without it...dont feel bad at all .....just because your sisters selfish doesnt make you selfish..they should be mad at your sister....if you wanted to thats a whole different story then pumping for her is okay thats still kinda iff though too....
2006-08-31 15:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by JustCurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i want 2 say im sorry 4 ur lost second no u were not being selfish u were greiving and ur sis had those baby. plus thats a good way to bond w ur baby. so dont worry about them being angry, b/c u had a lost and they should have been there more 4 u. if anything u were nice just saying no and not attacking ur sister.
2006-08-31 15:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by pg#3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it as your breast are there to feed your children, not everyone elses. If your sister wanted her child breast fed she should have done it herself. You're not being selfish at all.
2006-08-31 15:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. You body produces the milk naturally after having a child. I would think that if you didn't just have a child, your body won't produce any milk (or at least not enough)
I can't believe people got mad at you for saying no. Tell them to do it themselves (especially if they're men)
2006-08-31 15:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Schmancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't have done it either. Sorry for your loss and I can say that I know how you felt. I lost a child in 1996. Breastfeeding your child is something that bonds you with them and you do for them--it was not your responsibility to do that for anyone else's child. You made the right choice.
2006-08-31 15:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by confused by court order 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell they dont have any feelings for you. Why did she allow her milk to dry up and then wanted you to do her job, it is not fear to you,neither to the child. You where not being selfish at all they were.
Wish you all the best i hope you got over it and is trying to move ahead of those basterds
2006-08-31 15:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to say no. They were wrong in even asking. I wish they did it because they thought it would help you, but since they got mad, they didn't.
Don't feel bad they were the ones in the wrong. Sorry for your losses and I wish you all the best. Take care.
2006-08-31 15:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might have. It just depends. Why wouldn't she nurse? I would be glad to co-nurse or to pump milk if my sister didn't have enough milk, but it would be a little weird if she wasn't nursing.
I don't think she has any right to be mad at you though, because it's your body and your decision.
2006-08-31 15:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋